Is fear of sex a disorder, or maybe a generational curse?!
Question: Or maybe just plain FEAR? and CONFUSION?
Sex is all tangled up with what you've been taught to believe and do, plus what you hear and see people doing, plus what you yourself feel is right or wrong or you don't know, plus what you think others will think of you, plus whether or not you like the person, plus whether the person will put you down or will bad-mouth you, plus whether you'll get a bad reputation, plus will you get a disease, or get pregnant or get somebody else pregnant, plus will you lose your self-respect, plus who-knows- what-else....
People can avoid a lot of trouble by waiting to do sex until they are positive they know exactly what they are going to do and why they're doing it. You have to know yourself and what it is you REALLY want. And trust the other person.
Answers: Or maybe just plain FEAR? and CONFUSION?
Sex is all tangled up with what you've been taught to believe and do, plus what you hear and see people doing, plus what you yourself feel is right or wrong or you don't know, plus what you think others will think of you, plus whether or not you like the person, plus whether the person will put you down or will bad-mouth you, plus whether you'll get a bad reputation, plus will you get a disease, or get pregnant or get somebody else pregnant, plus will you lose your self-respect, plus who-knows- what-else....
People can avoid a lot of trouble by waiting to do sex until they are positive they know exactly what they are going to do and why they're doing it. You have to know yourself and what it is you REALLY want. And trust the other person.
it is a phobia!
Genophobia- Fear of sex.
and a link discussing the topic
Americans aren't afraid of sex. They are afraid of those who continue to cheapen sex and use sex in a tasteless way in-order to demoralize society.
Yeah, i think there are also peole who have been abused sexually when they were kids, this will also skew their view of sex and their desire for sex, or, lack there of.
depends on why you are afraid of sex
bad experience? -- then no it's not a mental thing, it's just bad experience
haven't had sex just afraid of it? -- um... well try masturbation once you find a bit pleasure you might change yourmind on sex =)
Actually it's a phobia call genophobia.
That's pretty general though. I'm sure there are several things about sex that people could potentially fear. It could have to do with commitment issues. The fear of the act itself. The fear becoming pregnant. The fear of social consequences (being labeled a slut).
The reason we don't have people screwing like bunnies is because of the society we live in. Our society condones modesty. Sex is almost viewed to be "dirty" somehow. Religions also play a big role label females that have had sex before marriage as "impure". I remember one of my christian friends telling me that he didn't want a girl who wasn't a virgin because something about "damaged good" lol. Lots of stigmas.
I think everyone should view sex for what it. An instinctual drive to make babies and pass genetic code. By using a condom we can all sorts of fun without all the kids/commitment.
Many people associate sex with love and attachment. That's fine, just keep in mind not ever one feels the same way.
there are a lot of factors to consider.
(a) the ever-intrusive media sends mixed signals about love and the definition of love and sex as part of a loving relationship. for example, ideals in chick flicks obviously don't mirror real life, but girls are programmed from an early age to believe that they do. this leads to even more confusion when male-oriented movies like knocked up and superbad completely degrade those ideals...
(b) does life imitate art or does art imitate life? people get insecure when their sex lives or romantic lives don't measure up to everything they see on tv.
(c) more diseases + more casual, indiscriminate sex = higher risk. more casual outlook on "relationships" and "friends with benefits" situations = more suspicion that your partner is not in it for you, just some action.
(d) belief systems. sometimes even if you reject the belief system/religion you grew up with, the "training" lingers... so you might feel afraid or ashamed or disappointed in yourself when you end up having sex. even if you realize that it's normal and healthy.
(e) inexperience. feeling inexperienced in a world where everyone and their twelve-year-olds are getting busy.
(f) drunken hookups versus long-term relationships and the reputations or slack in standards that result.
(g) double standards. lots of guys won't stick around with a girl who doesn't put out, but a girl who puts out too quickly is labeled a slut. the porno industry.