When will this go away? And what can I do to help it?!


Question: Well, this is a really long story, but I'm going to shorten it the best I can. I love him, but he doesn't love me. I don't know if he ever did. I thought he did at one point, but I guess I was wrong.

Whenever I think about him, I literally can't breathe. Every time I see him, I want to cry. Sometimes I think about all the amazing memories I had with him, and I start bawling and have to take really big breaths because it feels like I'm drowning. I've told him I love him, but still, nothing. He hardly talks to me anymore and I can't figure out what I've done wrong. I just want this to go away, because I've cried about it almost every night for the past 5 months. He broke my heart 5 months ago, and apologized, but I still cry about him, because he didn't want me.

I basically don't even have a family to turn to, my dad is always yelling and couldn't care less, and my mom never listens to a word I say. And all my siblings don't care or understand. My friends don't understand either.


Answers: Well, this is a really long story, but I'm going to shorten it the best I can. I love him, but he doesn't love me. I don't know if he ever did. I thought he did at one point, but I guess I was wrong.

Whenever I think about him, I literally can't breathe. Every time I see him, I want to cry. Sometimes I think about all the amazing memories I had with him, and I start bawling and have to take really big breaths because it feels like I'm drowning. I've told him I love him, but still, nothing. He hardly talks to me anymore and I can't figure out what I've done wrong. I just want this to go away, because I've cried about it almost every night for the past 5 months. He broke my heart 5 months ago, and apologized, but I still cry about him, because he didn't want me.

I basically don't even have a family to turn to, my dad is always yelling and couldn't care less, and my mom never listens to a word I say. And all my siblings don't care or understand. My friends don't understand either.

I think you still just need to mend your heart. The more you tell him you love him, the more you will get your heart broken and push him away forever. You can't let one measly boy hurt you so much. This could be a test to test how strong you are and you are strong enough to ask for help. So here are some tips for you.

1. Do something for yourself. Not for enyone else

2. Wear a rubber band and snap it whenever you think about him to remind yourself that he hurt you.

3. Find a hobbie to distract yourself from him

4. Write in a journal

5. Get rid of any possesions you have of his.

You are probably still in the depressed phase of a break up. Take a few days to cool down and let it all out, then start over fresh. You might even go through a few more phases as well. Such as anger and resentment. I like those phases the best because they helped me get over somebody who broke my heart way faster.

Sorry you're feeling like that hun. You'll be okay though. If you would like to talk about it, i'm more than willing to listen and give my advice. Message me through here and i'll give you my email.

Sounds animated

Time. That ALWAYS works.

it will eventually go away i cried fro about a year adn a half on and off during 2003 and 2004 but here it is 2008 and i got a great bf now and from stuff ive heard back in 2005 he wasnt doing to good lol so best thing to do ride it out if it gets to bad to the point your thinking of harming your self or him id seek professional help

awww, well im really sorry to hear that. You sound like an awesome person, and very nice/genuine and i know that its really hard when your heart is broken, especially by someone you love, but he seems to be going in a different direction. My advice is to stay strong, and try and find something to take your mind off of it. Find something that you like to do. If you like sports/outdoor activities/shopping/movie-watching/going to see concerts. It will seriously do you a lot of good to go out and stop sitting at home thinking about him! I know its hard & easier said than done but there are tons of people in your position who understand! Go out and TRY and have fun. Close that chapter of your life. If he doesn't want to be apart of yours, than you are too good for him! If you go out and have fun you will have a great chance of finding someone else! Best of luck!

okay my dear.... my brother would tell you it would be okay there are other fish in the sea..... wait don't stop reading I said that is what my brother would say....

I would say it gets better with every passing day. You will find someone who loves you for you... But from what it sounds like darlin' is that you haven't learned about yourself. You don't want this guy at all I'm sure he's a jerk, oh wait yes he is b/c he broke you're heart. Find something new to love, I found painting when my heart got broken 3 years ago... find something to be passionate about join a club at school become more outgoing.... But do not sit alone in you're room that is when it'll be the hardest.


