Should i be feeling more?!
Question: i work in a residentual home and the other day a resident collapsed and everyone pushed me forward to do cpr (as i am training to be a nurse) the lady did not survive and everyone was really distressed and emotional about what had happened and i didnt can i really be that hard or is there more to how i reacted?
Answers: i work in a residentual home and the other day a resident collapsed and everyone pushed me forward to do cpr (as i am training to be a nurse) the lady did not survive and everyone was really distressed and emotional about what had happened and i didnt can i really be that hard or is there more to how i reacted?
you did just fine!
I work in emergency medicine and believe me there are many ways to react
you are there to do a job. you did that and unfortunatly the person did not survive.
When dealing with death as a proffesional you will react differently to a relative/friend
you may be upset or you may not.
we often "joke" after dealing with a stressful situation although the joke is not disrepectful to the dead person, it is a release for the workers
I am sure you have heard that emergency workers have pretty dark senses of humour.!
having said all that we all have those tough jobs that do get to us and we rely on our friends at work to get through.
incidently.....very few people survive cardiac arrest outside hospital (in London it is less than 10%) so dont be too disheartened Im sure you did well.
The most Important thing is that you tried...well done and good luck with the new career!
I think that being a nurse you will encounter death a lot, and it is good not to get attached to clients, although that can be hard depending on the setting you are in.
Some people do have thicker skin, maybe thats it, or maybe you were just shocked at what happened.
Death and Grief are often hard to deal with- since it is your first experience I would say it may not have hit you yet? But also consider the fact that you did not know the person and you may just be in a place of acceptance-
You may not have even accepted what has happened yet.. Our mind protects us from shock...It could sink in at a later time.. but if this was someone you didn't know and hadn't spent time with, you may not feel distress at all...
I think that we have to have some people that don't fall apart about everything, otherwise.. we would have no DR and nurses.. Thanks for helping people.. You will never be able to save them all.. : )
you should seek counciling. death is scary and it wasnt your falt you did the best you could do
It must be hard, I have not experienced anything like this in my life, so i am not really equipped to answer this. But I think you need to tackle it right now, otherwise you may get depressed.
You know how they say to alcoholics, acceptance is the first step. I think you should try to accept it, that it did happened. and not beat yourself about it. Accept it, feel sad for a day and then forget it.