If i'm struggling and this makes me sad sometimes, do i need meds?!
Question: I'm a single mother of a 7yr old. It has bin a struggle to get where i am and it seems lots of things keep gettin in my way of reachin the goals i have for my kid and i.Things come up and my boss has caught me many times crying (due to stress) at work.She called me into the board room and asked me if i "need to be on any sort of medication?" I was horrified and said no,that i was struggling. I told my fiance what happened later that nite(we don't live together),he ws understanding.I read an e-mail of his where he was flirting with a girl and i got jelous,cried and said i was leaving. He said it was nothing and then he retalliated by telling me that i need medication.He said "don't forget your medication." He has since broke off the engagement and is tryin to convince me that i need meds or therapy,he said even his mom said so.He is 35 and i'm 27.I am struggling,practically poor,quit smoking 3mths ago (i think that's why i'm cryin lots). I don't know what 2 do now and am really embaresd
Answers: I'm a single mother of a 7yr old. It has bin a struggle to get where i am and it seems lots of things keep gettin in my way of reachin the goals i have for my kid and i.Things come up and my boss has caught me many times crying (due to stress) at work.She called me into the board room and asked me if i "need to be on any sort of medication?" I was horrified and said no,that i was struggling. I told my fiance what happened later that nite(we don't live together),he ws understanding.I read an e-mail of his where he was flirting with a girl and i got jelous,cried and said i was leaving. He said it was nothing and then he retalliated by telling me that i need medication.He said "don't forget your medication." He has since broke off the engagement and is tryin to convince me that i need meds or therapy,he said even his mom said so.He is 35 and i'm 27.I am struggling,practically poor,quit smoking 3mths ago (i think that's why i'm cryin lots). I don't know what 2 do now and am really embaresd
i'm sorry your going through the crap your going through right now...I've been there so keep your chin up...unfortunately we live in a society where if something is a little off key someone wants to medicate you because that's all people know..pills are popped so much these days that they have become a natural part of life and they shouldn't be....as for mr.wonderful...my daughter caught her boyfriend doing that on the net and he was history so your well rid of him...mostly he should have at least been more sympathetic to what you are going through so you don't need a guy like that....i don't for sure know what your going through but let your doctor know how your feeling ...you may need an anti-deprissant just to help with your anxiety or depression but don't feel ashamed ....when he told you that his mother thinks you should be on med's,he's probably speaking from experience....i'll bet his mother's medicine cabinet has her happy pills...you are a young mother trying to keep it together for you and your child...it's not easy and if you don't want to take medication then find a councellor to talk to.go to parents without partners or just have your girls around and let them be there for you...and by all means don't let mr.wonderful undermine your confidence again...i hope things get better soon for you and believe me there are other fish in the sea...so take care girl and better times are ahead
Amanda, being a single mother of a 7 year old is a huge responsibility and burden all on its own, without all the rest of the issues you're struggling with. I hear what a good mother you strive to be and how committed you are to your child. Trying to keep all of that going while dealing with a stressful job and a (former) fiance who behaved like an idiot is almost inevitably going to lead to feeling pretty low. I'm impressed you've managed to give up smoking in among all this!!
You don't need medication. You might benefit from good counselling or psychotherapy. You need friends and support. Are there any groups for single mothers in your area? Are there any friends you've lost touch with and could pick up the threads with? Just being around people who know what it's like on your own with a kid is great, a relief; and if it can be people you can talk to, so much the better. Is your workplace one that provides counselling? Go for it, if so.
Just keep reminding yourself how fantastically well you have done to keep as much together as you have. Things WILL get better - but all of us need people who care for us and support us. Focus on that.
Well, there are certain things that a therapist looks for to see if someone needs to be on medication. (I happen to be a therapist.) Have you attempted suicide? Do you think about suicide? Do you have a normal range of emotions? Do you speak in a monotone? Do you have normal facial expressions? Do you have pain due to stress?
People have stress and they handle it in different ways. I would suggest that you practice a stress reducing activity such as yoga or meditation or whatever you need to do to reduce your stress. Don't let people talk you into medication. Take time for yourself and your child. Take an hour a day to practice yoga or take a walk.
You do not need medication. You are struggling right now but everyone goes through this at some point in their life. You don't need the guy you were with he sounds like a real jerk. And every now and then crying is good for you and can be a good destresser. I so think that you should try talking to one of your friends and maybe take a day or two every month just for you. And sice you said you are a little strapped for cash it doesn't have to be anything expensive. Throw some comfy clothes on and go to the park with some P,B&J and a good book, or paint ur nails, make an avacado mask and soak in the tub. Everything will work out in the end. Good Luck!
therapy and meds. i can help get started o nte hright track with some suggestion. hang in there and dont think you wont get better you will
I had an experience where I cried at work in front of a man that was my superior at the young age of 20. At the moment we were sitting in his office, I wasn't sure that I would finish my student teaching practicum because I thought he was going to tell me I was doing a lousy job and started to sob in front of him. I picked up my head only to see that he got great pleasure from my crying and I stopped immediately. From that day forward, I promised my overemotional self that I would never let a man or woman I work for evoke that kind of emotion from me again. Something in me just snapped -
As for the finance --- him using words from a conversation that happened with the boss is just cruel. You can't be so quick to judge with email either - email does not mean he wants or ever will act on anything with another woman. Find out where you are with that relationship and pursue the counseling, especially if he is the guy for you. Sounds like he just might be the one, if more than one person says counseling will help, then you should listen.
I wish you all the best and God Bless You.