Whats wrong with me? PLEAS HELP!!!!?!
Question: SORRY ITS KINDA LONG
1.So i have known this boy my whole life and even though we were young(im 13 now) we like i guess "were going out" in like little kid "going out".btw and like we liked each other for for ever. like about 5 years.I know it sounds stupid but its true. and we broke up about a year ago. and ever scince then,i have like this big hole in my chest.And every time he talks to me,it feels like he is just terring at the sides of it.Then some days he wont talk to me for a while and it feels like the hole is starting to close,then he will talk to me and he just rips it back open. And i think its bc im not over him,but i know i cant have him.(he has a gf and doesent like me anymore).
2.I can feel another hole forming.My best friend is moving,and im starting to feel so alone.and like so unwanted.!!!! and the other day i started hypervenalating(sp?) bc i felt so cold,and alone. ????????
SO like whats wrong with me? how do i get rid of these "holes"...?????
Answers: SORRY ITS KINDA LONG
1.So i have known this boy my whole life and even though we were young(im 13 now) we like i guess "were going out" in like little kid "going out".btw and like we liked each other for for ever. like about 5 years.I know it sounds stupid but its true. and we broke up about a year ago. and ever scince then,i have like this big hole in my chest.And every time he talks to me,it feels like he is just terring at the sides of it.Then some days he wont talk to me for a while and it feels like the hole is starting to close,then he will talk to me and he just rips it back open. And i think its bc im not over him,but i know i cant have him.(he has a gf and doesent like me anymore).
2.I can feel another hole forming.My best friend is moving,and im starting to feel so alone.and like so unwanted.!!!! and the other day i started hypervenalating(sp?) bc i felt so cold,and alone. ????????
SO like whats wrong with me? how do i get rid of these "holes"...?????
You are a loyal, lovely person...who is very sensitive, and you don't throw people away, like some people can do...You are adorable, and it is sad, that you feel so unloved and unwanted...you have to deal with this and these things in life and try not to take it personal...as hard as that might seem....I know that when ever I used to get hurt, I would feel cold too...like a real let down, and shivery and sad...but the Lord doesn't close the door, without opening a window...so keep trying to make lots of friends...there isn't nothing wrong with you, you are a sweetheart
To some people first loves are too much. Move on and enjoy life.
as for your body being cold, it happens. I know alot of girls that are always cold, it could be from low iron, so maybe changing your diet will help.
as for the "Holes" your feeling, thats pretty normal when you lose someone close to you. Everyone says time heals all wounds, but I disagree. the only way to truely heal a "Hole" is to fill it with something else. My advice would be to get a hobby. something you can enjoy doing when your not in school or whatnot. I lost someone very close to me a very long time ago, and I still think about her every day, its normal. you just kinda have to go on, till you find something that fills that part of you.
Go to your doctor and tell her what is going on. You may need some anti-depressants. You may be having panic attacks about being left alone. Go to your doctor and tell her what is going on.
About being cold, you may have low body fat or regular poor circulation that goes with being a girl.
ok so you need to get over this boy!!!
ur too young to be worriing about this stuff yet..
enjoy your childhood for what it is!! not who is in it..
and about your best friend leaving friends come and go all your life you have to deal with it...
and if your feeling cold all the time your blood pressure is down so maybe you need to eat better foods or exercise more and STRESS LESS!!
chill out and best of luck!!!
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I'll answer the easy one first. The coldness might be a vitamin deficiency, which can be fixed by changing your diet or talking to a doctor.
As for the holes, I know this sounds horrible and unhelpful, but middle school is basically designed to rip little holes in you until you're so torn up, high school seems like heaven. It took me a really long time to get over all the crap that happened back then, and everyone feels exactly the same way.
You aren't unwanted. Your friend cannot control what her parents decide to do and probably feels just as unwanted as you do. Talk to her. Talk to anyone who will listen, just start talking before the hyperventilating thing gets worse. If you don't want to talk to anyone, write it all down, just get all those awful feelings out of you in a constructive way.
You're almost out of it, and it can only get better from here my dear.
Hi, I hope you will think about what I say here and just give it a try. I'm pretty old. Old enough to be your grandpa. I will share with you what I told my Granddaughter when she was your age and having a similar experience to yours. She was also heart broken and felt alone when she broke up with her boy friend who started dating her best friend.
I know that your pain and sorrow is real. I can tell from the way that you write.
Here is my suggestion: Talk to your mom and ask her if she would go with you to volunteer to visit some older people in a retirement home. Take a little puppy or kitten with you. You will be amazed at how bright you will make an old persons day by just dropping in and letting them hold or pet your puppy or kitten. You will also be amazed at how much better it makes you feel to make someone Else's day a little brighter and better. I hope you will try. I promise it will help. It helped my Granddaughter immensely.