Being in love is only an illusion, a set of mind, a drug,, or, something like a !
Question: it is enjoyable as long it goes well, if you are lucky to never wake up, you stay happy,,, if not, you wake up and realise we are alone deep inside but still ache missing it,,, do you agree ?
Answers: it is enjoyable as long it goes well, if you are lucky to never wake up, you stay happy,,, if not, you wake up and realise we are alone deep inside but still ache missing it,,, do you agree ?
wow thats really nice analogy i like it very much.. and the thing is even tho i ve heard it bfre it does make sense...
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I ve never experienced love.. i have thought that i was in love but then my heart broke so i thought back and i was like love isnt meant to hurt right? So yeh I dont knw what love is... the media doesnt help by hyping it up wih sex and sex and more sex either...
bring back the times of balcony wooing and letter writing and flowers for no random reason.. its not All about sex..
YES ...PART OF IT IS VERY, VERY RIGHT!!
yup.being in love is like a sweet dream.that few moments of passion will indeed fade away once you face up to the realities of life.
everyone will have to wake up from this dream eventually but life is not just all about love.time does heal and gradually you'll find yourself occupied with other more impt.things in life.its all right to have such nice "dreams" in a while but just note that it is only a dream..
To a large extent, falling in love with someone is a choice we make. Let's imagine you met someone you felt chemistry with. You think, gee, maybe they will be THE one. So you get closer to them, flirt, get excited, get intimate, etc. and build a relationship around the feeling.
BUT....
What if you found out they murdered an old lady for her purse. Suddenly you aren't as interested in them anymore. Suddenly you don't see them as long term potential. You don't let love build. You make a decision.
Often we think we are in love, but we only want to BE in love. So we grab at any tiny thing to build a whole world around. We project our dreams of what love should be like, and if that other person plays along, we think we have love. Eventually we "wake up" to see that the person is different than what we projected, that we made ourselves quite a fantasy and the other person didn't live up to it.
That is usually the time when we argue and fight and things get ugly. We blame each other for not being our soul mate. For not living up to what we had in mind.
The ideal way to be in love with someone is to find out who they really are, and if we honestly like them. We must not be motivated by how much money they make, what possessions they own, how they look physically....we must not want to change them. (a big rule there)
If we find that we really feel they add to our life, then we spend more time with them. It's all down to percentages. If the higher percentage of the time we are glad we are together, then the lower percentage of negativity is left alone or worked on.
People should not look to someone else to make them feel good. To make them feel love. We have to feel great all alone first. We have to know ourselves. We have to know what our ways are, if they are changeable, or non-negotiable. When we are confident in our own skin and have become our own best friend (is this good for me or what?) then we have someone of worth to give to someone else.
We have to find out what a relationship really IS...and not put our projections upon it. Otherwise, we do end up waking and will not be happy about it.
I dont know maybe cu im a libra, or what... otherwise i keep asking my self am i in love ??? or how is it to be in love ??
do i love the girl im living with ?? am i a loony or a phony....
OR OR.. is it love not as perfect or might taste in our imagination like what we see in the movies ??
so i think i better find an answer for my self before answering you
but any way... think lucky
good luck