I need advice about something that my sister did.?!
Question: Do I have a right to keep my anorexia a secret from the whole world. I guess by doing this it isn't keeping it a secret but you know what I mean. So, I was anorexic. My sister caught it and so now I eat cuz she watches me and knows when I don't eat and now I get yelled at if I don't eat so now I eat. But tonight when I was visiting her at her job, she works at a gas station, someone came in and she told them about it. To make things worse my boss was there and so now she knows about it. But don't I have a right to keep this just in the family since that's all it really needs to be. I'm so annoyed that she told someone. Please if you can offer me any advice.
Answers: Do I have a right to keep my anorexia a secret from the whole world. I guess by doing this it isn't keeping it a secret but you know what I mean. So, I was anorexic. My sister caught it and so now I eat cuz she watches me and knows when I don't eat and now I get yelled at if I don't eat so now I eat. But tonight when I was visiting her at her job, she works at a gas station, someone came in and she told them about it. To make things worse my boss was there and so now she knows about it. But don't I have a right to keep this just in the family since that's all it really needs to be. I'm so annoyed that she told someone. Please if you can offer me any advice.
you know what, your right, it is your personal business. i don't know how to help! what i would say is try not to react to it. don't even say a word to her. just let it go!!! if you make a big deal out of it she may tell others. try and just ignore her right now. then when you get a chance tell her how much it bothered you that she told someone, and ask her please do not do it again!! that might be all you can do right now! one thing i will say is you don't have to not eat anything at all to stay skinny. you can just eat veggies and fruit. AT least that way you can stay healthy. please try and do that!!! you healthy is all that matters. good luck
Your sister definitely shouldn't be sharing this info with everyone. And you have a right to be angry with her about it. However, I think she is just very concerned and not sure what to do. Anorexia is a serious problem.. you deplete your body of much needed nutrients and it starts to just wither away and not function properly.
You should talk to her about it and tell her your feelings. Express how uncomfortable and embarassed she may have made you feel. And if you really are working on eating now, tell her that you're trying to make improvements but it doesn't help if she's not being supportive. Maybe thank her for her concern and love, but tell her you'd like it much better if she didn't tell people about it right now.
I don't think she had the right to tell anyone outside of your family unless it was to a healtrh proffessional in order to get you some help. Outside of your immediate family, you should be the one to decide who knows or not.
Please talk to your parents and go see your doctor so that you can get some help. Anorexia can be very fatal.
I hope this helps.
I agree that your sister should not have said anything BUT
1) she may think that it would be helpful if others knew so they would help to make sure you stay on track with your eating.
2) maybe the person she said it to has the same problem and she felt that if they knew they were not alone in the struggle then they would not feel so confused about getting help.
I didn't speak about my sister, and I wish I would have because she got very sick and ended up spending a long time in the hospital and we almost lost her.