HELP! Teen Depression Question?!
Question: Okay, please take this seriously. So, nothings going well in my life. Schools bad, my parents just dont get me, and i just had a really bad break-up.
On top of all that, the only one who helps me through it, my best friend, moved to California 4 monthes ago. And it's seemed to have gotten WORSE!!
She surprised me at my door today but left only a few hours later. Now i feel more depressed than ever!
How do i try to make myself feel better so i dont go deep into depression?!
Answers: Okay, please take this seriously. So, nothings going well in my life. Schools bad, my parents just dont get me, and i just had a really bad break-up.
On top of all that, the only one who helps me through it, my best friend, moved to California 4 monthes ago. And it's seemed to have gotten WORSE!!
She surprised me at my door today but left only a few hours later. Now i feel more depressed than ever!
How do i try to make myself feel better so i dont go deep into depression?!
well, you're doing the right thing by looking for answers and help. there are planty of help lines you can call, and support sites you can look up. don't worry...i know a ton of people who have all of your same problems, and life does get better. Try to find a healthy outlet for your emotions such as a new sport/excercize club, writing, coloring/drawing, anything that makes you feel good about yourself. Trust in yourself and know you are not alone. Keep in touch with your best friend, but don't be afraid to make some new conections, too. If your confidence level goes up, others opinoins of you will too. Don't be afraid to speak your feelings in a way that doesn't hurt other's feelings. Help yourself to a bowl of icecream or something you love and read a good book or watch your favorite movie today. get a good night's rest, so you'll feel better tom.
Well, you could listen to happy music or something.
think positive
Ok, identify your promblems and muster up your light and fight your demons!!! Shine your light into the darkess and prevail against your problems. Join a club, do stuff you like chase your dreams talk to your parents, set ground rules, make an understanding among you guys, hang out.. Dont resort to cutting, just be positive and you will be just fine. Your a beautiful person, SHINE! fight your demons
Buck up little camper!!
you could try finding something in life that makes you happy, like a hobby or something, and just try to do fun things, so ur not always feelin' bad. And try to find some more freinds that u get along with.
you shouldn't be depressed. You should know that in this world everybody is on their own. I felt like that before when I was a teen but now (I'm 21) I learned from my mistakes and realized that some people are just there for a little while. The only people that will really help you in your life is people really close to you (parents, siblings, ect.). During my teen years, I had lots of friends, g/fs, ect but I came to realize that they are only there until they either want something or until they need something (like company). Obviously not all people are like that, some people show who they really are and those are the people who are straight forward, they seem mean up front but they are honest. I think the main idea is to recognizing people, if you can do that, you'll be set. It takes time but it shouldn't make you depressed.
You are in a state of anomie.
But your situation doesn't seem that bad. You don't have any disease, you're not being beated or violated, you don't live in a war-torn country, you have no stalkers, you have a roof over your head and food on your plate, you have education available, you have both parents still married, you have the freedom to date whomever you want, you're still young, and I'm assuming you aren't obese or a pychopath. Not to mention you have free-roam of the internet, which is an infinite source of useful information and ebooks.
There are millions of people who would love to trade places with you, I don't understand why you're depressed. Talk to a shrink if it's that bad. But if you think about it you'll realize it's not that bad.
Lets try to put this into perspective.
1) Your Parents. My guess is that you are similar ages with my daughters. I love them dearly but occasionally I haven't liked them that much.
Teenage years are difficult for a variety of reasons. Your body is going through physiological changes and your brain is trying to catch up, but that unfortunately won't change in time to meet the changes in your body.
I don't mean to be sexist as it also affects boys. My teenage years were not nice.
2)The School situation may be partly jaded by this or there could be other things going on with your peers who will also be going through these changes. At this point in your life seemingly small problems can have a big impact too.
3)Sorry to hear about your breakup. Again, for this read the above para.
4)Your friend having to move to California is a shame but there are also a lot of other changes external to you going on. Life changes - that's a fact. There will be many more changes up ahead for you. Some will be hard to deal with and some will be great for you.
Trust me, in a few years you'll wonder what all the fuss was about.
you know what, i think you're doing well, the best thing you did was to post this question, and just posting this question you're actually releasing your depression. And this is a good thing. you can call your bestfriend and tell him/her that you're depressed i think he/she would understand you, and you know just release your negative feelings, just talk to him/her over the phone and then after you've realesd your negative thoughts you can like, go out and relax and after all of these prepare to resolve things ONE by ONE. you can maybe start with your studies, then with your parents or with your ex-BF. but if all of these doesn't work you might want to ask some help from Him, pray. Take care.
try and find someone, maybe not someone in your school, like try meeting new people from a different town, then express this all to them and see how much better that trust in someone esle helps. Yea life may suck now but it is totally up to you to turn your life around before it gets worse, just get up the courage to totally get out of your comfort zone and do what you know will help you. I dont have a best friend and there are only like 3 people who i can actually trust, everyone else is just a fill in, they don't mean that much to me but amazingly enough the people i'm colse to dont live where i do, we dont share schools and i had to go completely out of my way to find these people. It was hard but it helped. Do the same, find ways to make you happy, go to the ends of the earth to keep happy, and please, what ever you do dont resort to any drastic measures okay?
First, know that feeling depressed is NORMAL. Im sure we have all felt a little depressed at some time in our lives. Its hard when things just arent going your way, and no one understands. Youre not alone - even though it sounds like youre feeling a little lonely.
Its sometimes hard to appreciate the good things that happen. But, please try. Your friend showing up is a GREAT thing... and I'm sure you can still talk to her on the phone or via internet.
It might be helpful if you get involved with somethings that ll get your mind off of whats not going well. Do you like sports? Art? Music?
Plus, it may help you find some new friends and maybe even a new boyfriend/girlfriend! Who knows right?
Its good that youre looking for ways to make yourself feel better, though. I m pretty sure thats the first step. The teen years are some of the hardest - I know first hand! But, theres light at the end of the tunnel. I promise!
you at least recognize the reasons for your depression. that is a good start. first thing you have to do is understand that life is not a bed of roses and yes, sometimes we get hit will a lot at one time. but that does not mean you have to deal with it all at once. the break up....... clear you mind of it, there is someone better out there - School, well at your age school is never good, just do what you can, do your best and know that you have done your best no matter what grade you get. getting a D isn't bad if you tried your best. - parents........Most parents are trying so hard to have a perfect child and protect you from what they know is out there of form making mistakes like they did they forget about the hormones and stress you already have. talk to them CALMLY, see if they will ease off some. it's worth a try - my best friend left me too..... you are lucky that she came to see you, don't dwell on the fact that she is gone. You need to just keep in touch, computers are great!!. Make plans to see each other, even if it is years down the line.
Just take one issue at a time...... focus on what you can do not what you cant do. and like an earlier answer, music is a great healer, so is reading and writing down your feelings.
Being a teenager is like a rollercoaster sometimes, you can have amazing lows, but you will have some of the best times in your life. So while you are at a low at the moment. Just be patiant because i beleive there will be an amazing high coming soon. If your down you can almost certainly only go up. Look forward to and exciting happy future, and mentally prepare yourself. Everything changes. It might seem to you at the moment, that everything will stay this way, for along time. But life is about pushing through this time, and learning from it. Take this challenge on, learn anything you can, and look forward to the next big amazing thing in your life. Even now if you cant see it, there will be something there.
Watch a wikid movie and eat your fav food for now