My daughter is cutting herself and is depressed lately what can i do to help?a l!
Question: My daughter is 15, she has good and low days and seems like she sometimes gets upset or mad for no reason She is also cutting herself on her forearm Im not sure if she is just tryin to get attention or if i should be really concerned.......
Answers: My daughter is 15, she has good and low days and seems like she sometimes gets upset or mad for no reason She is also cutting herself on her forearm Im not sure if she is just tryin to get attention or if i should be really concerned.......
Big *hugs* to you. It's great that you're seeking advice. It shows that you're a caring mom.
I self-injured for 15 years. It is an addiction, usually spurred by some sort of depression. I don't think she's trying to get attention. Most self-injurers harm themselves as an emotional outlet, not for attn.
Check out the book Bodily Harm by Wendy Lader & Karen Contrerio (sp?), and definitely get your daughter into therapy. I didn't stop self-injuring until I was 30 and this was a long time ago... before it became such an "in" thing to do.
talk to her. Get her to open up about her doubts and fears (obviously if she's cutting herself, they're some pretty serious ones), and support her and try to get her counseling or medication. If she's receptive (and this is up to her), you could get her into church or self-help groups. The rest is up to her. But no matter what, stand by her. I had depression problems when I was younger and still do sporadically, but my mom has always been there and it's what helps me get through.
You should be concerned. It's an addiction.
Talk to her about it. Help her through this tough time.
And if she doesn't want to talk, tell her you're there for her.
Be concerned enough to get her to a therapist right away. Cutting is a poor coping skill, usually developed to block out painful situations or memories. Your daughter needs help and maybe medication. Get a referral from her Doctor...like tomorrow! kjl
it shouldn't matter if it's for attention or not. Bring her to a doctor. Talk to her. Give her a journal incase she isn't doing it for attention.
I'd get her some professional help,and I swear I don't mean that in a mean way.Depression is serious and doctors can try and help treat it.Cutting yourself is dangerous,especially if you hit the wrong vein.I have a friend that does it and it kills me to see it.She might resent you for getting her the help she needs at first but at least she'll be alive and she'll thank you one day for it.
I used to do the same thing. for me the cutting released my pain and my anger and actually made me feel better. go to her school counsler, or some other counsler type. I know I would be more likely to talk them, then to my mother.
It could be ccuz shes heart broken
take her to the dr. immediately. cutting is not done for attention.
cutting is an addiction - they feel adrenalin and endorphins and get addicted to those feelings - it just keeps getting worse so you must do something about it - first step go to a GP and ask for a referral to a psychiatrist who is trained in dealing with teens - thats the best advice I can offer.
First off you need to talk to your daughter. I am a cutter, and I know from experience the first thing you want is just someone to talk to . And dont go all crazy on her. find out why she cuts. And how you can help her. But dont let her manipulate you either. My best advice i could give you is get her counseling, they say people who cut themselves the main reason is because they have trouble talking about there problems, feelings so i would try counseling. But talk to your daughter let her know you care, you love her, and ask what she wants to do for help. Good luck!
you have some really good advice on here already from people who have been there (as i have). i've been doing it for over 30 years. no, it's not for attention. yes, you should be concerned.
i agree with the book suggestion - but something a bit more readily available... this is one of the most comprehensive sites i've found and it has some really good information on what to do and how to cope on their family & friends page...
www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.htm...
does she know that you know?
i used to do the same thing and i NEVER talked to my mum about it just let her know that you care
and believe me shes not doing it for attention.
let her know that you care and she'll come to you in her own time.
love steph
xxx hope this helped xxx