For those who have lost a loved one?!
Question: This is a little embarassing, but my husband, Jack, passed away some years ago. Recently, I've begun to see him in my dreams, and even sometimes when I'm awake. His presence is so soothing and warm, but I'm afraid I might have gone off the deep end. Maybe it's my age (I'm 71 and still going strong!), or maybe it's because my children and grandchildren rarely find the time to visit me. Oh how I miss my Jack... now this old lady has no one to talk to
Answers: This is a little embarassing, but my husband, Jack, passed away some years ago. Recently, I've begun to see him in my dreams, and even sometimes when I'm awake. His presence is so soothing and warm, but I'm afraid I might have gone off the deep end. Maybe it's my age (I'm 71 and still going strong!), or maybe it's because my children and grandchildren rarely find the time to visit me. Oh how I miss my Jack... now this old lady has no one to talk to
Aww...I'm sorry for your loss....:(
Um....I don't know what to say except just to remember you'll get to see him again in heaven one day! So it's not a goodbye forever. <3
If you want, you can email me anytime, I like making new friends.
Maybe you could go out in town and make new friends? I'm sorry your family wont visit you often...
I know i'd be very lonely and sad if no one came to visit me...:(
My dad past away this past summer, so I know how you feel somewhat....I just wasn't as close to him....but I was still very sad and down about it....and I do miss him some..
Wow I'm really sorry that happened to you.
Im 13 and my grandpa died 2 years before i was born, and his wife died 3 days after i was born. my other grandpa died when i was 10 ( he was 86) and his wife died when i was 11 ( she was 86 also ).
( this may sounds a little weird ).. i had a dog that i had known since i was born and she died when i was 10. my piano teacher died when i was 7. and my wonderful fish died when i was 9.
sorry... not trying to get sympothy. I really hope you feel better.
oh,please dont worry!its a gr8 comfort isnt it?im in my 30's and ive dreamed of lost loved ones for years.here is my belief-either u are subconsciously reliving ur fond memories of jack in ur dreams,which is normal and wonderful-enjoy it!or,perhaps jack is on the "other side",and has decided to visit u,his beloved wife,in ur dreams,as a way to say "hello",and to let u know he loves and misses u,too!and thats even better!my firm belief is,u will be reunited with ur dear husband someday.untill then,enjoy these visits-isnt it gr8 to see him again?maybe he knows u havent been visited by ur family lately,so he is visiting to give u love,comfort and encouragement!my advice-enjoy "seeing" him,but find perhaps a volunteer job working with children or pets-u will find lots of companionship/love there.it helped when i lost loved ones.god bless!
your just lonely.....you need to find a friend to talk to...maybe someone your age....when my mom lost my dad....we kept visiting and taking her places...but she told us she needed someone her own age that could relate to her life experiences...good luck to you
I am sorry for your loss. If seeing your husband is not interfering with the quality of your life (it sounds like it isn't such a bad thing for you) then you are just fine.
The people we love never really leave us. Are you still getting up in the morning, caring for yourself, eating properly? If you are you probably have not gone off the deep end.
If you want to see your children and grandchildren I think you should call them and pester them more :) or go and visit them.
Agnes, is it? I've read your two answers and you seem rather hostile about today's youth, yet you've come hear searching for answers from these same people. Maybe you should not pick on them much. I lost my son October before last and the range of things that you go through emotionally are unbelievable!!! I'm sorry for your loss. Nothing that I, nor anybody else, can say will help you except for the fact that you're not alone in your loss. About your kids and grandkids: The only thing I can say is either they are total jerks or you were. My father-in-law is going to be a very lonely person until he dies because he has thought of nobody but himself! The family totally ignores him. I actually told him off!! If you want to be a part of your families lives, do it and do it now. Say you're sorry for whatever you've done. If you feel as though you've been the righteous one, then let them go and find others. Hey! Maybe even here :)
i am so sorry for your loss. my grandma passed away a couple years ago before thanksgiving. everyone at the funeral cried. i really missed her. i talked to her a lot when i got bored or lonely. my family supported me through what happened. you said that your children and grandchildren don't come visit you. well i hope that they will at least give you a call. you said you needed someone to talk to- i talk to my dog now. you could get one if your really lonely and sad and just need some comfort.
I am very sorry for your loss. Don't be embarrassed though it's normal for people to miss their loved ones once they've passed. If you feel lonely you should try and do more things with your family, but you said that they rarely find the time to see you so maybe you can't. You should try though, tell them your lonely and would like to see them. I'm not sure what your interests are but for me I sometimes go to my grandparents house with my parents and brother and we all play poker together =)
Well I guess I'm not really helping you, but i am sorry for you. It must be hard to lose someone you love. Just try and spend more time with your family and friends if you can.
Boy, I would love for my husband to come back. I also would find it soothing and warm. So what if they think your nuts? Are you willing to give up Jack? I wouldn't be able to. By the way, I used to work in hospice and met lots of people that had this. I would not have been willing to force someone to drop these beliefs if it made them feel better. Find others to talk to. Hospice runs bereavement support groups and some of the people had someone who died quite a while ago. I think it also became a social thing for some of the women.