My life is falling apart?!


Question: I am a college graduate who was doing pretty well with my job, had great credit, and was fairly independent, but decided to go back to school to get a doctorate. During this time I was in a violent, abusive relationship. School became too much for me, and I left my relationship, and school and decided to try to get back into the workforce. It has been 4 months now, and I haven't been able to find anything. In the meantime I got depressed because I was lonely since my now ex boyfriend isolated me, started drinking a lot and got a dui, so my license is suspended. I also seem to seek my ex boyfriends approval even though he is mean to me. My parents disowned me because of the DUI and leaving school. I'm very poor now, my credit is horrible, and feel completely abandoned. I stopped partying like I was, but I feel like a total loser for the first time in my life. I have no idea which direction to move. I need a job now or I am going to lose everything. Any suggestions would help


Answers: I am a college graduate who was doing pretty well with my job, had great credit, and was fairly independent, but decided to go back to school to get a doctorate. During this time I was in a violent, abusive relationship. School became too much for me, and I left my relationship, and school and decided to try to get back into the workforce. It has been 4 months now, and I haven't been able to find anything. In the meantime I got depressed because I was lonely since my now ex boyfriend isolated me, started drinking a lot and got a dui, so my license is suspended. I also seem to seek my ex boyfriends approval even though he is mean to me. My parents disowned me because of the DUI and leaving school. I'm very poor now, my credit is horrible, and feel completely abandoned. I stopped partying like I was, but I feel like a total loser for the first time in my life. I have no idea which direction to move. I need a job now or I am going to lose everything. Any suggestions would help

Start working to get rid of the debt.

Maybe then you're family will see what a great effort you're making to claw your way back up the ladder. If they don't recognise this, then it's their loss.

I used to go out with guys that were terrible for me, complete opposites and I always wondered "why were they gravitating towards me" and then it dawned on me, that I was staying in these god awful relationships, puting myself in the firing line so to say every day and puting up with all the belittling comments from my ex-bf. Until I kicked him to the curb, and moved on :)

And the great thing too is time is a great healer !!
You need to start thinking baby steps! :)

move in God's direction.
God will NEVER leave you or forsake you no matter what you have done.

oh my.
well u can ONLY go up from here
remeber this

remove the bad ppl in yer life
make new GOOD friends
supportive ones

eventually yer family will see yer improvements and trust u again

small steps
get yer life in order
its easy to fix bills...

get up on time
eat healthy
no drinking
go to bed on time
get schedules

good luck feel free to email me

You just got to pick yourself up. Exs suck I know what you mean. You just got to preoccupy yourself and forget him. I burned all my ex's photos and letters.

And since you asked I will also give you this advice: Dont drink alcohol either its really bad for you.

Hello--have you tried finding a support group? Someone you can talk to? AA meetings are not just for hopeless alcoholics--many people go to them just to find people who understand and that they can talk to. How about a good church-check out a couple and it may be just what you need! Sometimes HE let's us get in too deep just so we look to Him for some help. Have you thought about helping others? Going into a nursing home and visiting with the lonely elderly--getting your mind off your own problems, best way to do so is to help others, and in doing so sometimes your problems become clearer. There are plenty of homeless shelters, abuse shelters, orphanages etc that surely would be happy to see you. Do you read? Ever read anything by Og Mandino? Do you walk or exercise? The complete you is your mind, body and soul--do your best to nourish each everyday. A DUI is not the end of the world, get a bike:) Your parents will get over it with time. Search out "healthy" people to spend your time with, and concentrate on yourself~~you'll bounce back, this is a stepping stone to a stronger you. Count your blessings every day before getting out of bed~there are many who have it much worse than you. You are healthy, you are smart, you have a lot going for you~~things will get better if you believe it and do the footwork! Happy Easter~(what nice thing can you do for someone less fortunate this Easter?)





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