Should I tell my psychologist???!
Question: I am very shy. I try to avoid doing extracirricular activicties and sports. I don't like talking to people. I don't trust people. I hate music. I hate people touching me. My psychologist asked me why but I told her I don't know. But I have an idea maybe. When I was little I used to play soccer. Whenever i'd miss the ball or something my dad would yell at me. I quit. When I was little I remember I used to like this one stupid song and I told my dad I liked it and he told everybody at this party I liked it. People laughed. I never gave anybody my musical opinions ever again. Once I was playing piano and my dad walked by and I kept messing up. He complained. I told him he could just play instead of me. He punched me in the head. I still play piano but if anybody comes by to listen I refuse to play. When I talk to my dad usually he will say no before I can ask a question or he will yell asking why am I talking to him. You think he is part of my social problem? Should I mention it to doctor
Answers: I am very shy. I try to avoid doing extracirricular activicties and sports. I don't like talking to people. I don't trust people. I hate music. I hate people touching me. My psychologist asked me why but I told her I don't know. But I have an idea maybe. When I was little I used to play soccer. Whenever i'd miss the ball or something my dad would yell at me. I quit. When I was little I remember I used to like this one stupid song and I told my dad I liked it and he told everybody at this party I liked it. People laughed. I never gave anybody my musical opinions ever again. Once I was playing piano and my dad walked by and I kept messing up. He complained. I told him he could just play instead of me. He punched me in the head. I still play piano but if anybody comes by to listen I refuse to play. When I talk to my dad usually he will say no before I can ask a question or he will yell asking why am I talking to him. You think he is part of my social problem? Should I mention it to doctor
I'll be your psychologist for right now lol... Because of constant disaproval you have received in the past from your dad created a feeling of being a failure and never good enough. When people laughed at your oppinion of a song locked that feeling making you feel like it was not just your dad, but everyone who thought that of you. You need to get past that. If what i said was correct then now that you realize whats wrong you can rise above it. Start talking to people, share your opinions, and become active socially. Tho people will reject the "new" you at first, as long as you can approve of yourself others will too eventually. People will at first not know what to think of it, and thats why they will reject you at first. People fear the unknown regardless of what it is.
As far as your dad, the way he acts seems as if he is mentally abusing you. Most parents who abuse their children this way do not know that they are or do not realize the affect it has. If you decide to talk to your dad, do not even mention this forum or the word "abuse". That will make him feel as if you have "rebelled" against him. From the sounds of it he is in his own world. If he has any stress than the reason he doesn't listen is because he does not want any outside negativity affecting him.
Please do NOT assume this is all correct. I only went off of what I read.
it sounds like you are afraid of your father and yes you should tell your psychologist about it. She/he is there to help you but they can't help if you aren't being honest with them.
no its normal for parents to care like that even my parents do that
Yes! I think you should tell your psychologist about this, he/she can't help you properly if you don't answer what their asking truthfully.
Oh and by the way, you should get as far away from your dad as possible and never look back, hes a %$^&*