Hello...help? bad feelings...?!
Question: Hello.
Well, to start things off, I am a teenager living in Maine. I used to be cheerful...but now...I have a few issues.
I have no self confidence. (If any, little.)
I am made fun of for being "a geek"...
I have a huge fear of public speaking, and have trouble talking to regular people...At any time, I can start shaking...For example: All of the girls have SOMEONE to hang with in our class...except me. I am a loner. I don't have a lot of friends. I feel down about it, but can't find myself talking to these other groups. I can break down crying in front of large groups of people, and are afraid of being judged of the popular kids...
I just can't help all this...I have other issues too.
1. Please leave any constructive comments.
2. Am I antisocial?
3. Why is my confidence down. Causes/diagnosis?
4. Have you had these problems?
I am a girl by the way, but don't even try to bring up "mood swings." I always feel worthless...I don't know what to do.
Thanks...
Answers: Hello.
Well, to start things off, I am a teenager living in Maine. I used to be cheerful...but now...I have a few issues.
I have no self confidence. (If any, little.)
I am made fun of for being "a geek"...
I have a huge fear of public speaking, and have trouble talking to regular people...At any time, I can start shaking...For example: All of the girls have SOMEONE to hang with in our class...except me. I am a loner. I don't have a lot of friends. I feel down about it, but can't find myself talking to these other groups. I can break down crying in front of large groups of people, and are afraid of being judged of the popular kids...
I just can't help all this...I have other issues too.
1. Please leave any constructive comments.
2. Am I antisocial?
3. Why is my confidence down. Causes/diagnosis?
4. Have you had these problems?
I am a girl by the way, but don't even try to bring up "mood swings." I always feel worthless...I don't know what to do.
Thanks...
Dear, this too shall pas... I know it's not what you want to hear but most girls go through some (or all) of these things. I certainly did. Anytime I even had to read something in front of a class I would sweat, shake, and either laugh hysterically or cry. I still am not the most confident public speaker but it only gets better with persistance and just doing it. I also have trouble talking to people that I don't know very well and I get nervous and shaky (I'm 28 and I still get nervous) but again, it only gets better as you continue to suffer through it. As for the popular kids, believe me, they have issues too, you just don't know it. And you probably would be better off to have just a few true friends that several fake ones. It's hard to open yourself up and make a friend as a teen, part of it takes making yourself vulnerable and no one likes to do that. Try to focus on your positive attributes. One is that you obviously have good grammer and you aren't writing like some uneducated wimp with all the letters and numbers and what not. I'm sure there are other great things about you... and probably only you knows what they are. Try to get somewhat involved at school, join a club that interests you and not just the ones that everyone joins. I took journalism in school and that helped a lot. I ended up being the editor of the school paper. If it gets worse definately go see your school counselor but I'd be hesitant to get on meds or see a shrink at this point (unless your suicidal). It seems like all the dr's nowadays just put you on prozac - that didn't help me and I'm so much better now that I'm not taking it. Well, I hope this helped. I'll be praying for you!
I think you should look inside yourself and ask why do i feel this way?
get into church groups...be yourself,without knowing more it is hard to know whats going on...kids can be mean but you need to learn to love yourself...tell yourself that everytime you feel this...have a positive attitude people are drawn to this..so tell yourself ..I am pretty,I am smart the more positive things you tell yourself the more you will feel more confident...
you just have social anxiety....your confidence is down because of your fear of rejection and the fear that you may do something stupid....you need to accept yourself for who you are and who you were made to be....do not at all worry about the popular kids....their opinions don't matter...popular kids are the most insecure people you will ever meet....you need to learn to love and respect yourself....your opinion of yourself is the only opinion that matters....just be yourself, love who you are, and pe proud of the fact that you are unique and that there is no one else like you....once you realize and understand these things then your self esteem and confidence will increase and you will be ok....good luck and God bless
I used to be the exact same way in middle school but I was just extremely shy....I guess i changed when I got into high school because I realized that people arent there to judge me anymore and if they do then they need to grow up and get a life. People who are mean are that way because there self consious too and thats there way of dealing. Yeah....it sucks. Just ignore them, sweetie, but if you feel like your going to break then I suggest talking to a counselor in school. Ive been to alot of them and right now I have a terrific counselor who helps me out alot. Good luck!!!
buy the book "anxiety for dummies" it answers all of your questions
i know that you must feel realy bad right now. if you yourself think you look like a geek as they say then try a make over with hair,clothes and make up . try to see the good in yourself, i bet there is plenty. ignore other ignorant people and their silly coments as other young people can be so cruel. but most of all you should ask your doctor to refer you to a psychologist who will help you with the rest. good luck to you, you deserve a beter future.
hey im a loner too so we can be friends dont worry about them i cried all the time at school last year but hey im good now ill be your friend im not a perv by the way im 15 i hope this helped.......