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Question: I need some advice on what to do. I can't find anyone who is willing to listen. Its been three years since I graduated college. I am currently working in human resources and am not very happy. I don't know what I want to do, but I know what I do like. I like the arts, the environment, and I'm creative. I have the ability to work alone but I enjoy working in groups. I don't know if I should go back to school or look for another job. I feel like I don't have a way out of my current situation. I hope someone out there can give me some sound advice. Everyone I've spoken to has told me to stay with my current job.


Answers: I need some advice on what to do. I can't find anyone who is willing to listen. Its been three years since I graduated college. I am currently working in human resources and am not very happy. I don't know what I want to do, but I know what I do like. I like the arts, the environment, and I'm creative. I have the ability to work alone but I enjoy working in groups. I don't know if I should go back to school or look for another job. I feel like I don't have a way out of my current situation. I hope someone out there can give me some sound advice. Everyone I've spoken to has told me to stay with my current job.

I would suggest you keep your current job only as an income stream while you are making your move to where you want to be.

What is your current level of involvement with the arts, the environment? If you like in a big town or city, you've got performing and exhibition arts organizations that would probably welcome volunteers, if only as an usher. Definitely applies to groups involved in environmental issues.

The point of getting involved in these groups, apart from letting you see if you really want to work in those realms, is to network. Meet people who are working in the field for money, learn about what they do, impress them with your abilities and enthusiasm, and let them know your desire to work for pay in the field.

Best of luck.

If you could swing it, you should stay with your current job until you find something new or enroll in a class or two that may interest you.

I'm with the first comment...slowly introduce your interests into your life without interrupting the normal flow of things.

I would find another job, while currently at your job. So you can have an easy transition. Also I would go to school for something you enjoy. Life is short. You need to live life to the fullest. Do what makes you happy. Its the key to success and life.

just look for entry level positions with companies / agencies you would be interested in climbing the ladder in. Even if you do HR in one of those places, there will be opportunity to climb up as you get to know the company better.

I was in your situation a year and a half ago. I was a restaurant manager and hated it. I despised having to go to work every day. I finally looked into school and ended up quitting my "cushy" job to be a poor student. It is the best decision I have ever made in my life. Although my lifestyle has changed drastically, I know that my finances only have to suffer for a couple of years and that is worth me being happy for the rest of my working career. I did not think I would be able to do it, but financial aid, motivation to do something that you love, and will to be successful have really made it possible. Good luck!

For now, I would stay with your job until you have paid off your student loans. Or maybe you already have paid them off. The thing is, that once your out of debt, there is nothing holding you back. You can take out a loan or earn the money at the job your at now. Then do whatever makes you happy.
This is my take on life; I can guarantee that you have 1 short at it. I don't know if you have more or not so enjoy it while it lasts. do what you want and be happy. If you go to school and in the end don't like what you are doing, you can go back to do what you're doing now. Good Luck!!!

you could choose to do something including the performing arts;
becoming an artist
becoming an actress
becoming a dancer

just look around or research and see whats right for you ;)

I think you should go for post graduation in the field that u r interested in.

The good thing about life is that it is full of possibilities and surprises. I don't see why you can't have a new start in another field at the age of 30. You have spent a good amount of time to figure out what you don't like/enjoy. It is time for you to start doing something else that will make you happy and passionate. However, do a thorough research so you can prep for the embark on your new career. I personally quit a job that everyone envied 4 years ago. Now i have no regrets of my choice because I am doing what i like and I am loving it. Wish you the best of luck!

Never stay in a job your not happy in! Search around for professional help e.g. specialist agencies and you could get yourself a new career as quick as that!

Don't stay with that job! If you are unhappy, you need to find something that your interested in. Sometimes we do things, because that is what people expect of us. Well, life is too short for us to always be what they want. take a chance. Find out what you really want to do, AND GO FOR IT.

If you can try to stay with you current job... If you have the financial capability than I would say look into taking some classes. Ones that interest you and hopefully you will sooner or later find a passion to either pursue into a career or at least have as a hobby on the side!
Keep the job for now just cause it is something that keeps food on your table and once you figure things out you can take steps to moving towards new and better things.. Just remember that all these transitions take time but at least you won't feel so empty or that something is missing while you are working to find it!

trust your gut gerl... dun let anyone make you lead that something you dun like, never ever let anyone do that.. instead asking them for their support.. if you feel in your gut something you wanna do, then go ahead nobody can stop you.. this world have a part share for you... it doesn't belong to your boss or your friends... it belong to all of us, that mean you are freely to do anything you like.. (the good things of course..) here what i will do, i will continue to work when i find better job straight away change it, i will make sure i spend some time to enjoy myself and i will not take any negative comments... cause to me gerl, i got your back and i will support you any decision you make.... and that is the way you should spend your life..

Is there an Actors Guild in your hometown? Maybe they will be holding auditions sometime soon. Have you ever gone out with your friends for karaoke? Maybe you having singing talent you have never discovered?
Where do you want to go with this? What do you want to do? Do you want it as a hobby or as a lifestyle? There are a lot of ways to go with this, ya know. Have you flipped through the paper or made any phone calls? Would you work as a volunteer?
Have you ever taken a class in acting? If you have, have you been praised for your work? That could help you decide how far you want to go with this.Can you sew and help out with costume design? Can you paint and help out with set decoration?
Are you good with kids? Lots of child actors don't know how to put their pancake makeup on for the stage. You could help out. It would get your foot in the door.
Can you play an instrument? Could you teach someone else? Even being a church choir director would tell you if you want to pursue this more seriously. If you don't make too many changes you would have a better idea of how much time you can budget and make yourself available. Get your foot wet. Try something in your spare time.
If your current job is so oppressing, think about what sets you off. Don't just react and avoid it. What's pushing your button? Is it the repetition? Are you depressed? When did all this happen? Take small steps and think about this. Why should anything make you feel trapped? Blog about it, write it out. Look at it objectively. If you still struggle there are internet support groups you can join, to talk and vent if you have to. Where did all this come from? Something's going on there and you need answers. Don't just act out and react to it. Find your initiative.
You have the choice. But don't be hasty. Calm down and then make your decision. You don't want to change everything and find you do the same thing all over again. We are all of us creatures of habit. Some habits are better than others.
I hope this helps you.





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