How do i stop my gf and my self from...?!
Question: Me and my gf been together for 2 years now we are both 16 years old..we don't go to school we are not suicidal ...but we always think about it I don't really want to kill my self .. but my gf does cause her family hates her and she thinks its the only way out.. what should i say to her.. i don't want to say the wrong thing to her ? she's also been cutting her self and I been 2..i also worry about her cause i don't want her to cut to deep or anything.. but what should i do.. to help her and my self thanks.
Answers: Me and my gf been together for 2 years now we are both 16 years old..we don't go to school we are not suicidal ...but we always think about it I don't really want to kill my self .. but my gf does cause her family hates her and she thinks its the only way out.. what should i say to her.. i don't want to say the wrong thing to her ? she's also been cutting her self and I been 2..i also worry about her cause i don't want her to cut to deep or anything.. but what should i do.. to help her and my self thanks.
I understand how you feel I really do. You really need to ask yourself why you are doing this to yourself in the first place?!
When I was your age I went through similar circumstances when I left home.I felt as if the world was against me it was hard times as you know yourself.
I myself knew it wasn't normal and I asked myself why my answer was ( Because I have so much pain inside myself,I felt if I cut myself that it would be easier to focus on the physical pain rather then the mental pain)
Some people do it as a cry out for attention to people they don't feel listen to them, others because they have inside emotional problems that they need to work out with proffesional people. Which I decided to do.
When you harm yourself it isn't just harming yourself it hurts every one around and they start to lose respect for you as a person because you lose respect for yourself.
It happened to me. I lost so many friends and now I understand why.
It is because they couldn't see me go through the pain because they loved me and I thought they just hated me in general.
You obviously have that young love that is very hard to deal with I went through that emotional strain myself.
But if you are worried for your safety you might have to seek professional help for you and your girlfriend but this can only be done if YOU WANT TO and your girl friend WANTS TO get better.
You need to convince your girlfriend and yourself that it is a disgusting thing to do and it looks ugly.
Try talk on an emotional level and work the problems that are causing you to do this in the first place.
Ask her what is wrong she may need a deep conversation about how things are going exchange stories of your child hood and express your feelings in another way such as keeping a diary you both can write in and once you have wrote down your problems write down what you would like to do in the future together, Plan a holiday or a night out for tea use each other as a shoulder to cry on rather then cutting yourselves.
If this doesn't seem to work you may have to asses your relationship I know you love her and all but there is limits to love if she cared about your wellbeing she would not want you to follow her foot steps and you wouldn't want her to do the same with you.
You are good people and you deserve to live happy pain free lives and it is hard to control when you are your age I know.
You need to talk to her about her feelings and your feeling need to be expressed another way.
You need to stop doing this to yourself just because you want to understand how each other is feeling inside.
Is that why you are doing it because you want to show each other the pain you are feeling inside and this way seems easier then getting emotional??
If yes try the diary this will bring you closer trust me you need to organize time out by yourself away from your family (and the stresses involved) you are young as I was when I went through the same thing.
You are not messed in the head don't let anyone call you this every one is unique in their own way you are a good person and you deserve better then you are letting your self go through and you obviously no you can do better because you wouldn't have asked this brave question.
I don't know you but I can say I will be proud of you if you can find a different was to express your feelings.
Good luck!!! Keep strong~! :) Be happy I know it is hard in this messed up world. but I did it so I know you can!!!:)
if youre ok in the head then why are you going along with this? maybe she is only doing this stuff because she thinks you like it. talk to her. whatever you do make sure you dont leave her to deal with this alone. if you guys truly like each other then she should be willing to stop. tell her how much you dont like it.
Pray. Then pray some more. Turn your lives to God. He is amazing. He loves you both.
Please go get preoffesional halp and i know what it feels like to want to die everyday of your life and i know how deep it hurts and how it affects you so please go get some help
you are a 'boy' and she is a 'girl'
start acting like a man and be strong for her not join her
thats all im going to say because i dont know your past
tell her you want to see a counsellor or a psycologist and that you would like her to come to see them too. you both need to have some proffessional help. There is nothing wrong with needing help we all do sometimes. tell your parents what is going on or her parents. you need an adult to help. please stop harming yourself
you both need to go to counseling asap ,you don't want to hit the wrong vain and bleed to death either!tell her she is worth living you both need help!good luck to you!
ummm......talk to her tell her ur worried
You should tell her that hurting herself and wanting to kill herself isn't a way out. Life is supposed to be spontanious and hard but there are just some things you have to deal with and hurting yourself isnt the way out. You guys should get help together. Remind her she is loved by you and that is really all that matters.
How do you think she would feel if you did it and she has to go on without you? How would you feel if she did it and you were OK? The thing is it is so selfish, you hurt the other people in your life. I just recently lost my love to either a suicide or an accidental over dose. I am crushed, why did she leave me? How can I speak to her 18 year old daughter? I had so much in her. Her daughter is trying to blame me for her state of mind. I do not think she tried to, I think it was an accident. She was wearing my shirt when they found her. I was the last person that saw her alive. She was beautiful. What a waste of a lovely person. I left her at her house and went to school.
How would you feel after something like that? I am crushed. I do not want to do something like that because it is not fair to anyone. Think of the other people in your life. get some help!!!
get her help!! dont play into to it. that will only make it worse. she is very vurnerable right now, she probably feels like you are all she has, and if you are going along with this she probably thinks this is the way to go but its not so get her help, talk to a school guidence counseler or something. trust me when she snaps out of this she will be fine one day.
hahahahahahaha well let her do it, she wont go through with it but maybe she needs the oppurtunity so she can realize this