Anger problems?!


Question: ive realized that when i get angry my anger takes control of me and my actions, i could be very violent towards the person im fronting and it always almost I end up fighting with them fists to fists im a girl and most of the people i encounter are guys. I find when I get angry like today with a neighbor I start to shake like crazy and I start feeling rage and like thoughts of their gruesome death come to my mind, making me feel good. I am very insensitive in that way. And When I get angry I get angry for long periods of time and nothing else is in my mind except what they said to me and i dwell and i dwell and i seek hard revenge thinking of ways I can get back at them. Its not letting me have a life, when i get angry all i think about is killing the other person for hours and hours straight and thats all that enters my mind in that time. Usually when they say something I dont like I either punch them or threagten to kick their ***. Also im borderline could tht have any influence


Answers: ive realized that when i get angry my anger takes control of me and my actions, i could be very violent towards the person im fronting and it always almost I end up fighting with them fists to fists im a girl and most of the people i encounter are guys. I find when I get angry like today with a neighbor I start to shake like crazy and I start feeling rage and like thoughts of their gruesome death come to my mind, making me feel good. I am very insensitive in that way. And When I get angry I get angry for long periods of time and nothing else is in my mind except what they said to me and i dwell and i dwell and i seek hard revenge thinking of ways I can get back at them. Its not letting me have a life, when i get angry all i think about is killing the other person for hours and hours straight and thats all that enters my mind in that time. Usually when they say something I dont like I either punch them or threagten to kick their ***. Also im borderline could tht have any influence

Anger management is addressed in section 4, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris If you can't deal with it by using one of the techniques, such as counting backwards from 20, to 1, (and prevent yourself from making yourself angry, in the first place) is important to express that anger appropriately, at the time, and to the person who caused it, if possible, or immediately afterwards, if not, maybe by walking away later, and bellowing your rage. In some situations, such as work, or school, it might be better to cover your mouth with a cupped hand, bandanna/handkerchief, or use the crook of your elbow, to muffle the sound. Some people find that it helps to journal those thoughts, and emotions soon afterwards. Anger, which is repressed, rather than healthily expressed, tends to fester, and later may cause explosive fits of rage, or depression. It helps to have someone you can talk to. For more physically inclined people, a punching bag, or hitting your pillow, can be an effective release mechanism: visualise, as vividly as you can, that you are striking back at the cause of that anger. ~~~ From Y!A: "But next time, when you get mad, just remember this quote: 'Those who anger you, conquer you.' It's basically saying that when you give someone the power to make you mad, or let it get to you, it's like they're controlling you. When I realized that, it made me mad, so I try to control my anger and not let people see it. You can still control your anger without being walked all over. You just have to draw a line." ~~~ See self harm, in section 16, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when you feel the need to self harm/cut. There are various suggestions, much information, and useful weblinks on my website: far too much to include here, which is why I needed to create it. Seek therapy, to help you address the actual cause of those problems, rather than using an inappropriate method of treating the symptoms, which others have found, doesn't work, in the longer term, and which leaves behind the extra problem of scarring to deal with, then. BPD is addressed in section 15: seek a DBT practicioner.

you need to keep seeing the doctors and tell them about your problems and keep it up till its gone or controlled.

an ancestral habit to erase from your mind.Go back to YA Q&A for help.

Try meditation. It may help you put aside the urge to kill.

This anger will ultimately consume you and you will not live a happy life. Trust me, I've been there as have many people I know. It takes time to get past it but once you do, you'll feel like a weight has been lifted.

u need angermanagement and u also need to sit and think about your action toward ppl cus wen u do sumthing it comes bac 2 you.... and word of advice fighting could lead to someone being killed or seriously injured so u need to sit and think if 1 little thing someone does to u worth getting put in jail for life or dying so.....

put a sticker that tell you calm down or have patience, so evrytime when you are anger you look at it.

i used to have the same problem- i learned that i must go into a room and be by myself until i calm down. once i am calm then i can go back into the room. i kept on doing that until i dont get angry then finally i am able to just close my eyes and count to 10.
BTW i would get soo mad that i would cry- not in sadness by in the fact that i would love nothing more that to start hitting and i knew i would not be able to stop. I am no longer like this- but it took me years to get this calm.
you can also go to a therapist and see what they can do to help.
Good luck





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