Asked in the pregnancy section, but no real answers, thought i'd ask here?!
Question: so sitting here in my living room today, crying uncontrollably for no reason, i made a discovery....... i don't have the pregnancy glow, as a matter of fact if i were a color i'd be blue. it has hit me like a ton of bricks i'm depressed, then when i think about it i get more depressed and guilty, because i'm supposed to be happy, foot loose and fancy free- but i'm not. looking back over the past few months (i'm 18 weeks) it seems even more clear to me. i have been absolutely mean and irritable, i cry a lot, i don't care to clean my house or cook- or do much of anything. i haven't talked to any of my friends since Jan! i'm mean to my husband for no reason, even when he hasn't done anything- on top of that he's very helpful! i'm short with my 3 year old. i thought it was cabin fever from the cold weather and hormones, but the weather has warmed up and going out and doing the things i used to love to do don't matter. anyone else feels this way while pregnant or know of someone like that?
Answers: so sitting here in my living room today, crying uncontrollably for no reason, i made a discovery....... i don't have the pregnancy glow, as a matter of fact if i were a color i'd be blue. it has hit me like a ton of bricks i'm depressed, then when i think about it i get more depressed and guilty, because i'm supposed to be happy, foot loose and fancy free- but i'm not. looking back over the past few months (i'm 18 weeks) it seems even more clear to me. i have been absolutely mean and irritable, i cry a lot, i don't care to clean my house or cook- or do much of anything. i haven't talked to any of my friends since Jan! i'm mean to my husband for no reason, even when he hasn't done anything- on top of that he's very helpful! i'm short with my 3 year old. i thought it was cabin fever from the cold weather and hormones, but the weather has warmed up and going out and doing the things i used to love to do don't matter. anyone else feels this way while pregnant or know of someone like that?
You have done the right thing making an appointment with your doctor
I think too many women mistake Depression associated with pregnancy as "normal hormones". However, normal hormones might make you extra irritable, moody, sad, but should not last your entire pregnancy and make you miserable throughout the entire experience!
Don't let anyone tell you that it is wrong to take Anti-depressants while being pregnant because your doctor will put you on a safe medication and.. if you aren't healthy mentally and emotionally then you can't be in the best state of mind to enjoy your new little one when they get here and that isn't fair to you or your child and family. Take care of yourself first because your child's life depends on you :)
Best wishes!
WOW WOW WOW WUBBBZYYYY
NOW THATS A PROBLEM.......
Are you happy about the pregnancy? You are doing the only thing I could suggest - go see your doctor.
yea good goin with the doctor thing.
i had that too after my 2nd child
deeeeeep depression
i got pills and they helped...
good luck babe hope it gets better!
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I don't know. I get really down and depressed and mean sometimes and I have been lately too. I have a lot on my plate right now, so I think that's why. Things weigh on my mind all the time. I'm suffering from depression a little. It could either be that your depressed or it might be a little touch of being bipolar? I don't know, you might want to see a doctor.
Talk with your doctor. It can be a combination of depression and hormones with your pregnancy. I, too, am pregnant and my emotions have been a roller coaster ride. I went past the baby isle a few months back and I just started crying..not out of happiness but because I was scared. But do talk to someone about it.
I was the same way. I suffer from depression so my doctor and I tried to stay on top of it. I really didn't want to take any medications so I went to a lot of counseling to help me sort through my feelings.
Pregnancy is scary, exciting, life changing and the longest 9 months you will ever experience! And the hormones can really, really throw you for a loop.
Talk to your doctor. Your feelings are normal, even though most women who feel that way try to hide it because they are embarassed.
Sorry I can't give you any "facts" about what is going on but every pregnancy is different and some women find there are real connections to how they feel and the sex of the child they are carrying. That is to say it could be hormones. What I hope you will do is have a few sessions with a therapist, I think there are some underlying fears and worries that you may not be aware of on the surface.
