If you have had an unhappy childhood, is it healthy of unhealthy to fantasise?!
Question: about the idylic childhood you never had?
Answers: about the idylic childhood you never had?
I think if you had an unhappy childhood it is hard not to fantisise about an alternative, happier, childhood you might have had. However at some point, and it wont be easy to do, but you need to mourn your lost childhood, accept that it is history about which you can do nothing and move forward as an adult. If you have your own children, now or in the future, at least you know what not to do.
That said it is not easy to see your childhood as anything other than stolen from you, or not to wonder how different you might have been had circumstances been better, had you the opportunity to develop and grow up in a healthy and loving environment.
But it is lost to you, I know, I grew up in Satan's personal play pit.
Be safe, be sage
I don't know if it's healthy or not, but I fantasize about the great childhood I should have had.
if It makes you feel good do it but as long as it doesnt bring on bad memories yesterdays History .... tomorrows a mystery....ALL WE HAVE IS TODAY
Pray tell me madam, How does one fantasise about something that one never had?
Keepin a good imagination is always healthy
Hey there's no problem with fantasizing ;O) the answer most psych people will give you about doing anything is that if it doesn't cause harm or interrupt your normal functioning then it's not a problem. As long as you aren't obsessing then I don't see why it's a big deal
Yes yes and yes, always remember your childhood and always try to pick out one or 2 good things about your childhood, next, yes, fantasise about how it could have been and how much more you would have enjoyed it, the crucial factors here are that you don't bare any resentment towards others because of your bad childhood and that you don't feel any jealousy of those who had a good childhood. I had a bad childhood and i carried the 'scars of that into my adult life, with the help of the medical profession i learnt to accept what had happened and i am now a much happier person, i now council others which also helps me. To fantasise about anything is a sign of a healthy, alert mind. Take care and good luck.
i live in my own mind constantly somtimes its brilliant place to be, but some times its horrible. but hay live in fantasy, as reality is shite.
i fantasise about a childhhod i wish i had but realise it can be healthy but can be not healthy depends on the frame of mind im in at the time
I think it's fine. Imo the purpose of a fantasy is to imagine something happy, stimulating or arousing. However, a fantasy is a fantasy and should not be confused with reality. In other words it's cool to have this fantasy of a great past, but just remember the fantasy is not what really happened. Other than that, you are doing what you should be doing, enjoying your fantasys : )
Hi Tink
It would be difficult NOT to fantasize about things so no point in worrying about things in the past .. look forward to the future ...
tgc