My 12 y/o son says he saw my vibrator?!
Question: I am an average mother you puts her son's needs before hers and never leave his side. I have never lived with another man since his father left us 12 years ago. I also don't bring dates home, etc therefore I have always showed him respect and took the best care of him.
Last night my son told me he knew a lot about me & that I keep my vibrator in my bed under my sheets (and started laughing at me out loud). He is only 12 years old and wanting to rule my life by tormenting me & not doing well in school.
This vibrator thing bothers me and I feel that I may have psychologically caused damage to him some how. yes i've told him everything there is to know about sex since he was around 9 y/o.
How can I make things right? What can I say to repair his thoughts of me now. I feel so embarrased that he went through my personal belongings
Answers: I am an average mother you puts her son's needs before hers and never leave his side. I have never lived with another man since his father left us 12 years ago. I also don't bring dates home, etc therefore I have always showed him respect and took the best care of him.
Last night my son told me he knew a lot about me & that I keep my vibrator in my bed under my sheets (and started laughing at me out loud). He is only 12 years old and wanting to rule my life by tormenting me & not doing well in school.
This vibrator thing bothers me and I feel that I may have psychologically caused damage to him some how. yes i've told him everything there is to know about sex since he was around 9 y/o.
How can I make things right? What can I say to repair his thoughts of me now. I feel so embarrased that he went through my personal belongings
You have a big problem. I suspect you've coddled him and he has the run of things in your household. He does not respect you and that will lead to much bigger issues down the road. You can't "repair his thoughts". They and his attitude towards you are the result of you trying to make up for an absent father. That boy needs some serious "towing the line", because I can almost bet his present attitude is only going to be the tip of the iceberg. You can't be his friend, you have to be a tough cookie because when he goes off on his own he'll think it's the same way out there. He will be in for a rude awakening if he thinks the world is full of mommies that he can disrespect. You've got a lot of serious work on your hands and the odds aren't good at all.
uhmmm well.
instead of wanting to 'repair his thoughts of you now'
you should start wanting to make sure he's not gonna be
a pervert when he grows up.
you told him WAY too young....i mean that's like way before
puberty. he was only a kid.
definitely get a porn blocker on the computer.
he needs to go to therapy...maybe he has
oppositional defiant disorder....i swear my older sister has that.
he really needs some help and you need to put your belongings somewhere safe.
i dont know why its so embarrasing for you. its a vibrator big deal. everyone needs pleasure i suppose. he doesnt understand.
but that is kinda funny that u make him torment you. you are the mature adult. give him dicipline.
1st hit him for being cheeky and looking through your things and 2nd tell him to stop wanking before he starts ``