Any way, how you are "supposed" to feel has nothing to do with anything. You have these feelings, they are real, you know they are affecting the quality of your marriage, your parenting and your personal life. You need help to get past this bump in the road so don't let someone else tell you it's nothing or you'll get over it. Depression is real and needs to be attended to. You can't take (or I wouldn't take) anti depressant medication while you are pregnant so you need professional support so you can feel normal and happy again.
How was the first trimester? I had the same type of thing in my third pregnancy, but I was also sicker than with my other two (vomitting 8-10 times a day, 3-5 with medication). I just had no energy at all and felt down and depressed. I was wondering things like, "Why did I decide to have another one when my other two are already somewhat self sufficient? Do I really want the late nights, no sleep, constant care? How am I going to take care of all three at once? Can I love them all enough and show them all how much I love them?" Stuff like that. It all began to subside once the vomitting ended (around 18 weeks) and I began to feel better (about 20-22 weeks). Hope that helps, but definitely keep the appt with the dr! God bless and good luck!
It's great you are talking to your doctor. It probably is the hormones. They reek havic on your body. And some women, especially if they have a history of depression, can't handle the increase. The weather probably didn't help. I don't know where you live, but I know here, even though the weather is getting nicer, it's still raining a whole lot. I am dying to go outside and take walks! But it's still a no go.
And just remember, just because you're pregnant, doesn't mean you have to be happy all the time. I can tell you, I'm at 13 weeks and I hate being pregnant. Everyone tells me it gets better, but I am really sick of being sick and having my skin break out and greasy hair and having no appetite and being tired all the time and having every smell trigger a gag reflex, etc., etc. And then there's the stress of work... So don't feel guilty. You have no reason to...pregnancy kind of sucks.
Hang in there! Hopefully, your doctor will be able to help.
do you think that you would be feeling this way if you werent pregnant? pls dont get on drugs. no matter what they say, i personally feel that it is against nature to put in mood altering drugs into your body ...particularly during pregnancy! gosh, that just seems soo risky. i would recommend getting on a swing walker 30 mins a day while you watch your favorite tv show. drink more fluids pls...without enough fluids/water while youre prego can also contribute to the blues. get more restful sleep. youre going to have your hands full after the baby comes, so its really great that your hubby is helping you out now. smile at your hubby and your wee one even if you feel a frown coming on and distract yourself by keeping busy.
i wish you a safe and happy pregnancy. sit in the sun, take your prenatals and youll feel aglow soon enough. is it a boy?
You sound pregnant to me.
It's time to pry yourself out the door of your house each and every day. Yes, this does sound like depression, and yes, this does sound like hormones are increasing your problems.
Make an appointment with yourself to call 1 friend each day.
Take the blood tests at your Dr.'s too. You may well have a nutritional deficiency causing the depression to be taking over.
Yes, this did happen to me. Then, too, I was living in some terrible circumstances - with no solution in sight. I began seeing a counselor - it really helped me to make it through a tough time in my life. Also, having frequent contact with other people in my church was quite helpful. I didn't feel so alone.
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I was high-risk too. Flat on my back for 5 months.
It is really helpful when you have a project to work on with your hands each day. I crocheted a large afgan.
Also, even if confined, try to keep a regular schedule of what you do at certain times of the day.
Having people stop-in just to chat, or help with cooking or cleaning can make a very big difference for you. It's an investment in your family's well being.
Sorry for the extreme mood swings. I have to agree with some of the other people that some of it must be from the hormones. However, since you are high risk, you must be feeling enormous pressure on you even though you essentially have no real control over it.
I know it must be hard to feel this and care for your 3 year old like you used to do.
It is smart to see your doctor. If you are religious (or even if you are not), then consider the idea that if this pregnancy were meant to be, that it will be successful. Some things you cannot control, so you need to relieve the pressure on yourself by letting go of some fear you feel. Only you can do that.
Best of luck to you. I truly hope for the best. I hope your doctor can help you feel better soon.