Please help - long question?!
Question: I just got accepted into a rather hard to get into, private university. I'm socially anxious and don't know anyone there; I'm awkward around people and stand a chance of being isolated. My other option is a public university, where I could live in an apartment with my good friend, who could be a buffer and help me socially. What should I do? Do I go to the difficult, somewhat prestigious college, or do I have fun with my friend and take it easy at the other one? I've been out of school for several years, so I might have a tough time at the private one. Then again, I might get more help there by better professors. Sorry this is so long, I'm just really nervous. Thanks for any advice you can give...
Answers: I just got accepted into a rather hard to get into, private university. I'm socially anxious and don't know anyone there; I'm awkward around people and stand a chance of being isolated. My other option is a public university, where I could live in an apartment with my good friend, who could be a buffer and help me socially. What should I do? Do I go to the difficult, somewhat prestigious college, or do I have fun with my friend and take it easy at the other one? I've been out of school for several years, so I might have a tough time at the private one. Then again, I might get more help there by better professors. Sorry this is so long, I'm just really nervous. Thanks for any advice you can give...
go to the private school alone, youll learn so much about yourself. youre gonna be scared either way, and your friend really doesnt need you hanging around when he/she will be nervous too. just go, meet new ppl, its so much easier than it seems. especially in college. have fun, quit worrying!
I say go for the private university. Although you're a bit shy the opportunity is a huge thing and you most likely won't see anyone you meet at the college after you graduate anyways. Don't worry about your awkwardness or anything along those lines and just think about your education. :)
You obviously got into the private university for a reason which means you have A LOT of potential to be successful in life.
Go for it!
hey thats cool man. college is for becoming a new person. try to break new boundaries and go for the private one. sure, teh first couple weeks are gonna be awkward, but as soon as you get involved with some kind of club or activity, youll meet people who share the same interests as you. who knows, you might just find a whole new person in yourself.
The real question is, "Which school will best serve your future?" Social growth can be just as important as educational growth, and it may be that you need a chance to shine on your own, and try a new situation !?!?!
Go with your gut - and if your religious pray about it - you can't beat God for a great answer :)
The great thing about going to a new place is that you can be whoever you need to be. Be yourself and be able to go to a place where there were no expectations or preconceived notions of who or what you should be.
I say good luck and have a great time. See your new friends all week and your old friends on the weekend.
I made the change! I did it at a younger age, but I did it. I moved from Alaska to Nevada (Yes! lol) and changed my whole personality. I stopped being quiet and nervous to being able to function socially. I'm still not an "outgoing" or "loud" person, but I am now capable of speaking to strangers and making new friends.
The way I did it was - I FAKED IT!! lol
I acted confident and friendly, and eventually my poor shy brain got used to it. Now I work in the most social office you could think of and fit right in.
I still feel like I used to sometimes, in certain situations, but overall much much better.
~~before, I never would have told anyone anything like this, even if you all didn't know who I was~~
You won't be isolated at the private university. Remember... almost all new students go there and don't know anyone. Universities know this and they set up orientation so that you start to meet people. There are also lots of student organizations and you will probably have a room mate your first year, also.
Sometimes students feel a little homesick for the first week or so, but you'll be busy and it will soon wear off. You'll be making new friends. I wouldn't limit your future just for a couple of weeks of not knowing anyone.
So I was in the same boat and went to the public school. Now i think it was the wrong choice. I am having fun, but my outlook for potential good jobs is not quite as high. U have to keep in mind your ultimate future. Im sure if you go to the better school things will change. It may take a while but they will be good. Life is full of surprises like this so you mind as well get used to it. Do whats better for your future!