Why is it soo much easier being unhappy than it is too be happy??!
Question: i am finding myself getting more and more messerable by the day and i have realised that i am actually bringing it upon myself.
i could be in the most happiest environment and i will be happy too, until i convince myself that i should be unhappy and its gotton so bad now that i feel really guilty to be happy and soon make myself unhappy by thinking really horrible things.. and feeling that i should hurt myself so that i am no longer happy
Just so you know i dont hear voices or see things that arent there.. i just feel guitly if i am happy and i dont know why :(
i dont like feeling unhappy because i am very withdrawn from everyone, which of course makes me feel worse
.. whats wrong with me?
Answers: i am finding myself getting more and more messerable by the day and i have realised that i am actually bringing it upon myself.
i could be in the most happiest environment and i will be happy too, until i convince myself that i should be unhappy and its gotton so bad now that i feel really guilty to be happy and soon make myself unhappy by thinking really horrible things.. and feeling that i should hurt myself so that i am no longer happy
Just so you know i dont hear voices or see things that arent there.. i just feel guitly if i am happy and i dont know why :(
i dont like feeling unhappy because i am very withdrawn from everyone, which of course makes me feel worse
.. whats wrong with me?
It is probably because there are so many more negative emotions than positive ones. Of the 6-8 basic emotions known to psychology that all humans are born with only two (happiness and surprise) are positive. Look up "emotions" in a Yahoo! web search for a description of the 6-8 basics and the over 50 learned emotions.Wikipedia has a good summary. You are definitely guilty of negative thinking.
Get a copy of Dr. Norman Vincent Peale's book, "The Power of Positive Thinking", read it and apply it. It is available in public libraries and from Amazon.com for a low price. Negative thinking is the primary cause of depression. If you get into the habit of it you become, "as you are now" unhappy (depressed).
The fact that happiness is an emotion you are born with makes it a desirable natural state of being for humans and all the negative emotions should be seen as there to signal you that your present habits of thinking and believing are unwholesome and you need to change course.
There is treatment for depression but I am not an enthusiastic proponent of medication to relieve it. There is psychotherapy for those who need help changing thinking habits and lifestyle to happier modes. Seek it out if you need help.
Good luck in changing to a positive mode, good mental health, peace and Love!
I feel the exact same way daily.
I don't know if this is helping much but what I'm trying to do is pin point something that might be bothering me. If I can deal with it then and there I do. Having things done makes me feel a little better.
Hope this helps!
It is totally normal. I am a stay at home mom with two children ages 5 and under. What do I have to get down and depressed about, but it happens. I have good surroundings yet I feel down in the dumps too for no real good reason. I thinks it normal and easy to get that way...especially if you have no one around to talk to. People are harder on themselves then anyone else. I would just shake it off and look how lucky you are that you are safe, healthy, and loved. Count your blessing and dont be to hard on yourself.
hi
there must be a reason why you feel guilty for being happy, maybe you need to find out what the reason is. i don't think there is anything major wrong with you, some people just have a tendency to get very down easier than others.
You girls need to cheer up you cannot go through your life like this.
Sounds like the start of depression, are you worrying about something ? or has something happened in your life recently, an accident, death, argument, financial/personal worries...it's got to be something that is bringing these feelings to the surface and making you feel withdrawn, and angry.
Once you can pin-point what it is.. you can start to deal with it, and after a quick check-up from your G.P, a touch of sunshine from the Summer weather we are going to get soon, and maybe a plan for a holiday (to give yourself a focus and something to look forward to).. you'll start feeling a lot better..
It will get easier, just don't let it consume you, fight the cause and heal the problem.
Caramac x
maybe there are things in your life your not happy about,....something which makes you feel guilty whenever your happy??? which is why you might be using unhappiness to withdraw from things or as a way of taking the blaim for something,.....i'm no doctor but have considered seing a psychologist??
some times routine and the monotony of our daily lives can be a downer,....being unhappy allows you to withdraw from daily life and sort of coast through things if you like. you're not alone it happens to everyone at some point,....there's always someone out there with the same problems or worse,....gurenteed,...think of that over 6 billion people??
try something new, a brief holiday, anything to take your mind off things,....hope that helps.
idk but i am also more miserable more often it seems that being unhappy is more common now than ever.
just remember your hurting others around you more than your hurting yourself
feeling guilty about being happy sucks, I know how that feels, a lot could b to do with ur upbringing and ur surroundings since.