I'm 14 And Suicidal, Quite A Long Read, Warning For Lazy People?!


Question: Ok, I'm a Lad from England, I'm 14 and I am currently undergoing many Suicidal thoughts and stuff, I am currently Receieving help, But everything still seems to be getting worse.

Recently, I got Drunk, Badly, it was a one night off thing, I am not usually like this, I love people. But, That night, I was taken advantage of, By a Girl, She Literally raped me, I was Drunk she was horny,

She may also be pregnant and that want's me to end my life so much more, This isn't a joke as I am being referred to top Doctors In Great Britain about my Suicidal life but none know about what happened,

If she is Pregnant, I will for sure kill myself,

What do I do?


Answers: Ok, I'm a Lad from England, I'm 14 and I am currently undergoing many Suicidal thoughts and stuff, I am currently Receieving help, But everything still seems to be getting worse.

Recently, I got Drunk, Badly, it was a one night off thing, I am not usually like this, I love people. But, That night, I was taken advantage of, By a Girl, She Literally raped me, I was Drunk she was horny,

She may also be pregnant and that want's me to end my life so much more, This isn't a joke as I am being referred to top Doctors In Great Britain about my Suicidal life but none know about what happened,

If she is Pregnant, I will for sure kill myself,

What do I do?

First of all never give up on youself. No matter how bad it seems, persist with regaining your mental health.

There is no cure for nearly all mental illnesses, but there is excellent help available. It is a bit like diabetes insofar as there is effective treatment and there are effective things that we can do to improve our own mental health.

I wish you all the best for your recovery. Don't worry too much about the possible pregnancy. If she is then that will have to be dealt with. And if she isn't then you can heave a sigh of relief. Either way it is scary but can be dealt with. As regards alcohol, if you are on medication stay away from it because it is also a depressant. Also, alcohol abuse often goes hand in had with mental illness. When the symptoms are severe if can be the only way some people are able to get some relief from the awful thought and feelings. But, it is important to know that the relief is only temporary and alcohol will set you back in the long run.

A very tough first step is to learn what everybody needs to learn regardless of their mental health or illness. That is that not only can we not believe everything that people tell us, but in paticular we should not believe everything we tell ourselves. More often than not our thoughts and emotions are flat wrong. With that in place it is easier to deal with the situation in an objective manner.

Over the last few years something has become very clear. And that is that there are at least three approaches to recovering good mental health:

Psychiatry: to provide diagnosis and medications.

Therapy: to learn to change your negative thinking into realistic thoughts. (This is called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). There are other therapies for specific situations but CBT is fast and effective.

Peer Support: Interacting with other people with a similar illness. This is what is now being recognized as being different but equally as effective as therapy.

So, what you have is no different than any other ailment physical or mental. It is a pain in the rear end to endure, it is very ordinary, and there is great treatment and self-help available.

Just treat it like your physical health. If you were bleeding to death then it would make a lot of sense to call 999 (911 in North America) or to get someone to take you to professional help.

Don't forget, never never give up on yourself. Talk to friends family and don't islolate.

probably not, give yourself a f'n break thats not something to kill yourself over, and i doubt you'd do that.you seem smarter than that.

Firstly pls dont kill yourself i think you should say what happend

well if ur certain tht ur gonna kill ur self if shes pregnant theres not point in asking for help

Well, if this story is true, then you should tell the police, but if you are lying to them, they will prosecute you for lying also. If this girl is underage, then it is a question mark what they will do. If she is an adult, then it is statutory rape, whether you "agreed" to it or not (at least in the U.S).

You need to tell your doctors the full story for one thing and the police if you are telling the truth.

I can see why you're having the thoughts you are. I know its a messed and and very scary situation. While theres not much you can do about the rape situation there are things you can do to help yourself. The key is talking about it and not just to a doctor but finding someone whos been through it. I'll level with you. When I was very young I was at a party got drugged and raped not by one guy but 3. After it happened I was so hurt and confused and felt worthless and disposable. Not too long after I found out I was pregnant and lost my baby. At first the thought of having a baby at such a young age was so hard and scary and I even considered an abortion but before I could act on any of my thoughts I lost the baby and then a whole new range of emotions popped up. I realized that given the choice I would have never had an abortion and that if I could have had my baby I would have. Life is a beautiful thing and having a child makes it even more rewarding. Always remember you're not alone and things will be alright in the end. If she is pregnant and keeps the baby please consider it as a blessing in a very big desguise and try to be there for your child and see it as a child not the product of rape. If you really think about it its not the babies fault it happened its the mothers. I promise that you can get over this and just so you know I'm 19 now have a healthy relationship and beautiful daugther who is 3 months old. I've never been more happy and try to focus on my life as it is now and not the past but it took a lot of time. I'm sorry this happened to you and if you need a friend to talk to please feel free to e-mail me.
Hang in there
Emily C

hey
i understand you may be going though a hard time right now
but i want you to actually think about everyone else that is worst off then you....you have your health, your family and friends think about people that are fighting for there life in disadvantaged countries and people with cancer and now you want to just give your life away.....i may not know you but at this moment in time i consider you selfish

You KNOW what everyone will say . . DON'T DO IT.

And especially DON'T make it into some competition like . . .
"I want to do it and everybody else wants me NOT to - I'll show em" don't think like this.
Tell the people who are helping you EVERYTHING. They can't help you if they don't know the full story. You'll feel better for it. PROMISE
I have had these thoughts before (not as bad as you) and I am ABSO-FREAKING-LUTELY glad that I never did anything about it. And you will be too.

If you feel the world is against you, you can do a lot more about it if you are here.

You must tell someone about the rape, hon. You dont have to handle this alone.Continue with the counseling that your getting. You have your whole life ahead of you, time changes things. Live in the moment, one at a time.My life is totally different than it was 10-15 years ago. I'm at a different place, in time you will be too, hon. Hang in there,if you need a someone to talk to you can find me here ,on YA.

DO NOT KILL YOURSELF. There is nothing that can happen to you that can't be dealt with. Take things one at a time, and just try to do the next right thing. Keep talking to people. Are you on any meds for depression? Some antidepressants can make you feel suicidal when you first start taking them. Hang in there; you have a long life ahead of you and you will be happy that you gave yourself the chance to live it. Good luck.

Oh My God
Don't suicide. I think it's one of the stupid things a man can do. If she raped you, then the cops can take care of that. Well i also think that 14 year olds shouldn't drink. Come on, you're just 14. You can do that later. I'm 14 and i can't believe that the world is moving on so fast.





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