If I am severly depressed,how do I tell my mom?!
Question: Everytime I try to tell her that something is wrong she always says you crazy,you always talk about crazy stuff.Then she'll say leave me alone,you always worry me with that.Everytime she tells me that it makes me want to cry and feel sadder.How do I tell her that I need help?
Answers: Everytime I try to tell her that something is wrong she always says you crazy,you always talk about crazy stuff.Then she'll say leave me alone,you always worry me with that.Everytime she tells me that it makes me want to cry and feel sadder.How do I tell her that I need help?
Hey! I had a LOT of trouble with that myself. I didn't tell my mother straight out.
Instead i went to see a psychologist. They always listen to you and will be able to give you the help that you need. It may be worth your while if you don't worry about trying to tell your mother just now and go see a psychologist. Parents can often be in denial for a while when their son or daughter comes to them and says they are depressed. They often don't understand and don't know how to help. My mother wouldn't accept that i was depressed either so you're not alone.
Seeing a psychologist doesn't make you a mad or crazy person. A lot of people see them for a lot of different reasons - sometimes just to get proper stress management tips if their jobs start getting overwhelming. You are able to talk to them with full knowledge that ANYTHING you say will be kept confidential. They will be able to help you identify and possibly causes for your depression and help you find ways to overcome it. This doesn't necessarily mean that you will be put on medication (some people are very negative about this), they only suggest you go on medication if therapy alone isn't enough to help for the time being. Medication isn't a permanent thing, it isn't addictive and is entirely up to you whether you take it or not.
Also, if you can find somewhere that is government funded or where the psychologist take out 'Mental Health Plans' on their patients, you will save a lot of money. I was able to go to one that was government funded and didn't have to pay anything. Your doctor or student councillor (if you are still at school) will be able to help you make this arrangements for you. Seeing a psychologist is very helpful, they have helped me a lot.
Over time you mother may come to accept that you do have a problem (it took my mother a while). If you want you can get your psychologist to talk to her for you, sometimes an adult to adult conversation is all parents need. They will be able to explain how you are going and what things are like for you - but this is entirely your decision.
In any case, you are NOT crazy just because you have depression. And hopefully in time, your mother will come to realise this and be more open with you. In the meantime, start getting help for yourself before you start worrying about everybody else. Sometimes you just have to do things on your own for a little while. I hope things turn out for the best for you. Good luck. ^ _ ^
You can't. You need to talk to a priest or aunt or someone that your mother trusts. Talk to them about how you feel and that you would like to get some help from a professional. She thinks you are trying to get attention. Maybe you are, but you definitely need to talk to someone.
Your mom sounds like she is unable to handle it. I think you should go ahead and take the step to help yourself by seeing a counseller or somebody who will 'listen' to you and know what to do. Is there any resources in your area? Once you can talk to somebody who WILL listen, they will be able to instruct you how to tell your mom or even might suggest talking to your mom. Sometimes there is free services depending on the area you live in.
I hope this helps and Good Luck!
yes I agree with the first answer
Try to get another adult on your side like a guidance counselor or an relative whom you both trust
And have them talk to her with you
Maybe they can help her see that she is being afraid and avoiding something she doesn't want to deal with.
And that it's better to get you the help you need.
I agree with the poster who said she might not know how to handle it. Many times, it is hard to realize that a young person could have problems.
Who else do you trust in your life? It could be a teacher, the principal, your doctor, a pastor, or another parent of a good friend. You should let that person know how you feel, and you need to be taken seriously.
It sounds to me like you feel ignored by your mom when you let her know how you feel. I don't blame you for feeling sad. Children want to feel safe with their parents. It could be your mom's way of saying that you shouldn't worry, but it's not coming across properly. She might not realize that she isn't helping you feel comfortable, safe, or loved with her answer.
The most important lesson in life is to learn to stand up and advocate for yourself. You can do it, and you are worth it. Hugs to you.
Just to repeat those above, right now it's more important to seek help from a counselor, teacher, priest, etc. Many people such as your mother, perhaps, have trouble accepting depression as a real medical problem. Get help . Good Luck
If you are depressed and you feel like hurting yourself you need to call a help hotline talk with them. If you still feel the same way after talking to them and make sure to let them know mom won't listen. They will want to know what your address is so they can help you. They may want to take to your mom. If so do it!! I mean it. You can't go on feeling like that. Here is two #'s to call 1-800-784-2433 this is suicide line. 1-800-273-8255 this is a talk line. Ya know to have someone who will listen when mom won't. There is a chat online too. www.newhopeonline.org these are people that are counselors or techs. pychirystist. If all else call the hospital and ask for mental health floor talk with a tech. Don't let mom's denial ruin your health. I hope this helps and hugs.
I hate to say this, because it is probably not what you want to hear and it is definitely not what you need to hear - insofar as you are actually seeking help.
Some people cannot grasp the fact that you need more help than they can give. And some people cannot understand the concept of mental help. The easiest and most convenient answer to that is that you are crazy and everyone else is fine. If you hear that, God help you? Please trust me on this one; no aunt, grandma or priest is going to be able to help you and your mom with this concept.
Talk to your school coulselor, let him/her know how you are feeling. Ask if you can talk to a couselor. I am sorry, I don't know how that works as that was not available when I was in school.
Whatever you do, get help. It may not be from your mom, but, you know what, that is ok, as long as you are getting help. She does not understand. That does not make her a bad person; she just does not know what to do.
Do not wait to get the help you need. I wish you the best of luck.
It seems to me that your depression may well be situational, at least in part, and that you are unlikely to produce the desired response the way you are going, so visit your school counselor, and see if your parents can be contacted on your behalf, or if your school has a nurse, a medical appointment could be arranged that way. With depression, there is a choice of possible treatment types which needs to be made, and you can decide to use either allopathy, (modern Western medicine) with its reliance on antidepressants and therapy, or alternative treatments, which I advise trying first. This is because antidepressants are known to increase the rates of suicide, homicide, and aberrent behavio(u)r, particularly with young people, and often have unwanted side effects, such as sexual dysfunction, and/or weight gain. Tests have shown that apart from clinical (major) depression, their results were not significantly superior to those taking a placebo (inert, or "sugar pill"). Antidepressants retain a degree of long term effectiveness for only around 30% of people. There is a saying in the mental health field: "If the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail". So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage their large list of patients, and often allocating only 10 minutes to each. Most of them are only trained to provide antidepressants and referrals for therapy, with those whose depression is resistant to those treatments being advised to have ElectroConvulsive Therapy, (ECT) with its risk of permanent, partial memory loss. Therapy, while often effective at first, becomes "same old, same old" after a while, for many people. I now advise people to: (1.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, (certified free of mercury) with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their freshly squeezed juice. If vitamin E is used, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it's synthetic, avoid it. (2.) Work up slowly to 30 - 60 minutes of exercise, daily. (3.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2.i, or 11, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2.q, 2.o, and section 53. (4.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection). (5.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. (6.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, or a supplement, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55). Most of the above, you can do yourself, starting today. Psychological counselling, with a sliding scale, based on income, is available through many religious organisations, such as Catholic counselling, the Methodist church, and the Unitarian Universalists. You don't have to be a member. Some school counselors make good substitute therapists, when professionally qualified ones are unavailable, for any reason, but many neither have the time, nor wish to take on that extra responsibility, which is understandable.
Tell your mother, that her reaction upsets you for starters.
Tell her that you really are depressed and ask her to take
you to the doctor. Tell her that you love her and you need her
help. If she does not help you than talk to someone else
a friend or relative or someone at school. Or make a doctors
appointment on your own and the doctor will help you.