Am I mental?!


Question: I'm 13 years old Ever since I was little I've been spazzing out at people for calling me names and stuff.
I used to scream at people and in grade 4 I threw a car at someone. I have a bad temper. I punched a guy in my class this year for calling me a loner. Last Thursday I walked out of the school during gym class & down the road because the gym teacher told me to spit my gum out. I was already pissed off and I felt left out. I've always had trouble with friends. They ditch me for someone else. I feel like I've been hurt by them so many times I never wanna feel like that again. It really hurts because I can't trust anyone.
I never really feel happy. I'm on my computer a lot. I've always felt left out and not normal. Like no one really understands me.I have a bad habit of keeping things bottled up inside. I am kinda a loner my friend ditches me for other people. She makes me feel bad. I can't make new friends I know everyone in my school it's really small they all hate me. I hate myself


Answers: I'm 13 years old Ever since I was little I've been spazzing out at people for calling me names and stuff.
I used to scream at people and in grade 4 I threw a car at someone. I have a bad temper. I punched a guy in my class this year for calling me a loner. Last Thursday I walked out of the school during gym class & down the road because the gym teacher told me to spit my gum out. I was already pissed off and I felt left out. I've always had trouble with friends. They ditch me for someone else. I feel like I've been hurt by them so many times I never wanna feel like that again. It really hurts because I can't trust anyone.
I never really feel happy. I'm on my computer a lot. I've always felt left out and not normal. Like no one really understands me.I have a bad habit of keeping things bottled up inside. I am kinda a loner my friend ditches me for other people. She makes me feel bad. I can't make new friends I know everyone in my school it's really small they all hate me. I hate myself

Please Courtney don't hate yourself. You are beautiful in God's eyes, I wouldn't say that you are a loner, you are a person that just like your own privacy. I'm the same way, we all can hold things inside for so long that when it's time to release it, it just explodes... that's why it's good to talk to somebody! Talk to your parents about how you feel within, but above all it seems that you need a strong relationship with Jesus Christ. The only person that can give you peace is Jesus, you can accept him today, repent and let him in your life today. Please read the word of God (The Bible), it's all you need in life. Don't use medication it only worsens the problem, im praying for you stay encourage, Jesus loves you.

It sounds as if a visit with the school psychologist may be of some help. You need someone to talk to. He/she may be able to refer you to someone who can help.

Take care my friend.

You're not mental; it's okay to feel sad or angry! You have things that are making you feel so, so I doubt there's something really wrong with you. If you're feeling extremely emotional you may have a slight chemical imbalance which is pretty easy to treat.

SOrry, but yep you're mental. Fortunately, so is every single other 13 yr old. I was. My brother and sister were, my hubby and his brothers were. And some of us still are. Truth is, getting older means seeing how screwed up the world is and not being able to change it or understand how to fit into it. As you get older, things will make more and more sense, and you'll feel less and less desperate. As for medications, andtidepressants for your age group can actually make you feel worse and can cause suicidal thoughts and actions. Best bet is to talk to a guidance counselor at school to work out a way for you to cope with changing reality, and TALK MORE TO YOUR PARENTS. Believe me, they may seem like they don't understand, but they do, and if you let them into your shell and open up to them you'll get a lot of support you didn't know existed.

I cant say if youre mental or not, but maybe you could go to a counseler person? Not a school one, one that hepls people like you. I know how you feel about people not liking you. I dont have a temper though....

If you ever want to talk to someone you can e-mail me. Im 13 too, my name is hannah. :)

spookychick2@yahoo.com

I hope this helps, even a little.

I know it may sound kindof wierd and stupid, but I'd say to look at the bible.
Even if your not a christian and don't plan to be a christian, the bible has a lot of good kind of like, "rules" to follow. If you follow alot of the things the bible says, like not to judge others, be kind to others, ect, you'll become an overall better person and feel a lot better about yourself.
I would also visit a psychiatrist, just to have someone to talk to and someone who can give you advice. I know a few people who are perfectly straight in the head and go to psychiatrists because they are just over stressed.
You'll be fine. Don't stress yourself over things. Read a good book to get your mind off of things.

you sound just like i did when i was 13! its all down to good old puberty! Its a time of anger and isolation and feeling like the worlds against you. You come across as being very intelligent, (your teacher even commented that you were a strong student) and this can hit intelligent kids harder than not so bright kids sometimes. thats because we question more and look deeper into things and analyse stuff more than others. It will pass, your hormones will settle and you will look back and think "jesus! what was that all about?" .... Just like i do. I'm 38 now, and i remember only too well what it was like, but believe me, it passes. In the meantime tho, I would go and see a doctor, or even talk to you mum?? She was 13 too once......Best wishes x

Some anti depressants can cause a bit of weight gain but not all of them and they are not addicting. I have OCD which is an anxiety disorder. I have to take Paxil to control it. Getting treated for it is the best thing that I ever did. I don't think you are mental. I don't think there is such a thing. Sometimes we have chemical imbalances in our bodies that cause our moods to be effected. It is not our fault like any other type of illness such as Diabetes or High Blood Pressure. Go and talk to a counselor. They may just be able to help you get your life back on track. If you need someone to talk to I am a good listener. You can e-mail me anytime.

I feel the same way at times and am older. Listen, as a great friend keeps telling me, don't hate yourself. I am a loner, it is not wrong to be. To have a temper once in a while is normal. If it affects your everyday life then you need to tell your doctor. You don't necessarily need medication, just coping techniques like meditation, and even if you do want or need meds there is nothing wrong with that either. Don't have friends that make you feel bad, it is better to have none, I know from experience with cruel and even abusive (verbally and emotionally) friends. It all boils down to this. I am not a doctor or medical professional but I have been there and still am in some ways. Take care, you are never alone, I send healing energy your way. Best of, hun.

