I have a friend who is INSANELY moody. Any Ideas?!
Question: I have a female friend who has the most insane mood swings. She gets angry for the silliest reasons. She is very dramatic blowing her 'problems' way out of proportion. She's always been like this, but it has gotten way out of control recently. She started using the pill at about the same time it got worse. Her dad also has bipolar. She cries when she cuts her finger (seriously, for freakin ages). She uses anything as an excuse to yell at people!!!! She uses stupid 'female' excuses, BUT as a female myself (like a lot of my friends) sometimes you just have to suck it up!!!
Can't say anything to her cause she's so sensitive. I don't want to yell at her, but sometimes I think maybe I should, as a lot of people get very annoyed at her, but no one ever does because then you'd have to deal with her lengthy reaction. What can I do?
Answers: I have a female friend who has the most insane mood swings. She gets angry for the silliest reasons. She is very dramatic blowing her 'problems' way out of proportion. She's always been like this, but it has gotten way out of control recently. She started using the pill at about the same time it got worse. Her dad also has bipolar. She cries when she cuts her finger (seriously, for freakin ages). She uses anything as an excuse to yell at people!!!! She uses stupid 'female' excuses, BUT as a female myself (like a lot of my friends) sometimes you just have to suck it up!!!
Can't say anything to her cause she's so sensitive. I don't want to yell at her, but sometimes I think maybe I should, as a lot of people get very annoyed at her, but no one ever does because then you'd have to deal with her lengthy reaction. What can I do?
you should definitely confront her and tell her she needs to take life less seriously.
if shes really your friend she'll stick around
but if she tries to give you sh!t about it just keep telling her you meant what you said maybe tell her she's just feeling sorry for herself and needs to suck it up. if it gets really out of hand i would just start ignoring her calls
I have a BF that is the same way. I just leave her alone until she wants to call me.
dump her, life is too short, draggy friends will bring you down, she knows that she can use you and she will as long as you let her....dump her butt now...good luck.
Try to recognize when the situation is ripe for a gripe and then put as much distance as you can between her and you.
Then you should try to find somebody whose temperament is more compatible with yours.
I get like this-
this probably won't help- but
I eat! Not allot- just something that will get me by
Maybe a fabulous smoothie that is packed with vitamins would help. Sometimes- moodiness, is because of lack of nutrition. So you could bring her something like an odwalla when you visit- or naked juice is yummy! She won't think anything of it- just that you brought something yummy! :)
also.. give her chocolate- studies show that dark chocolate releases endorphins!
she has or decided she has problems. Bi polar is a serious illness. She may not have it but she is aware her father does. Not a lot you can do except advise her that she needs to sort it and have herself cheked so she can move on or take some lithium to help her mood swings. You will be her friend by telling her this.
what is with it with people. I've asked questions recently on this topic of "bipolar." I cut my finger once. I was stoned. From a shaving razor. It hurt like a motherFUer. I get angry for silly reasons. Am I bipolar? Supposidly I have anxiety issues.
In any event my point is this. WHO THE HELL CARES. Extremely sensitive people are more in tune to emotions. Is this such a bad thing? Do we need to label it with Bipolar? Or is it simply a situation where you have an individual with the capacity to feel more out of normal situations then most. We as humans seem to have the reasoning to label people that are different as people with problems. Hell.
Ask your friend to join you and both do meditation together. It may calm her eventually enough for you to tell her what her behaviour does to you, her friend. Obviously she needs medical help too.
otherwise be prepared for lots of drama, pain and police action when she really goes off. I have know a few bi-polar and scitzos and simply they are fine when medicated but without it they reak havoc.
Good luck
She's lucky to have you as a friend but you can't help some who's bi-polar. They need therapy and possibly medication which only she or her parents can seek out for her unless she tries to harm herself or others. Sometimes you just have to separate yourself from the person or the situation even though you desperately want to help them. However, this is for your own well being which should come first. Good luck to you and go seek out some positive friendships.
She has something metal illness.
She's getting pilled and plugged and cutting her finger and stays angry for ages about the same time. Hmmm. Her lengthy reactions may just be her long arms reaching out for a friend, you lucky devil. Yelling in public included. She doesn't need meds. She doesn't need the pill. She doesn't need to get pumped by someone who doesn't care about her. She doesn't need a shrink. She needs a friend like you. Remind her she's got one.
My wife has personality disorder, it is so hard she is so moody its crazy, she can go from happy to angryand in between shes very distant she cant come to reality with things and its terrible on the kids, kids are kids and sometime she can just go off and then all of a sudden shes crying she didnt mean it, shes sorry, i hope your friend has insurance because it can be pricey because she needs councling and meds... good luck