I have a bad issue with jelousy, a very bad problem help!?!
Question: hi, ever since i was 15 i have had a very very bad jelousy problem, i dont trust men at all, and when i am a relationship i get so controlling over everywhere he goes, who he see's, i dont let him watch tv, because of good looking woman, i dont have any pictues of woman in my house, we do not go down the street or anywhere there may be woman, we had no female freinds, it has become so bad, and i hate being this way. i see thats its irrational, but no matter what i do, or what people tell me, it wont go away. i have seen doctors and councelors, nothing has helped. it is so bad. and for that reason i have chossen to be single, but i had to end it with my babies father, as we were both miserable, does anyone else relate, or am i alone with this. i beleive my problem is very severe. to some it sounds stupid, to me its my life. i stop breathing and have panic attacks if he was around a woman. it is controlling my life. even now i am single i am tormented each day. can anyone help. please
Answers: hi, ever since i was 15 i have had a very very bad jelousy problem, i dont trust men at all, and when i am a relationship i get so controlling over everywhere he goes, who he see's, i dont let him watch tv, because of good looking woman, i dont have any pictues of woman in my house, we do not go down the street or anywhere there may be woman, we had no female freinds, it has become so bad, and i hate being this way. i see thats its irrational, but no matter what i do, or what people tell me, it wont go away. i have seen doctors and councelors, nothing has helped. it is so bad. and for that reason i have chossen to be single, but i had to end it with my babies father, as we were both miserable, does anyone else relate, or am i alone with this. i beleive my problem is very severe. to some it sounds stupid, to me its my life. i stop breathing and have panic attacks if he was around a woman. it is controlling my life. even now i am single i am tormented each day. can anyone help. please
oh my goodness...when i read this, it was like reading my life story. i NEVER used to have jealousy issues until my ex-husband. he would constantly make comments about other women and it made me feel so insecure. it wasn't only his comments, but i found out he lied and went to a trip club and also was addicted to porn. that insecurity never went away. with my last boyfriend, same issues...he was also doing stuff behind my back in regards to women, so it made my pre-existing insecurity worse. i didn't trust him around his friends, got jealous of the women in t.v. and movies, and i got this bad anxiety if we saw an attractive woman walking down the street. i'd try and capture his attention before he got a chance to look. i am no longer with him either, because of the lies.
now...i have been single for 2 years. i have dated, but have not found the right man. i have really been working on myself, my priorities as well as thinking of what positive traits i would like my future partner will have. no more liars or sex addicts...i believe there are good men out there. i also know it is normal for both males and females to find the opposite sex attractive. we cannot control what other people think, but we can at least try and control how we react to it. i wish you the best!!! i know how painful this can be...
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For whatever reason, you are not confident enough in yourself to believe that anyone could truly love you. At least, that's how I used to feel. Interestingly enough, I found that the jealousy thing almost completely disappeared when I started taking Prozac for depression and panic attacks. I know how crippling jealousy can be, and also how self-defeating. You end up creating the situation that you feared the most (ie, having someone reject you), possibly so that you can control it by making it happen before it happens to you. The control is an illusion, though, and a big waste of precious time. I have slowly learned that people really can love me and that some people really can be trusted. It takes time and effort. Try not to obsess over a negative thought when it pops into your head.