I think i am becoming severly depressed?!
Question: ever since my ex girlfriend dumped me i havent felt right, it pains me to know she doesnt love me anymore and it just hurts too much, its been ages since she left me and i thought i would be feeling better by now but i am not, i am exhausted thinking about her all the time.
i think i just need to vent more than anything
Answers: ever since my ex girlfriend dumped me i havent felt right, it pains me to know she doesnt love me anymore and it just hurts too much, its been ages since she left me and i thought i would be feeling better by now but i am not, i am exhausted thinking about her all the time.
i think i just need to vent more than anything
It sounds like you were really hurt by this girl. She wasn't very mature about the ending of the relationship...she owed you an explanation, at least. However, since you can't make her give you one, it's going to be up to you to get over this.
1. Try to keep your mind occupied with other things. Thinking about her all the time is not going to help!
2. Get out and meet new people. Being alone after a painful break up is not good either!
Just hang in there...try to accept that it's over and she's not coming back. As painful as that is, it won't help you to hang on to hope. I've been heartbroken before and trust me when I tell you that it doesn't last forever! Just hang in there!
Getting over a broken heart takes time.
Maybe you can vent on some paper to get everything out.
If she didn't give you answers on why she broke up with you maybe you didn't get closure and still have question which makes moving on even harder.
Try to get yourself involved in some activities, join a club, get out there in the world.
Good luck.
You'll get over it soon. Feeling that way after having break-ups with boy/girl friends is normal :)
Hey, I know how you feel. Losing a boy/girl friend is much loike grieving over the death of a loved one. It takes time, but remember to stick by your friends and put yourself out there. You may meet someone special!
Firmly resolve now to stop thinking about her, and use the negative thought reprogramming technique, on page 2, and/or page 2L, at ezy build. below, if you catch yourself backsliding. Make yourself exercise, and go out, even if you don't enjoy it, at first: it will provide one way of stopping you from thinking about your present life situation. Understand that memories fade, with the passing of time, and ask yourself where you will be in 5 years time, and 10. Most people go through similar things, though not to the same extent, and it's common for many relationships to begin, and end, especially when younger. It's a good idea to only emotionally invest in a relationship, according to its length of time, and the degree of commitment from BOTH of the people involved. Express your feelings in a letter, and either post it, unaddressed, or have a ceremony, and burn it in a metal container, and flush the ashes down the toilet, symbolically severing the relationship, which has zero potential for anything , except causing you further distress. Give time a chance to heal, then open yourself to the possibility of a relationship with someone new. ~~~ There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider. With depression, there is a choice of possible treatment types which needs to be made, and you can decide to use either allopathy, (modern Western medicine) with its reliance on antidepressants and therapy, or alternative treatments, which I advise trying first. This is because antidepressants are known to increase the rates of suicide, homicide, and aberrent behavio(u)r, particularly with young people, and often have unwanted side effects, such as sexual dysfunction, and/or weight gain.
Tests have shown that apart from clinical (major) depression, their results were not significantly superior to those taking a placebo (inert, or "sugar pill"). Antidepressants retain a degree of long term effectiveness for only around 30% of people. There is a saying in the mental health field: "If the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail". So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage their large list of patients, and often allocating only 10 minutes to each.
Most of them are only trained to provide antidepressants and referrals for therapy, with those whose depression is resistant to those treatments being advised to have ElectroConvulsive Therapy, (ECT) with its risk of permanent, partial memory loss. Therapy, while often effective at first, becomes "same old, same old" after a while, for many people.
I now advise people to: (1.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, (certified free of mercury) with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their freshly squeezed juice. If vitamin E is used, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it's synthetic, avoid it. (2.) Work up slowly to 30 - 60 minutes of exercise, daily. (3.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain). (4.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2.c, 2.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2.q, 2.o, and section 53, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you. (5.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. (6.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, or a supplement, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55).
If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L). It should be above 32 ng/ml.
Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime. Omega 3 fish oil supplements: EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid (omega 3) ----360 mg.DHA (docosahexaenoic acid (omega 3)-----240 mg
Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant.
(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults... kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions.
They should be certified as being free of mercury, and if containing vitamin E, it should be shown as from a natural source; otherwise it is synthetic: avoid it! Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve.
If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see sections 33 - 34) keeping ECT back, as a last resort.
Oh I know how much all of this hurts...in fact, I doubt that there is a single person out here in yahoo land that doesn't know...I was surprised that more people haven't responded to your question...
The best thing that I could tell you to do for yourself is to go out, get out, and start living again...go hang out with your friends...get a new girlfriend...go bowling...do SOMETHING besides sit around and think about your loss and her...
You've wasted enough of your time...hey, it's her loss, not yours....
It's up to you to get on with it...she probably is by now...you know she's not sitting at home thinking about you...so get out and live again...