Please help I'm desperate!! in uk.?!
Question: my father is 68 yrs old.he is an alcholic,he is drinking a litre and half of whiskey a day and smoking 60 cigs a day, a think he has alchol indused demensia. he is self neglecting and i went to see him the other day and he had set fire to his bed. i dont know what to do next.who do i contact.im scared he is going to set himself and everyone in his block on fire.he s in warden based accomodation,im fuming with this warden.
Answers: my father is 68 yrs old.he is an alcholic,he is drinking a litre and half of whiskey a day and smoking 60 cigs a day, a think he has alchol indused demensia. he is self neglecting and i went to see him the other day and he had set fire to his bed. i dont know what to do next.who do i contact.im scared he is going to set himself and everyone in his block on fire.he s in warden based accomodation,im fuming with this warden.
You could contact:
Social Services
the police
his GP
NHS Direct (0845 4647)
Alternatively you could get him to the nearest A&E department and ask for him to be assessed by the crisis team/mental health team/duty psychiatrist.
If he is in this state then something clearly needs to be done. I think it's more complicated than simply you staying with him/him moving in with you, you need to enlist professional help asap. Best of luck x
Social services will ensure that he gets the attention he needs.x
try social services or his gp
Would imagine social services would deal with your father...rehoming and getting him the care and treatment he needs.
social services, they will assess him and based on what you heve said he sounds like an emergency case as he is a danger to himself and others - good luck x
get in touch with s worker and get him assesed proper and then he will get the propper help he needs
Hi,you could contact his doctor or social services.Good Luck
If your father really is in this state then you NEED to contact social services IMMEDIATELY, they will be able to assess your fathers ability to take care of himself, and establish whether he can stay in sheltered accomodation or whether he needs to go into full residential care. They can also offer support for you as a family member having to deal with an alcoholic parent. I wish you well, hugs xx
.........Take him to a doctor! ........or report the warden to social services / the police / anyone..........
first of all confront the warden, thats just not on. secondly, i come for a family of alcoholic, if i was you i would try and put him into the hospatil, speak to your doctor about signing him in. he can leave then until you sign him out, i've had to do it. sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. i hope it all goes ok for you.
Phone Social Services, there should be a number in your local phone book. They may be able to help, and might be able to get your father some medical attention. It sounds like he could do with some more help.
I am assuming that he has already been placed there by social services as there is a warden in the building?I really don't know what to say to you other than this is a terrible situation and the only way i can think of changing this is a care home i know he won't thank you to start with but is the only way to go can social services re-access his situation?good luck
I suggest you go to Social Services and express your concerns. With warden based accomodation they are not there all the time (well that was what it was like at my nan's) therefore they can not always be aware of what is going on with the residents. I suggest you arrange a meeting with the warden and if he is not willing to meet you can take it further to his/her bosses as they are duty bound to meet with you and express your concerns there.
First you should have a word with the warden. Your dad may not be letting on as to what problems hes having. If the warden is aware and just not doing anything, then get onto the council or housing association.
The help your dad will get depends on how much help he wants. You have to talk to him first really. If he refuses help then theres not much you can do. If you think he is a real danger to himself then the doc might consider sectioning him (for his own good). this is a serious step, but he might get help with is alcoholism/dementia that way. Some docs wont speak to people about other 'patients' but you need to try and let him know how worried you are about your dad. You could also try social services, but Im not sure what practical help they can offer at the moment except maybe a home help to call on him, make sure he eats and so on.
Contact your hospital. He needs to be treated for mental illness and physically, a good doctor will keep him for three hours and have him diagnosed. It's best to know what's wrong, and how to treat it, than to let him slip away.
Here's my advice, get him life insurance and make that he gives you his most valuable stuff through his will. His type of condition can't really be sorted easily, if you want to sort out this condition you should try and restrict his cash so he only has enough to buy food.
The others (except A) have all given you good advice, you need to involve Social Services. Another contact you need to make, to support you, is the branch of Alcoholics Anonymous which helps the relatives of alcoholics (can't remember, but it might be Al-Anon) you should find them in the phone book.
you need to ring social services
first thing tomorrow morning, not only is he a danger to
himself but he's putting the other residents in danger too!
you need to explain your worries for his health and well being
They will visit him the same day, as this sound's quite urgent!
and they will help to make your father better
Good luck to you and your dad
edit: report that warden to your local
councill complaints office
because it sounds like
they're not doing their job properly
why dont u stay with him and keep an eye on him. DUH or get him to come live with you. Either way he cant be left alone.