Please help me be serious!?!
Question: I am a happy and friendly person.. well it seems that way.. lately things have been going bad with my father, school, friends and family. Deep down inside im am extremely depressed.. if i tell anyone no one would believe me!!! they would be like yeah watever!!!
ive been having thoughts and now im scared cuz i dont wanna think this way and wanna help change my life and look at positive things but in my grade at school ppl always tell me all the bad things about me that i actually forgot all teh good things about me.. when ppl tell me positive things i dont belive it!! i just cant!!
please some one help me i need it bad.. my best friend is trying to help but she can only do so much ya know... plezz
Answers: I am a happy and friendly person.. well it seems that way.. lately things have been going bad with my father, school, friends and family. Deep down inside im am extremely depressed.. if i tell anyone no one would believe me!!! they would be like yeah watever!!!
ive been having thoughts and now im scared cuz i dont wanna think this way and wanna help change my life and look at positive things but in my grade at school ppl always tell me all the bad things about me that i actually forgot all teh good things about me.. when ppl tell me positive things i dont belive it!! i just cant!!
please some one help me i need it bad.. my best friend is trying to help but she can only do so much ya know... plezz
First, do you know why your depressed? If you do, then focus on changing those things that are making you depressed. Such as, if your home life is bad, because your parents fight..so to resolve that issue, you need to sit both parents down and explain to them how you are feeling. If your having problems at school, because of grades, then you need to get extra help. You don't say why your depressed. Everyone gets depressed at one time in their life or another, but you learn how to cope, deal with what is bad and move on. Sometimes, if you list all the good things in your life, like a pro/con list, it can help you remember what you have to be happy about. Such as, your have a good best friend, who is willing to help you when your down...Feel free to email me if you need to talk... or to vent. I have an Internet friend that I do with... complain to.. I know that if I feel down, and depressed, for what ever reason, that person will listen, not judge, yet give some friendly advice. It's amazing how much that helps.
If all else fail talk to a counselor at school, they can find you help if you feel to overwhelmed.
Maybe you should try to get some sort of counseling. Or talk to your school counseler about things people are saying, they can sometimes help a lot. Remember what people say is just crap, they don't know you. It's okay to be depressed, and if people wouldn't believe you that is just what I mean - they obviously don't know you then. I'd talk to your school counseler or try to get some sort of mental help, just to help you remember all the good things about you and help you cope with having idiots (that's my word to describe 'em) around you.
Good luck.
ps, you should let your best friend know that you are happy she is trying to help and cares that much about you, if you haven't already.
What you need to do is list all the good things about yourself and the bad things. See which of the bad things can be imporved upon and work towards it. Next, remember that everyone has flaws and these flaws help make u who u are. It's not fair for people to judge you when they have flaws too! Also, remember that only God's opinion matters.
Secondly, read books for teens on increasing your self esteem. There's one book called "My Feet Aren't Ugly" (not sure of author) and another called "How to stop Worrying and Start living" By Dale Carnegie. Read them. They do work.
Also, just tell your parents, seriously. They are not going to be like whatever if they love u. Also, if you are serious about htis, you may just break down crying when you tell them something like this that's so painful, which they will definantly take seriously.
Best Wishes
you have to let your parents know your ''inner thoughts''. if you don''t, it will get worse.you can get help now , because you know something''s not right.please go now, get the help you need.it is not anything to be ashamed of.you are precious to god and your family.please lrt me hear from you god bless you .
Hi hon.
Go talk to your school counselor about this, and she/he will be able to help you find a counselor to work with outside of school. Go right away tomorrow, if possible.
Tonight just keep in mind, that just because someone says something bad about you, doesn't mean what they say is true!
You've got a lot going for you -- father, friends, family. That's more than some people have, so I have no doubt you're going to be ok -- that all these people who love YOU will want you to get the help you need, especially your dad.
But the school counselor is the first step to take -- I know because I AM a school counselor!
If you can talk to your school counselor do. If you need to stop being friends with specific people that are negative, do that also.
Make a list of positive affirmations and read them aloud to yourself in the mirror every day.
How to Raise Your Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Brandon
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I DEFINATLY know how you feel. Pray to god and ask him to help you. Counselling does help. DON'T BELIEVE THOSE PEOPLE, they don't know what they are talking about!!!
I would try and talk to your Dad about whats wrong. Fix your relationships at home, and then work from there. Your family is your base, or is supposed to be. Sometimes family's will all live in the same house, and yet they get so wrapped up in their own lives, that they have no idea whats going on in each others lives.
If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents, I'd talk to a councilor, or your favorite teacher. The adults at your school are there to help you learn, and they want you to grow up & become a productive member of our society, just like your parents do. Good news is, they don't have the same emotional attachment to you like your parents, so they are inclinded to make a decison based on reason, instead of "emotion-controled reason," espically when tempers get hot over certin subjects.
Anyway, good luck and I hope that sad happy turns into real happy, real soon.
you just need a little motivation and some good words t ohelp you get up on your feet.