No, you are not mental, you are young and finding yourself. It takes time, be kind and patient with yourself. I took antidepresssants at one time and I did not gain weight, in fact I lost 40 pounds, because when I was depressed I just laid around all day and ate. When I started to take the pills, it gave me energy and I wanted to excerise. I use to hate myself also, I know how you feel. I did not have any friends either and that made me feel even more depressed. I thought that no one would ever like me. I could not even look in a mirror, because I thought that I was so ugly. Again, Jesus does understand exactly how you feel and will make a way for you. Call on Him.

I think people r having problems with you.

It may not be you. It may be the kids you go to school with. They may be bullies and meanies, seriously. And once they make you a victim, you are always picked on and never included. Kids this age can be horrible. I know, I was picked on and bullied through middle school. So, I know the intense pain it can cause. Most girls love talking about how great school was, not me, I hated it and never even think about it.

With that said, Is there any way you can start at a NEW school next year and start your life all over again in a fresh new environment? Talk to your mom if you can, let her know how miserable this is for you and that it is affecting your school work. Maybe there is a way to transfer you to another school where the kids don't know you and you can get off to the right foot this time. I wish you the best. You can e-mail me if you want to talk or need support, because I have lived this. jofull100@yahoo.com

I was a loner at 13, 14, 15, & still am more then a quarter century later. I'm also not normal & people have no problem pointing this out to me. The unhappiness probably has to do with being 13, you will get happier, & I believe 8th grade is an mildly surreal time of life, so everything just doesn't feel right.
It helps when you get pissed to count to ten before doing anything, it sounds lame but it works. Talk to your parents & maybe they can help. Write madly or draw daily to help relax you.

You have been treating people badly ever since you can remember and now you are wondering why the world has turned it's back on you. One simple reason - you are a pain in the ***. What goes around, comes around.

OK the truth hurts. So what are you going to do?

You need to realise that the world doesn't revolve around you. There are six billion people on this planet and you are only one of them. Your friends just want a good time so why would they hang around with someone who freaks out if they say the wrong thing? You probably make everyone feel uneasy. Are you really that much fun to be with? And it it really so bad that you had to spit out your gum? For God's sake get it into perspective. If you have been like this since you were little then everyone is on their guard against you.

The reason people bait you is because they know you will respond and so enjoy doing it all the more

You are not mental but definately have an issue of self-importance. Try this: Get up in the morning, be pleasant to your parents, go to school and do everything in your power not to lose your temper NO MATTER WHAT. If they take the piss, have a sense of humour about it , don't let them see that you are bothered, say hi to people, take an interest in your friends, don't say hurtful things and be encouraging. It won't be easy but stick it out. It might be excruciating but you have seriously got to turn your life around. Try it for a month and you will see peoples' attitudes change towards you. Then you might begin to like yourself.

But you must give up this "everyone hates me, no one understands" mindset. You have gotten into a negative way of interacting with people for whatever reason but you can turn it around. It is good that you know you have a problem and now is the time to swallow your pride, admit you have been a brat and change your life into something better. The past is a foreign country as they say. You don't have to be the person you were yesterday.

I could have said "Yes, your friends are horrible, your gym teacher was totally unreasonable, saying you are a loner should carry the death penalty therefore you should spend the rest of your life in self-righteous misery" but I don't think that would make you feel any better.

I know you could be so much happier with the right attitude. You only get one chance at this life. Don't spend it being angry and unhappy. It's up to you.

You're not mental, you're just a kid. You'll grow out of it.

Courtney, I can relate. You are a very sensitive girl, so when someone hurts your feelings, you take it hard. I'm the same way. I am tough and fierce on the outside, but if someone hurts me I will cry and sob for hours, but I never say a word about it to anyone. It sounds like things are going from bad to worse for you, and you're in a terrible rut. You are a normal girl, and the insecurities you have are normal too. Like I said, you are very tender-hearted, so you feel hurts much more deeply than many people. Your hurt feelings are causing you to have way too much anger bottled up inside you, and so you need to talk to your parents about it. You may not need medication. You may just need someone who will listen to you without judging you so you can vent and scream and say what's on your heart so you can get some relief from it. Please talk to your parents. They can't help you if they don't know what you're going through. And please give yourself a break and stop hating yourself. You are not defective, and there's nothing wrong with you. You are sensitive and kind and obviously very smart.

look at you other question. i answered that one. it will help you:] good luck

I wouldn't say you're mental, but you do need help. You should consider talking to a psychiatrist or something. And not all anti-depressants will make you gain weight or get you addicted to them. You may find they will really help you and you will be a much happier person.

i am like that then i forget things two......... once u turn 18 go to the doctor...........

You really need to sit down and talk to a professional counsellor type person or doctor. For one thing your age is going to be a part of it but it does sound like there is something more.
Believe it or not this is really not that uncommon - my son had similar problems some years ago and put us through absolute hell, he was throwing furniture around classrooms, walking out of school and banging his head into walls - the staff at the school were frightened of him and he really hated himself because he knew what was happening but couldn't control it - in the end it turned out that he had food allergies and now ( couple of years later) he is a prefect and on track for college, some people cannot believe the change in him.
Seek some expert help and don't worry if they think you should have anti depressants ( they don't always make you gain weight - there are different types) but you may also want to explore the food allergy possibility as well. It may seem unlikely but that was what we thought !





The consumer health information on answer-health.com is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions.
The answer content post by the user, if contains the copyright content please contact us, we will immediately remove it.
Copyright © 2007-2011 answer-health.com -   Terms of Use -   Contact us

Health Categories