My grandfather is dying?!
Question: I really cannot deal with it all. I've already accepted the fact that he is going to pass away soon. He and my grandmother live with my mom and I. It gets really tough, and It's interfering with my studying, and everyday life. I just want to be a normal 15 year old again, and be able to have my mom be there for me at least a little. My moms always doing his things for him and it gets tough for her too. I've suffered through dysthemia (depression) before and i just dont need anymore stress. I even listen to this stupid tape to find quiet and peace. Im crying right now because im so tired of all this that's going on. Whenever i try to explain my mom this she just thinks its a mild problem, and nothing serious. But im seriously sick of it all and don't know how to cope any longer with the struggles in life. This may sound selfish since im basically going me me me. But over the past 5 years it hasnt been about me. Its not attention i want, its strength. How do i regain strength?
Answers: I really cannot deal with it all. I've already accepted the fact that he is going to pass away soon. He and my grandmother live with my mom and I. It gets really tough, and It's interfering with my studying, and everyday life. I just want to be a normal 15 year old again, and be able to have my mom be there for me at least a little. My moms always doing his things for him and it gets tough for her too. I've suffered through dysthemia (depression) before and i just dont need anymore stress. I even listen to this stupid tape to find quiet and peace. Im crying right now because im so tired of all this that's going on. Whenever i try to explain my mom this she just thinks its a mild problem, and nothing serious. But im seriously sick of it all and don't know how to cope any longer with the struggles in life. This may sound selfish since im basically going me me me. But over the past 5 years it hasnt been about me. Its not attention i want, its strength. How do i regain strength?
I totally get what your going through because I'm going through the exact same thing and it sucks it really does but I found the best thing to do is get out with your friends a few times a week thats what is seeming to help me. My moms also starting to make me live down at my grandfathers with her also so just try and get home sometimes for a few hours and stuff like that and it's easier if you just help her aorund the house even though you don't wan tto b/c I don't want to either. I hope I helped!
You're right to care about yourself. You''re with you every moment of the day and you need to worry about you. Predictably there's going to be grieving but you'll move on, I promise. What's wrong isn't biochemical, it's right in front of you and no medication will help. You need to heal and open up to your emotions. Think about your future and who you want to be and think about where you're going next, just worry about what you need to do to function.
When you need venting, try going here if you want, that's what I made it for. http://www.theredcouch.tk As I'm trying to observe people's problems, but you don't have to do that, just a suggestion.
here are a few suggestions: your mom spending time with you doesn't necessarily mean that she should take you to movie or blah blah. you can easily take some of your mom's responsibilities off her shoulder by helping her whatever she is doing in home. You two should do it together and soon you will see that you are enjoying doing it and you are much closer to your mom. as they say, can't fight it? then join it.
you can also channel your energy into sports like running and jogging. it will really make you feel better.
best of luck to you.
i no the feeling my grandpa is dieng from lung cancer and its real hard to cope with life just i just think every 1 will die evnemtually and just never give up theres an part froma song that says " If you're going through hell
Keep on going, don't slow down
If you're scared, don't show it
You might get out
Before the devil even knows you're there" which is really tru and if ur sad just listen to the song its called if your going through hell by rodney atkins'