I have a secret of something that happened to me, dunno what to do.........?!
Question: I have thought about and tried but i can't tell anyone, even my best girlfriends. and im not sure what to do.
its not exactly eating me up inside, but i am finding it hard to sleep and not to think about it at night.
nothing good would come from me telling anyone, it would just bring others down and resurface bad memories for them. I feel like i'll need to share it at some time though. Should i see a shrink?!?!? i may sound crazy here......!
Answers: I have thought about and tried but i can't tell anyone, even my best girlfriends. and im not sure what to do.
its not exactly eating me up inside, but i am finding it hard to sleep and not to think about it at night.
nothing good would come from me telling anyone, it would just bring others down and resurface bad memories for them. I feel like i'll need to share it at some time though. Should i see a shrink?!?!? i may sound crazy here......!
i recently battled the same question. But i knew i had to tell someone. If you dont want to tell a shrink and you want to talk to someone you know find your slosest most mature frriend and kinda give them a warning first. Telling someone did resurface the bad memories for me so brace yourself for that but at the same time it is a relief to tell someone and be able to talk to someone about it
If you are strong enough to go to a shrink i would. I myself am not strong enough to do that but i know if i went to a shrink things would be a lot easier.
i know this might be weird but if you want to talk feel free to email me mkelly1459@aol.com
If you see a counselor or psychologist, they are bound to keep your secrets AND they don't have to know you or anyone involved. If this is something you need to get out so it doesn't eat you up inside, then I suggest you do so. Whether anonymously on here or with a 'shrink'.
I dont know exactly what you are talking about. If whatever happened is a serious as rape or something on the lines of that you should really talk to someone. Even if it is someone you don't even know like a counselor. A lot can go wrong when you bottle things up. The biggest problem is stress...if it is bothering you enough to reach out and ask for help I would really find someone to talk to.
I have an aunt who has post traumatic stress syndrome from being abused when she was younger and she can barely function! She didn't tell anyone until she was 40. I would suggest telling a close girlfriend or finding someone to tell and work it out!
No, your not remotely crazy. Its quite natural to want to talk about something that has upset us and has gone unresolved from the past.
I think seeing a therapist would be good move particularly if you feel you can't talk to any of your close friends.
They will listen to you and help you find resolution for yourself.
You don't have to be crazy to see a therapist just in need of a little quality time with someone who has no axe to grind.
Its interesting to note that even therapist have therapists to help them resolve the issues they come up with in counseling others!
Good luck and I am sure you'll soon feel better about this unwanted secret.
if it helps, you should just say the secret to yourself when you're by yourself or write it down. you should do both because then you're not completley holding on to the secret. i don't think you need to see a therapist, unless you're depressed, anxious, or something that you seriously cannot solve by yourself.. if this problem continues to bug you, however, you should.
yes you should if you think it would help
this might seem wierd but i had this boyfriend and we broke and i really wanted to talk to someone but not my friends and i couldnt tell my family because i wasnt supposed to have a bf so i found a random person on the internet and told them all about it
its nice to have someone who doesnt have a biased opinion and you dont have to worry about what theyre going to think because you dont know them but it feels really good to tell someone and see what they think you can go talk to a shrink if you want to and writing helps too but not as much as another person because they can tell you things that you couldnt see your self and things like that so yeah i hope this helps