A friend of mine committed suicide last November since then adults around me & m!
Question: been ultra sensitive to our moods. if somebody appears sad or whatever even if its a natrual sadness that everybody gets living life - e.g. you get highs and lows just living day today - they panic. this survivor guilt is so annoying. i get it in the neck just i'm abit low about something.
what can been done to stop people panicing and freaking out after a suicide???
Answers: been ultra sensitive to our moods. if somebody appears sad or whatever even if its a natrual sadness that everybody gets living life - e.g. you get highs and lows just living day today - they panic. this survivor guilt is so annoying. i get it in the neck just i'm abit low about something.
what can been done to stop people panicing and freaking out after a suicide???
realise they are just worried for them, maybe talk to them a bit about your friend so they realise ur not thinking the same as them, tell them how u feel, it will make u and them feel loads better! it might be hard to start this convo but think about it, worth it in the end! x
i think its a hard thing for anyone to go through .. i think maybe you should tell the people who are fussing around you about this to keep to themselves.. because this is a personal thing to you and you need time to grieve in your own time
There isn't much you can do, just assure them, you're just abit upset..
Have a word with your friends about it. One of my friends committed suicide 2 years ago and I feel that if he saw the impact that it had on people who knew him, he would never of done it.
The next time you are down and your friends start panicking, tell them not to worry, as there is no way you would want them to go through that again.
Listen -Don't make it worse by getting het up about parents being a bit over protective in the wake of one of your friends committing suicide, I bet his/her parents are still thinking 'if only I had known' and your parents having the experience of life can relate to them. If anything you should be reassuring your parents that you are not feeling suicidal and maybe support them a bit too.
You need to be there for the sufferers, and be their friend. In times of loss, sticking together helps everything :)
I supect, they are concerned, I heard somewhere that suicide can, have a knock on effect, so they are obviously concerned for all your safety.
Accept the fact they love you in their own way, and are trying to keep an eye on you all, time will probably help.
Its possible you might have had questions, if they werent bothered, as well !
You probably cant stop them loving you, sorry to hear about your mate.
Be glad to be alive, the person(s) who died would want you all to be happy, not to know they are the reason for such unhappiness. This country is big on guilt and attempting to make all of us feel guilty about everything. From being alive and having water we can drink to making us feel guilty because we aren't as badly off as some people in other countries. Lose the guilt, smile and be happy.
its hard for people to let go and a pre judgement is made on your behalf by others maybe saying he is sad leave them alone the best way to deal with it if you can is openly that shows whoever you need it to show you can talk about it and explain what you have posted on here today!