Help with ridiculously low confidence, anyone care?!


Question: i just feel so at a loss. i write of being friends with people just on the way they look, but i don't feel i'm to good for them, i feel they're to good for me. it's really stupid. i am convinced people wont like me, and i'm also convinced people don't when i talk to them. i don't know. i know there isn't really an answer. but, i dunno. any sort of confidence boost. people who can relate. inspiring quotes. stuff like that.


Answers: i just feel so at a loss. i write of being friends with people just on the way they look, but i don't feel i'm to good for them, i feel they're to good for me. it's really stupid. i am convinced people wont like me, and i'm also convinced people don't when i talk to them. i don't know. i know there isn't really an answer. but, i dunno. any sort of confidence boost. people who can relate. inspiring quotes. stuff like that.

Hello,

I feel a lot of the things you are feeling , I even see a psychairtrist, a psychologist and a marriage counsilor and I just feel like I am whining .

Finding your confidence is very hard when you feel so down , helpless and worthless. I wish i could take your pain away for you but I can't. Everyone is afraid that people will not like them, just try to find a special friend who can read you and can reassure you . I hope you can get some help from a professional as they can often point out things about yourself that you cannot see. They also make you feel important for an hour , sometimes that is all i need to turn my day around.

I hope you get lots of nice responses to make you feel better.

Look at yourself in the mirror, really stare for a few minutes. Then point out 10 good things about who you are. They can be physical, emotional, actions etc. Thinking about yourself more positively can be learned. Try doing this everyday. Remind yourself of why you are such a good person.

Just relax, remember they can't eat you.

This is related to a low self-esteem, which is not always "psychological" in nature.

See self esteem/confidence, in section 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and consider volunteering, even from home, at first. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I ..(insert activity here).." Section 47 also refers. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated: there are many options; one is sure to suit you. Practise one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you . Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o at ezy-build also refer. "Even though I sometimes have low self esteem, I deeply and completely accept myself". Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are confident, and outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.

Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. ~~~ 1. Like yourself

The first step in becoming more confident is to accept and like yourself. You should make a list of all your positive traits and strengths on a piece of paper or in your diary. By doing this, you are reminding yourself that you too have praise-worthy qualities like others. You will like yourself and feel confident about yourself after this.

2. Attend Seminars

It is good if you attend seminars where professional speakers offer you tips and guidance on gaining confidence. During the speech, you can even pick up tips on public speaking from the speakers by watching their body language and the way they project themselves.

3. Motivate yourself

Whether it is for an interview or for a presentation, tell yourself that you can do it. Motivate yourself each day and soon you will find your confidence level growing. Another good way for motivation is that after work or study each day you should make a list of at least four things that you did well for that day.

4. Overcome fears

Some people always have a fear that they can never be successful in anything they do. Such insecurity will be a disadvantage and would cause you to lack confidence in yourself and in everything you do in your life. So in order for you to get rid of this fear you have to remind yourself that if you haven



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