Need help understanding Bipolar 1 & how to be there for my boyfriend?!
Question: My boyfriend had bipolar type 1. he is medicated, but has recently gone into a state of depression and anger. he has isolated himself, and will not speak to anyone, including myself. I love him very much, and would like to be a part of his ongoing therapy and be there for him, but not sure how to reach out. Or is it best to leave him alone for now, and let him come to me when he is ready to see/speak to me? I sent a text to him last night, since he will not answer my calls, and let him know that i am here for him no matter what. I received no response. Any insight on this disorder and how he is possibly feeling would be wonderful. I am at a loss and miss him terribly & would love to really understand what he is going through. Thank you so much to anyone who answers this!
Answers: My boyfriend had bipolar type 1. he is medicated, but has recently gone into a state of depression and anger. he has isolated himself, and will not speak to anyone, including myself. I love him very much, and would like to be a part of his ongoing therapy and be there for him, but not sure how to reach out. Or is it best to leave him alone for now, and let him come to me when he is ready to see/speak to me? I sent a text to him last night, since he will not answer my calls, and let him know that i am here for him no matter what. I received no response. Any insight on this disorder and how he is possibly feeling would be wonderful. I am at a loss and miss him terribly & would love to really understand what he is going through. Thank you so much to anyone who answers this!
Hi, I am diagnosed with Bipolar 1 also. I have only been diagnosed for about 2 years. So, I am still learning about it myself. I would have to say that if you just continue to let him know that you are there for him and you want to learn more about his disorder then that should help him. I stay depressed most of the time. When I am down, there's not much that can lift me out of it except knowing that I have a loving family and friends that are there for me. It's hard to think about other people and their feelings when you are so depressed. Sorry I cant be of more help. My husband also goes through what you are going through. There are support groups out there for spouses/partners of Bipolar people. Don't give up.
get online and read up on it. otherwise, skip out of the relationship. it can be too overwhelming. if you were married it would be different.
How long have you been together? I would say find someone new. My sister had a bipolar hubby......on his 'black days' she called them he would beat her or rape her....then the next day act as if nothing had happened......is that how you want to live your life? I understand some people can control it, but one day they forget their meds and watch out.
You are in for a rollercoaster life.................if that is what you want go for it, there is a support meeting system for those who love bipolar's..............you can attend them or go to a counselor...........
personally, sounds like you are young, not attached, too many normal men to choose from, THIS IS A LIFE~~I REPEAT~~~
LIFE ROLLERCOASTER. IS THAT WHAT YOU REALLY-REALLY WANT????????????? WHAT FOR??????
I wish you luck!!
Keep in touch with him. Let him know that he doesn't have to reply to your texts/phone calls, etc, but keep texting and calling him. It's important that he doesn't isolate completely.
I have bipolar disorder. If you have any specific questions, message me and I'll try to answer.
Sounds like he is under or over medicated. Know that his moods will change often and there is help for him with mood stabilizers not mind altering drugs.
He is having a hard difficult time and finding the right medicine and dosage with alleviate the problem. Ask his Doctor to help you with helping him. You are a wonderful girl and hope you know that. He will come around in time.
You've let him know that you are there if he needs you. Right now he is suffering and need quiet time. It's great that you let him know you love him and that you will be there.
He's a lucky fella
Good luck to you and your boyfriend and I will say a prayer for you both. Prayer is always the solution.
Be strong,
Mary
I say you....RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
RUN AS FAR AWAY AS YOU CAN GET FROM HIM!
You may feel like you love him now, but biplar/manic depression can ruin even a saint. A rollor coaster does not even begin to describe what he will put you through. Speaking from personal experience, and as a psych major.
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I have a friend with BP1. i call & leave messages, and she doesn't return them. so i just let her be until she's ready to call me back. but i would say for your bf, just be there. whenever he's ready. don't push...that might just push him away. let him come to you. i know it's hard...but the payoff in the end will be worth it.
good luck!
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OK - I spent twenty years working with people with BP. They can be REALLY hard going - they have also been some of the nicest people I have known. You need to read up, surf up as much as you can about the condition and maybe join a support network (I don't know if you are UK resident) for Bipolar disorder.
If he needs space during a 'down' let him have it and, as you have done, just let him know you are still there. Please remember that he may behave irrationally and unpredicably, and however much you love him you may have to end the relationship. I have in the past had to give counselling to several mothers, fathers, wives, etc of people with BP who have had to limit their relationship because they found the extremes of behaviour so stressful to cope with. I hope this works out for you and your boyfriend.