It'll all be okay I swear!

Sometimes relationships do not work out because he is not the best one for you and things are not meant to be. If you keep hanging on, you are not allowing another love to come into your life.

It is far more important to take this period to know yourself better. For in the knowing yourself and building your own self worth and confidence, can you then know the qualities of the partner who is best suited for you.

In my experience, it is through the moments of solitude, that I've learnt to be a stronger person. You deserve every bit of love. When you value yourself more, you usually will get the love that you are worthy for.

You are grieving so well. He is really hurting you and as crazy as it sounds you are handling it so well. In time the grieving will pass. I let a guy do that to me for way too long also. Honestly, there is nothing that you can do. Things like this are some of the hardest things to get over. But when this passes you will be a much stronger person because you survived your heartbreak. Until that time comes surround yourself with other things that you love and grieve for as long as you need to. I know it really sucks but it will pass. I wish you the best.

God can always help....

so when people fail to console you, when they fail to be there for
you, there is always God, the Creator there. Trust in Him and he'll comfort you

Read the Bible or go to church. I'm in love right

I don't know how it's gonna turn out. It seem that in a few months that girls gonna leave me behind at college and with the army

so i just gotta put it in God's hands...and trust in Him daily and everytime i have a doubt

sorry to hear, what i did to make it easier is find friends to talk to, find someone else that interest you, it is very hard to forget the one you love, very heartbreaking..but you know he doesn't feel the same and that hurts more, everybody is different, for me it was finding wonderful friends on line, and some need to find someone else to love , to forget...

People come into your life for a Reason, a season, or a Lifetime.
When you know which one it
is for a person, you will know what to do for that person.


When someone is in your life for a REASON, it
is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a Godsend,
and they are!
They are
there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part,
or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and
force you to take a stand.


What
we must realize is that our need has been met,
our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered,
and now it is time to move
on.


Some people come into your life for a SEASON,

because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.


LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons:

things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the
lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use
in all other relationships
and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part
of my life!

I'll try and be as tactful as possible so here it goes, your family life is in some turmoil rite now...., your feeling negelcted because of it, meaning no adult interaction, cant tell how old you are from this article but remember no one can make you feel this sad and lonely for this long, need to find something that you love to do, that you can focus on.... remember it sounds heartless but you will survive this... you sound like a sweet and sensitive person, these are the things that build your character for a more stable adult.. theres someone else just around the corner.. keep the faith....and believe in yourself

sweetie, it's like a grieving process. it's going to take time, and you need to find a way not to dwell on it. i know that sounds hard to do, and easy for me to say. but i've been there and done that. the only difference is he loved the drugs more then me. so i lost my true love to a life of drugs, and prison.

a broken heart does mend. pack up all the pictures, and other memories you have of him. go out with some of your friends to see a comedy, go bowling, shoot pool, go on a long bike ride with a friend, the beach, and parks is a good place to take your mind off of him.

every second you keep your mind off of him, you will feel slightly better. it's a gradual process. get out of your pj's, get dressed, and start to live again. go to a club to have fun. i'm not saying to date, it's too early for you to do that. just go out and have fun. you'll see you'll feel better as the days go by if you keep a positive attitude, and try to move on.

i'm in no way saying you wont think of him, because you will. you just need to shake the thoughts loose, and get on with living your life. don't let the past control you. you can do i. now you say it loud, and proud. "I CAN DO IT!" take care, and email me if you would like to talk more.

take care, barbara

Listen Kid! Listen up!!! Its time to move on. You tried it, it did'nt work and unfortunately you cannot make someone love you or even like you if they don't already. Find something to do to take your mind off this person. There is someone out there for you, but if you spend all your time pining away for someone who does'nt want you, you may never find them. Remember all things happen for a reason. Try to find this one and remember. When one door closes another one opens. Good Luck my Friend!!! They call me Baddogg.

Time has a way of healing alot of things. If this is your first true love, then that's why it's so hard to get over. You ever want to talk, I'll chat with you.

Its just going to take time that's all





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