What is freakin wrong with me? im just a stupid cutter!!?!


Question: okay. well i am a 15yr old cutter. i have been for 6 months, and everywhere i go on this site they talk about how bad and awful it is. and no matter what i read i just still dont want to stop! it just helps me too much!! what do i do? how can i make myself want to stop?


Answers: okay. well i am a 15yr old cutter. i have been for 6 months, and everywhere i go on this site they talk about how bad and awful it is. and no matter what i read i just still dont want to stop! it just helps me too much!! what do i do? how can i make myself want to stop?

i posted this before, but i will again. i've been a cutter for over 30 years.

some things that might help you understand why you do what you do and why it helps and why you don't want to stop...

the injury releases endorphins. those are happy hormones and it's why you get that sense of relief afterwards. however, they're only temporary which is why you then feel you need to do it again.

over time, that feeling becomes addictive. the danger with that is that like many addictions, it can escalate. that's what happened to me and i'm now covered from my neck to my feet in literally hundreds of big nasty scars. i rarely go outside and when i do, i'm covered from my chin down (try that on a hot, humid day in july!!!). as an adult, i'm afraid of relationships (will people understand, will they accept me, if they find out will i be rejected), i worry about losing my job if people find out. i've had some REALLY negative reactions where people don't want me anywhere near their children because they're afraid i'll hurt them... some days i don't want to get up because i feel like all i am is my scars and that nobody sees who i really am anymore...

rather than end up like me... try to find a HEALTHY way to get your endorphin rush (like exercising) and TALK to someone to help relieve some of the emotional pain. if you have to have some sort of sensation - try sticking your hands in a bag of ice cubes or snap a rubber band on your wrist...

you need help. tell ur parents. im sure they can help you out a lot! if ur parents dont really care then tell a friend or a teacher. maybe even a school counciler. they can help!

see a pyschologist bc u deal with your emotional pain by cutting yourself and u have to train yourself to handle emotions by not hurting yourself. see a psychologist and if u can't see your school counselor.

Talk about things. even to a complete stranger. Cutting is a way of getting the bad out. If you share your problems with someone, the bad comes out in a more "productive way". Having an addictive personality might be a cause as well.

I know what you mean. I too am a cutter and im going to tell you from experience that all the "techniques" that they tell you about don't work worth a crap. I'm also going to tell you that the urge to cut will never fully go away, (i know it sounds harsh) I've been cutting since i was 11 or 12 and im 17 now. Ive slowed down alot. Something that might help you is set a goal wether its 2 days without cutting or 2 months it doesnt matter and try to reach that goal. you will mess up but you will get better. and each time you meet your goal set another one that is just a little bit longer and eventually you'll get it. Stopping isnt something that will happen overnight.

just think of the gross scars you will have as you get get older!!gross!! What about boys? Most guys think cutters are creepy and nasty!

When my son was 15 he also used to do that. I think it is just a way to bring out what pain you are feeling emotionally out. You probably won't want to stop until you decide you have just had enough of it and find a way to deal with what is really makiing you hurt inside. You need to find someone you trust to talk to about it, a school counsleor, nurse, preacher, someone, anyone. Good luck and God bless.

put down the cutting utensil

First of all you have to understand that your body is something that you should never hurt on purpose. think of how you are so lucky to be living on this earth and you shouldn't do anything to jeopardize the opportunities you have been given. i know that "your body is a temple" kinda of sounds cheesy but when you think about it it is true. your body is everything you can show the world about who you are and what you can do. do you think that cutting yourself is really showing people (even if they can't see) who you are. what you want to be known for. Also, remember ... don't make a permanent decision out of a temporary problem. cutting yourself can kill you. I'm not sure what is going on in your life, or in your head, or your family because i don't know you but i went through a tough time when i didn't know who i was. just always stay strong and be yourself. there are other ways to punish yourself, but that is not by hurting yourself. please stop, show all the other people out there that it is bad and you can do it. :)

Your way of dealing with things is by cutting. I'm not saying it's okay to do it. It just so happens to be the way you deal with things. If you can easily talk with either mom or dad tell them what is going on. If mom and dad tend to be the reason you cut then talk to you guidance councelor, a teacher or myabe you have an aunt or a friends mom you feel you can tell them. You do need help there is medicines that can help. Every time you want to cut think about what is making you want to cut and write it down. I had a friend that used to burn herself and felt like you do after you cut. She now sees a councelor takes meds and sees a doctor for the meds. Every time you go to cut try rubbing your hands up and down your legs fast or slow and long or short strokes. Go for a walk if you can. paint a picture do a puzzle if it's too much go to the hospital. Trust me they really know how to fix things. I still have time to time that I just dig my nails into my arms and dig til I can't go any futher. So I do know what you are going thru. I wish you the best of luck.

i know what you mean. i'm a cutter to and im going through the same problem.....

so here is my advice to you which i am trying to follow myself =]

first, YOU have to want to stop cutting. you can only stop when YOU'RE ready.
then you should tell someone about your cutting. it doesnt have to be a professional, just some one you trust, some one who can support you. you can consult to a proffesional when you're ready.
then throw away you cutting tools. get rid of them! make a little box filled with stuff to do when you feel you need to cut.
when you feel the urge to cut, see what triggered you. see if you can change the situation.
also try to find other outlets. art, music, writing, running, etc.if none of these work, call someone to talk to about your cutting and the situation that triggered this feeling. talking it out might make you feel better!

be safe okay!

am 46 and when I have problems I think of cutting and how goods it feels , the pain hurts but it feels good like I let the hurt out , until next time. You must learn how to deal with what hurts in another way I cant tell you what that way is I know when my child came home one day and he had cut himself so bad I almost died the pain I had for him was nothing like I had every felt before, He didn't know I was a cutter I had stopped when I had him at 18 so please find a way to express your anger,hurt in a way you don't hurt your body the cutting feels good for a min but you and not fixing the problem it is still inside ( like a monster waiting to explode) so learn to express your interself in another way.

The reason its awful is because it can really harm someone.. You just need to find a new way to cope with whatever your going through that is more eefective because cutting isnt the right choice. I would recomend talk to a counselor, because they could help you find coping techniques and help you deal with whatever causes you to cut. Talking to someone can really help!
I've cut before, i thought it helped, but it really didnt it just made things worse. Now i found new ways to cope with problems!!

It sounds like you do want to stop or else you wouldn't be trying to find a way to want to stop. from what I have heard people cut themselves because it makes them feel better. Maybe they have some sort of emotional issue that is bothering them and the cutting takes the attention away from the emotional pain. (sorry if this is wrong I'm not a expert on this its only my opinion)
What you need is a different outlet. Something that will help you feel better that isn't going to damage you.
You should try Aromatherapy, find someone who is a qualified Aromatherapist and see them for a massage, it's relaxing and very healing, you may even find some nice essential oils that you can have with you that make you feel better, sometimes all it takes is inhaling a couple of drops on a tissue to change your mood, you can also use them in a bath or an oil burner.
Good Luck. Hugs!!

tell your parents

someone at school found out I was doing it and teased me so much, that I was too embarassed to keep doing it!





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