How can I not be jealous of my friend?!
Question: I have been best friends with her since high school. She always seems to have all the luck. She was the first to have everything- car, new car, boyfriend, get engaged, and now, getting married! Her parents are wonderful and so supportive- I love them to death. She still lives with them and doesn't really have any bills to pay- they even bought her new car. I on the other hand, have struggled with family (my mom was emotionally and physically abusive; dad lives out of state), dated losers, and just feel overwhelmed with what I don't have. Everything just comes so easily to her, I feel like I always have to work twice as hard for what I want. I can't really complain, I do have a good job, make decent $, live on my own by the beach, but still.... I shouldn't compare myself to her, but it is hard not to.
Answers: I have been best friends with her since high school. She always seems to have all the luck. She was the first to have everything- car, new car, boyfriend, get engaged, and now, getting married! Her parents are wonderful and so supportive- I love them to death. She still lives with them and doesn't really have any bills to pay- they even bought her new car. I on the other hand, have struggled with family (my mom was emotionally and physically abusive; dad lives out of state), dated losers, and just feel overwhelmed with what I don't have. Everything just comes so easily to her, I feel like I always have to work twice as hard for what I want. I can't really complain, I do have a good job, make decent $, live on my own by the beach, but still.... I shouldn't compare myself to her, but it is hard not to.
I know just how you feel! i am the same way im always so jelous of people i work so freaking hard every day and do my best but i still feel like i fall short of everything. and some friends or people i work with get everthing handed to them like its nothing i hate it . i guess it will make you a stronger person and at least you appriciate what you have because it took you a while to earn it.
You want to go to Darfur and live there? I bet those people in Sudan/Palestine/Guantanamo Bay all envy your life. Im sure they would switch lives with you in a heart beat even if it meant having an abusive mom, cars and marriage after your best friend.
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by the way, no one's life is perfect. I am sure your friend has some serious issues that affect her (that might not be as serious) as emotionally as yours do.
I REALLY THINK Y0U SH0ULDN'T BE JEAL0US 0F HER AT ALL, I MEAN EVERY0N'ES LIFE IS DIFFERENT, EVERY0NE IN THIS LIFE HAS A PURP0SE, THINGS HAPPEN F0R A REAS0N, AND EVERY0NE HAS T0 G0 THR0UGH UPS AND D0WNS IN LIFE, U SAY SHE'S BEEN Y0UR BEST FRIEND, BT Y0U D0N'T KN0W HER LIFE, HER CHALLENGES, AND DIFFICULTIES, JUST D0N'T W0RRY BOUT WHAT SHE GETS, WHAT SHE HAS, AND W0RRY AB0UT Y0UR LIFE, S0ME DAY Y0U WILL FIND THE RIGHT 0NE, S0 D0N'T STRESS AB0UT ANYTHING, ESPECIALLY D0N'T GET JEAL0US 0F N00N'ES LIFEW, JUST KEEP THAT IN MIND..
HOPE IT HELPED ALRIGHT.
you have a good job.. does she ? you live on ur own by the beach .. she lives with her parents.. u have a decent earning.. does she ? For all you know she must be envyng you for a lot more things which you have no clue about ! You can face life at any given situation unlike her ! You arent married and that means more time to enjoy befr you settle down and more boyfrens.. ! so what if they r losers.. it is just another experience.. Remember you are incomparable and no one can make you feel inferior without your permission !!! Do not permit it , dear !!
It is human nature to feel that way. Look at what you have and be happy. Life is too short to dwell on things. Sounds like you have worked hard and when the time is right everything will fall in place for you too.
You wish things came easier for you.
You wish for some of the things that your friend has, car, new car, boyfriend, engaged and marriage.
I wish I had all those things too. I don't blame you.
I think being jealous can help us look at what we want in our lives. We realize what is missing so we can try to figure out a way to begin to fill our lives with what we want.
I hope your life will become richer and more fulfilling for you.
no your right dont compare yourself to anyone you are working and making good money to support yourself so if her parents and boyfriend done everything for her what has she ever done for herself. just keep on doing what you are doing for yourself then maybe one day you will have everything too and know you done it all yourself will be more satisfying . you can still be penfriends with her if you want. but well done and good luck.