I always worry and stuff?!


Question: i hate school, it always gets me nervous. I have social anxiety, and i always think the next day one of my friends are going to hate me, and stop talking to me then it will be weird when i pass them in the halls, then i will quit school.

I live in Canada, but it's my DREAM to move to New York city. I just want to think i don't need them, who cares if there mad at me? I'll be in a new state and won't have to worry about them anymore in 2 years.(im in grade 10)

Do you think, when im older i will think about how worked up i used to get, but there not here anymore?

sorry if this is confusing..!


Answers: i hate school, it always gets me nervous. I have social anxiety, and i always think the next day one of my friends are going to hate me, and stop talking to me then it will be weird when i pass them in the halls, then i will quit school.

I live in Canada, but it's my DREAM to move to New York city. I just want to think i don't need them, who cares if there mad at me? I'll be in a new state and won't have to worry about them anymore in 2 years.(im in grade 10)

Do you think, when im older i will think about how worked up i used to get, but there not here anymore?

sorry if this is confusing..!

you think way too much. I was similar to you when I was at school. I'm now 29 and have a completely different life to back then. The people that actually care about you will stick around. The one's that don't stick around didn't care in the first place and you don't need those one's. When I was at school I had a fairly big group of friends but had similar worries to you. Now 12 years out of school I still share really fantastic friendships with just three of my friends from school. I really never kept in contact with any of the others after that last day of school. The one's that mattered are still around 12 years later... that's real friends for ya!
Seriously... this little section of your life will really be so, so small and insignificant when you are finished school and are your own person. Don't let these worries interfere with your education because your education is so much more important than friends that might not even be there for you in years to come. Good luck!

atleas your in canada. im totally in a different continent

Dont worry unless you have something to worry about.

when ever you get nervous or start worrying.. take 10 deep breathes. in from nose out frm mouth. drink a glass of water and tell yourself it will be fine. :)

Its' ok. It's natural to worry, but it sounds like you're over anxious. I worry about the same things that you do, but you have to learn to be an optimist. Look on the brighter side. Because if you tell yourself that you're friends are going to leave you over and over again, then they most likely will. If you feel that you need professional help, seek it. I guarantee that there is an advice column or a hotline for you.

NO NO NO DONT QUIT skool cause of ur friends tell em how you feelprobably they will understand if they dont try to meet new friends/ppl but if u QUIT skool you wont have enought money to fly to new york

It's not confusing to me at all... With the current state of the mass media content available to people your age, it's no wonder you feel the way you do... I have four daughters who are now older than you are and I watched each of them go through similiar struggles growing up. My girls range in age from 28 - 15 - I can tell you this, the 28 year old had a LOT less trouble than the 15 year old... It's a sign of the times!

As far as moving to New York goes, if your sensitive to insensitivity, then the Big Apple might not be the best place for you to move. I don't know what part of Canada you are in, but New York is a "Whole 'nother country!!"

Good luck and cheer up...

Hi,

What you describe is common among kids your age. School can be very stressful to some and there are kids that don't make you feel very welcomed.

You're worrying too much about nothing right now. You need to take a deep breath and think positive thoughts. Do you really think that moving to another City or State is going to change how you feel?

Anxiety is not a fun thing and it can really make you feel awful. Talk to a school counselor who can make you change the way you're thinking right now. You just need to recondition your mind to think in a different way.

NYC is a HUGE place and for someone who has your anxiety disorder will only make you feel worse.

Get some therapy and get well first and you'll feel alot better about yourslef and your surroundings.

Good Luck!

Ummm, get a grip on yourself! If you're scared and worried now, how will you ever be able to handle New York, the up and bustling, busy, trafficky NEW YORK?!? It's not the right place for people who worry a lot. Listen to yourself talk- it's ridiculous to worry about things that haven't even happened yet! Why don't you visit the poor or go to China or Africa? They have REAL things to worry about, and you're sitting safe in a nice house with a computer, sympathizing with yourself? You are lucky, you shouldn't worry, look at what other people are going through!!! No wonder why you believe your friends are going to stop talking to you- they probably think you're a nervous cyco! Get help or stop worrying! I don't understand how people with literally nothing to worry about can complain!

It doesnt matter where you go, if you can live one day at a time, one situation at a time and sometimes one minute at a time, you will be in a better place emotionally. Take the worrying about everything out of your mind and you may be really happy where you are.
It helps me to keep focus in the moment, not yesterday, not tomorrow. I hope this helps.

You are having self esteem problems, sweetie.
And any place that you move to, they will always follow you.
Please talk to your school councilor about this.
They are there to help you and you can get over these feelings.
You are so young and the time to start helping yourself is now.
Good luck for a long and wonderful life.

Anxiety is a very common problem. As someone who experiences the thoughts you have mentioned this is my best advice. Try to have mind over matter in those moments, assure yourself "this is not rational thought". We are not mind readers and when experiencing anxiety we tend to believe we are reading other's minds and it is usually the worst case scenario. Also exercising helps depression and anxiety a lot, balances the mind. To answer your question NO when you are older you will most likely not think about how worked up or upset you used to get because you will have moved forward and become a confident woman who believes in herself and is not going to let things like that bring her down! Good luck

Just one thing...

You do NOT want to move to the United States. Trust me.

If its a persistent problem you should consider getting some professional help or talk to your parents about it if you haven't already. Running from your problems never solve them, they will catch up sooner or later. The best thing is to face them.

"We improve ourselves by victories over ourself. There must be contests, and you must win."

You will, and you won't be scared. I know. You'll even laugh about it. But you'll make to New York and you'll be okay.





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