Depression? HELP!!!?!
Question: Okay lately everything has been going so so wrong.
- my best friend got pregnant and i tried to help stop her and i did the best i could.
- i lately lost some friends by standing up to them.
- my boyfriend was in a bad car accident and didn't make it out
- my sister moved across the world
and im sooo depressed and ive gone to counselors and therapists and nothing has worked..should i just give up?
Answers: Okay lately everything has been going so so wrong.
- my best friend got pregnant and i tried to help stop her and i did the best i could.
- i lately lost some friends by standing up to them.
- my boyfriend was in a bad car accident and didn't make it out
- my sister moved across the world
and im sooo depressed and ive gone to counselors and therapists and nothing has worked..should i just give up?
Please don't give up. I'm so sorry about the people in your life. I know how you feel on some level. My friend is pregnant too, even though she told me she wasn't sleeping with her boyfriend. My brother has cancer. I'm so, so sorry about your boyfriend. That's so tragic. I'm sure you miss your sister a lot.
But please continue to give the counselors/therapists a chance. Find something to be thankful for each day, and find something to look forward to in the future. The hurts will heal, in time. I promise. You'll have days when you're just so tired and you don't want to fight anymore, but that's when you need to lean on God. Please don't dismiss it. My God has kept me sane all my life, and He will do the same for you if you let Him. I'll say a prayer for you tonight.
you tried to stop your best friend from getting pregnant?
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anywho.
dont give up.
go talk to your doctor. he'll know what to do.
good luck.
p.s sorry for the first line. not the best of moods.
no you shouldnt give up.and by you listing the things going on in your life you are seeking help.you have alot going on in your life and seem like you need some support.and if those people were your friends they wouldnt have left you
No, don't give up. You are going through grief right now for good reason. It is hard but you will make it through. Keep seeing your counselors, they don't help instantly, it takes time. if you don't like the one you have try another but stick to the same one long enough to work. Talk to a doctor, maybe there are other things you can be doing to help. Depression is hard to get over without help from people who know what they are doing.
THINGS DOES HURT JUST HOLD ON LIFE IS HARD WHEN WE HAVE TO GO THOUGH THINGS IT TAKES TIME FIND GOOD FRIENDS WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU..
There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider. With depression, there is a choice of possible treatment types which needs to be made, and you can decide to use either allopathy, (modern Western medicine) with its reliance on antidepressants and therapy, or alternative treatments, which I advise trying first. This is because antidepressants are known to increase the rates of suicide, homicide, and aberrent behavio(u)r, particularly with young people, and often have unwanted side effects, such as sexual dysfunction, and/or weight gain.
Tests have shown that apart from clinical (major) depression, their results were not significantly superior to those taking a placebo (inert, or "sugar pill"). Antidepressants retain a degree of long term effectiveness for only around 30% of people. There is a saying in the mental health field: "If the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail". So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage their large list of patients, and often allocating only 10 minutes to each.
Most of them are only trained to provide antidepressants and referrals for therapy, with those whose depression is resistant to those treatments being advised to have ElectroConvulsive Therapy, (ECT) with its risk of permanent, partial memory loss. Therapy, while often effective at first, becomes "same old, same old" after a while, for many people.
I now advise people to: (1.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, (certified free of mercury) with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their freshly squeezed juice. If vitamin E is used, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it's synthetic, avoid it. (2.) Work up slowly to 30 - 60 minutes of exercise, daily. (3.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain). (4.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2.c, 2.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2.q, 2.o, and section 53, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you. (5.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. (6.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, or a supplement, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55).
If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L). It should be above 32 ng/ml.
Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime. Omega 3 fish oil supplements: EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid (omega 3) ----360 mg.DHA (docosahexaenoic acid (omega 3)-----240 mg
Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant.
(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults... kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions.
They should be certified as being free of mercury, and if containing vitamin E, it should be shown as from a natural source; otherwise it is synthetic: avoid it! Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve.
If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see sections 33 - 34) keeping ECT back, as a last resort. ~~~~~ For her: http://www.coolnurse.com/hotline.htm ~~~ Let me join with the others, here, in offering condolences for your loss. Go to http://www.mind.org.uk/ and type "grief" in the taskbar, and enter. Call: The Grief Recovery Institute (U.S.A.) 1-800-445-4808, or Hospice (phone book). Email jo@samaritans.org Chatrooms and forums: http://www.chatmag.com/topics/health/gri... and http://talkingminds.15.forumer.com/ and http://messageboards.ivillage.com/ Other websites: http://www.griefnet.org/ and http://www.helpguide.org/ and http://www.mental-health-abc.com/ and http://www.boblivingstone.com/?q=node30 and http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/ Understand that there are often several stages of grief.
The stages are:
Denial: The initial stage: "It can't be happening."
Anger: "Why ME? It's not fair?!" (either referring to God, oneself, or anybody perceived, rightly or wrongly, as "responsible")
Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my son graduate."
Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"
Acceptance: "It's going to be OK."
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