Im a lazy, waste of space that leeches off my parents. Help?!
Question: I just can seem to find the motivation to do anything. Im 21, graduated high school. Never went to college or even had a job for that matter.
After high school i kinda just sat around surfing the internet, watching movies and basically just becoming a waste of space.
I feel really bad about myself. I know that i should have a job and do something with my life. I just cant seem to do it.
Help me. I need motivation or something.
Answers: I just can seem to find the motivation to do anything. Im 21, graduated high school. Never went to college or even had a job for that matter.
After high school i kinda just sat around surfing the internet, watching movies and basically just becoming a waste of space.
I feel really bad about myself. I know that i should have a job and do something with my life. I just cant seem to do it.
Help me. I need motivation or something.
If your parents would stop giving and push you to get a job or more education then you might get up and try.
Since you know you need a job how about getting one. Motivation should be just knowing you can provide for yourself. Or if you can't seem to get motivated to do that then how about putting the surfing the net to use. Look up some good colleges and universities. Pick one and try to get some scholarships or grants to help pay for it. Hey you could always do classes online to that way still have the surfing the internet.
Motivation is something you have to find for yourself. Your clearly not happy with your current situation so do something about it. Ring a job agency, thats all you really need to do, they'll help you every step of the way.
Make a list of what you want out of life think hard and wright it down. Get out, find some active friends. some people at 21 know what they are going to do with their life, some don't. go running it will clear your head. only you can find your niche in life. Maybe join the military.
You sure are being hard on yourself. Try volunteering at different organizations; from there you may find your niche and decide to pursue a career. If you want to further your education you can do that on the internet in your own time. I'm surprised that your parents aren't pushing you! Just remember though, that we have to start at the bottom and work our way to the top of the corporate ladder; you will feel so much better about yourself when you accomplish a task on your own. Since you surf the net, look up ways on how to interview well and where to start. Good luck!
You're not a monster. Most people have to struggle to make themselves do things they don't want to do.
Make a point of setting goals for yourself, as often as you can.
If you don't feel capable of accomplishing big goals, then start with small ones.
Whenever you find yourself idling, look around for something you can accomplish, and go do it.
Getting things done, even small things, will give you confidence you can use to get more things done.
And don't feel too bad about yourself. You've already realized what the problem is, and what you have to work yourself up to. That's more than some people ever manage.
If you ever want to get laid you will need some money for dinner first, so get a job.
Self awareness is important I think...if you don't know what the problem is you can't do anything about it right...you seem to be aware of where your unhappiness is rooted, that's a blessing if you ask me.
See self esteem/confidence, in section 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and consider volunteering, even from home, at first. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I ..(insert activity here).." Section 47 also refers. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated: there are many options; one is sure to suit you. Practise one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you . Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o at ezy-build also refer. "Even though I sometimes have low self esteem, I deeply and completely accept myself". ~~~
1. Build up your self-esteem. You must take an inventory. What do you want to improve or change about the way you interact with others? Try to make only one change at a time. Always check you progress before making another change.
2. Celebrate your journey, not your destination. Learn to always feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow.
3. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction. Know what you want. Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference.
4. Be proactive. Take the initiative. Be decisive. Let the other person know exactly how he or she can help you. Proactive people tent to be more successful in their career.
5. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important. (You'll be amazed how this works.)
6. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in the eye. Practice both of these. Your handshake should be just right. Not too firm and not too loose. Train yourself to notice something you like or find attractive in the person.
7. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening skills. Learn a way to remember the other person's name. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into the conversation. [ AND MINE: USE THEIR NAME FOR A WHILE, OFTEN, AT FIRST, SO IT HAS A BETTER CHANCE OF MAKING THE TRANSITION FROM SHORT TERM, TO LONG TERM MEMORY. FOR EXAMPLE: "What sort of things are you interested in, Mordecai? I like archery, and train spotting, but am no longer combining the two." next: "I'm from Upper Volta, Mordecai, Where are you from, originally?" READ SECTION 41, AT EZY BUILD, FOR MORE MEMORY TIPS.]
8. Visibly respond to the other person. Smile, nod agreement, and address him or her by name. Apply all you listening skills to visibly respond. The body language is the most important part of a conversation. Practice, practice, practice