Am I too far away from reaching my dreams?!
Question: I am a 15 year old in high school, in my freshman year, and my grades really took a tumble the past semester and following quarter. I used to be an A student in middle school and did relatively well, until I entered high school and my grades dropped down to C's and D's. I like to say it's because I'm distracted about not having any friends and thinking about what people say and what they mean, but I'm not sure if that's the reason or I'm just to afraid to admit high school is too hard for me. I have always been a quieter person, and it's never really bothered me before, but for some reason I think about people all the time and it seems to matter to me more than it ever did before in my life that I don't have enough friends or at least enough close friends to feel stable. Is this a normal problem? How do I get out of it? What should I do? How much of this is just my perception of it and how much of it is reality? Please, any help would be appreciated.
Answers: I am a 15 year old in high school, in my freshman year, and my grades really took a tumble the past semester and following quarter. I used to be an A student in middle school and did relatively well, until I entered high school and my grades dropped down to C's and D's. I like to say it's because I'm distracted about not having any friends and thinking about what people say and what they mean, but I'm not sure if that's the reason or I'm just to afraid to admit high school is too hard for me. I have always been a quieter person, and it's never really bothered me before, but for some reason I think about people all the time and it seems to matter to me more than it ever did before in my life that I don't have enough friends or at least enough close friends to feel stable. Is this a normal problem? How do I get out of it? What should I do? How much of this is just my perception of it and how much of it is reality? Please, any help would be appreciated.
15 is a tough age and there is no reliable definition of what's 'normal' for 15.
First things first - your grades.
Go to your high school counselor or teachers in the classes that you're having problems with - ask if tutoring is available. That may help get you over the rough spots until you can handle the work on your own.
Now - friends
You made friends before, you can make friends now.
Just be yourself and don't over-analyze what other people mean because they usually say what they mean.
If you assume the best about people you meet, you'll occasionally be disappointed.
If you assume the worst about people you meet, you'll never make them your friends and you'll ALWAYS be disappointed.
Friends are worth the risk of the occasional disappointment.
And I'd suggest that you cut yourself some slack as well - First year of high school can be a daunting time - new school, new routine, new people - it can be a little overwhelming.
But you'll get used to it in time. Don't agonize if you stumbl a bit here and there - everybody does.
Good luck.
this is a normal problem....you are not even close to being too far away from reaching your dreams....just be yourself and don't worry about what other people think, I know it's hard but you can do it....my grades dropped when I reached high school as well, I'm a smart guy and could have gotten all A's but I didn't want people to know how smart I really was so I didn't apply myself and now I regret it very much....just be you and don't let anyone change you....if you want to make friends try joining some clubs or participating in sports....good luck and God bless
You are clearly a very bright individual. High school is a tough time for everyone no matter how your classmates may appear to be adjusting. Good friends are very important to some people but not to others. Perhaps as you've grown up you've realized that friends are important to you, and now is a great time to make some. Get involved in activities you honestly like so that you can meet people with similar interests. You'll start to feel happier the more you socialize, and the happier you are the more outgoing you'll be. I know it's all easier said than done but if you really push yourself I'm sure you'll make friends and feel better. It's a lot easier to stay quiet and lonely, but you'll feel a lot worse.
High School can be really new and scary and when you feel like you don't fit in, it can really affect you. But from personal experience I can tell you that the best thing you can do is focus on school because the more confidence you have in yourself the happier you will be and it will amaze you how many people you will attract as friends. [make sure they are good people!]
Everyone wants stability in high school, some people find it by going to parties every friday and some find it by being involved in organizations.
Part of it is your perception and part of it is reality. Find a good balance and go with it, you can do it!
I know a teen that had a similar problem. He had stopped wanting good grades in a way because it made him stand out too much and he felt geeky. He started high school in a new town and didn't know hardly anyone.
His freshman/sophomore years decided to take band. Never had played an instrument before.
It changed his life.
Something about being in band, for him anyway, was like having a family that included lots of friends.
Now he loves being honors again and has friends to support him. He's not the best tenor sax player, but he hangs in there. It's just great being a part of something like that.
Nobody is like you on the face of this planet!! If you do not like yourself why should any one else?
Your homework for LIFE is LOVE yourself more so that you can love others MORE GOLDEN RULE Study as if your future depended on it Fame,fortune,friends and a life time partner demand no less. Good luck