Rape victims did you ever regain memory?!
Question: long story shortim 16 and i was drugged and raped at a party i completly blacked out dont remeber anything if this happened to you do you ever remeber also did you go to the police . . did they catch him .. how old were you ..who did you tell .. how soon after did you tell them .. anything eles you feel i need to no thanks .. im just trying to get throught this
Answers: long story shortim 16 and i was drugged and raped at a party i completly blacked out dont remeber anything if this happened to you do you ever remeber also did you go to the police . . did they catch him .. how old were you ..who did you tell .. how soon after did you tell them .. anything eles you feel i need to no thanks .. im just trying to get throught this
Muffin,
I don't know if you will ever regain the memories of what happened. I pray you don't. I remember both incidents and wished I could totally forget them.
I didnot go to the authorities either time, whether you do or not is totally a personal decision. My family and fiance knew. Actually it was my younger brother who figured it out. Once he figured things out I painfully told what happenned.
Muffin what you need to know is.......
This was a crime of power, not passion. Rape is not sex. You dear did nothing wrong, you didn't ask for it, you didn't consent. It was merely some animal who was on a power trip. This was done to hurt you.
I was a little older than you when it happenned to me 20 and 23.
I would do as another suggested, that is contact your local rape crisis. I have had a few moments where the incidents came flooding back and created me some grief, it was years later that I went to rape crisis and they were very understanding and explained many things that I wasn't aware of including why this trauma occassionally resurfaced.
I understand about not wanting to talk to your dad about it. My brother told my dad for me. As for your being a virgin, well from where I sit you still are. You didn't freely and lovingly give yourself to someone.
I was 15 when this happened to me, they gave me wine and it had something in it I am not sure. I remember most of it because I wasn't passed out I was just paralysed. I was so embarrased and unhappy for a while, I didn't tell a soul. But because this guy had raped 6 other girls we all got together and took him to court.
He is only in jail for 4 years for 6 different cases of rape (and who knows how many more) We were all under the age of consent when it happened. But you have to understand men DON'T care man are in it for men. Don't trust another one as long as you live!
Most rape victims are traumatised and most develop a phobia for sex and relationship after. And almost all, avoid this topic at all cost.
You are very brave, to want to seek for help by writing. However, I feel that you need a counsellor, more than seeking similiarities for those who may have gone thru what you have been thru, as most likely, no one will share with you on this topic.
I suggest you confide to a GP, what you have gone through. Choose a female GP or Family Physician. Ask for therapy help. This is more appropriate.
Wish I could forget
When you need to talk with another woman, consider calling the Rape / Crisis Hotline.
Be sure that you work with a Counselor / Therapist for a few months. This will make a big difference for you. Sexual abuse does a number on your mind, emotions, ability to trust, and how you view yourself and others. The Counselor can help you straighten these out so you can trust your instincts as to what is safe and what is not.