Life?......?!
Question: I'm not really sure if this is a question but i need to let it out. I do not enjoy life at all anymore. I am 16 years old. I play basketball. I used to love to play but anymore I do not enjoy it. It feels more like an obligation. I do not enjoy anything that I used to. I used to be pretty optimistic about things but anymore it seems to be the total opposite even if im trying to look on the bright side. One thing that I did enjoy doing for a while is talk to my girl friend. Idk y she was just fun to talk to and stuff but it seems like she dont really like me anymore anyway so thats out of the question. Everything i do i feel like i am just trying to pass time and nothing seems important. I get straight A's but I really couldnt care less anymore i just do my homework because i have nothing better to do. Im just kind of wondering what is wrong and if anyone gives a ****.?
Answers: I'm not really sure if this is a question but i need to let it out. I do not enjoy life at all anymore. I am 16 years old. I play basketball. I used to love to play but anymore I do not enjoy it. It feels more like an obligation. I do not enjoy anything that I used to. I used to be pretty optimistic about things but anymore it seems to be the total opposite even if im trying to look on the bright side. One thing that I did enjoy doing for a while is talk to my girl friend. Idk y she was just fun to talk to and stuff but it seems like she dont really like me anymore anyway so thats out of the question. Everything i do i feel like i am just trying to pass time and nothing seems important. I get straight A's but I really couldnt care less anymore i just do my homework because i have nothing better to do. Im just kind of wondering what is wrong and if anyone gives a ****.?
Yes, lots of people give a ****. Your parents give a ****, your friends give a ****, heck even I give a ****. What you need to do is open up to someone who is always going to be around, like your parents. Having a girlfriend is great, but at 16 you are likely to experience several different g/f relationships. That is normal, so don't be down that its faded out, get out there and enjoy life and meet new girls and see what comes of that.
Straight A's is something to be proud off, lots of people would be drooling to be able to achieve that. So use that pride to keep your interest in your school work. If basketball seems like an obligation perhaps you should take a break from it for a while. Either a clean break or an intermission where you check out other sports or just enjoy the freedom from obligation.
My guess is you may need to talk to someone other than your parents, like a counselor, such as a psychologist. You can arrange that directly, through your doctor or through your parents. It does not mean there is anything sinister about you, just that you need to talk freely without concern for consequences, and psychologists do not deal in medications, just talk, so no fear there either.
If it seems to hard to make happen straight away, try find a local 'kids' help line (teens are still kids..), use the net to find one and give them a call, it will give you a chance to talk without any judgments and by calling local they may be able to refer you to some face to face support services.
Being a teenager is not a free ride, you are changing, your relationship with your parents is changing and pressures about a career or university are starting to come to bear. There seems to be less fun time to just hang out, obligations pile up and life can seem to get more difficult. In fact life can be more challenging as you start to try and work out who you are and why you are here.
Just know that lots of people give ****. That you are extremely important, not just to your parents but to those who know you and to those around you. You may not feel it, but you are a part of all their lives, so they do give a ****, just as complete strangers like me give ****. So hang in there, find someone to talk to and work your way back into the light. Grats again on those great grades.
Be careful if anyone invites you to discuss your private life in response to your question by email. Some will say email me at xyz etc. Well as you know not everyone is a weirdo, but some are, so guard your privacy
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Of course. You should try other things in life. I feel the same way you do. Things tend to get "old" because of how you get used to them. Don't worry, this is a normal & pivotal part of your life. Always remember that there is always someone worse off than you. =P And there is probably someone that you know that wishes he or she was you! Especially the "straight A's" part.
yeah... i have been there. It's personally different for each person that does happen to go through a time like that. I'm 25 and every now and then I still feel that way. The only way to get through it is to endure, and know that eventually it will get better. Sounds cliche I know. But on a deeper level it's actually true.
Hang in there.
Sounds like you're depressed. Keep in mind.. You don't have to cry all the time or feel suicidal to necessarily be depressed. I'm Bipolar and I recently started a new medication. At first I felt sad all the time on the meds, but that eventually went away. I told my shrink I still didn't enjoy things and I was feeling quite numb... and she told me that I can still be depressed and not be sad.
My suggestion is that maybe you should see a shrink. You don't seem at risk of killing yourself or anything major.. but problems that seem relatively simple at the time can easily escalate if you don't take care of them now. I wish you the best of luck in dealing with this, and I know how bad it sucks to feel numb like that.
You sound depressed... how long has this been going on? Does this come and go for you at times, or is this bad feeling brand new? What happened in your life right before this feeling came on? Could that be the cause? Is there anything you can do about that potential cause? Is there anyone you can talk to-- are your parents cool to talk to? How about your grandparents? Are you cool with going to see a counselor or something if this doesn't let up?
Hey, I give a ****.
Did something very intense in your life happen prior to losing interest in everything? Someone die? Parents get divorced? Even if nothing happened, I HIGHLY recommend that you go see your doctor and tell him or her how you are feeling. Ideally, you should talk to a counselor or therapist as well. What you are describing sounds a lot like depression, and when you feel this way, THINGS WILL GET BETTER. It may take time, and it may take some counseling and possibly even medication, but that would be up to your doctor.
I've been depressed several times...once severely enough to take medication. One thing I've learned about depression is that there is no where to go but up; things can't get much worse, but they can get better, and eventually they will. But the longer you try to do it alone, the less likely it is that the feelings will go away. I hope you can go talk to a doctor and/or an adult you trust about what you're experiencing.
life is life -will it or not.OK.There are times ( intervals of seven to ten yrs)our body changes and needs adjustment-so you might have such feelings.Not easy to explain all this here .But go back to YA Q&A and read about it.
Everyone feels that way one point in their lives. I have just gotten over that, and the only reason why is because I'm moving out of my house for uni in 3 months.
What you need is to change something in your life. Do something new you'd enjoy. Something simple as laying on your yard and daydreaming, or writing, or reading books that interest you, or anything really that seems appealing. Don't let that feeling suck you in.
One thing that really helps is getting some get-togetehrs with your buddies. Friends always cheer up your mood when it's outside a school setting.
You've just described either a fairly mild case of clinical depression, or general teenage blahs.
How long has this lasted? If it's just been a few days, it's worth waiting to see if it passes. If it's been longer than a few weeks, you should probably talk to someone you trust about it...ideally your parents, but if not then a good friend, a counselor at school, basically someone you'd trust to try to help you out.
If you want to try to deal with this yourself, try doing new things until you find something you like to do. The important thing is to do SOMETHING...if you just sit around and mope, it probably won't get any better.
If this starts dragging on for months, and nothing you do seems to help, that's time to see a health professional...a doctor or a shrink. It's perfectly normal to feel "flat" like you do from time to time, but not for weeks or months on end.
Good luck.