How can i get my confidence back?!
Question: Hi, i have a real lack of confidence.... if you are wondering why my dad died in may of last year and i was bullied at school for 3 years then he died the bullying has stopped but i have a very bad lack in confidence and self-esteem, i can't talk to any one i don't know very well because i am afraid that if i say something they will laugh at me and i can't buy anything at the shops if i do i don't talk top anybody because i am very afraid they will laugh at me.
i have those days where i will be ok and happy but no confidence and sad and angry and still with no confidence.
it has been hard for me and my family over the past year to get over the loss of my father but please i am begging any one of you out there please don't laugh at me i am so scared that if i grow up i will not be able to get a good job have children or meet new friends.
please somebody help me find my confidence and self-esteem i don't want to pay for anything, if anyone could help i will be eternally greatful Thanks
Answers: Hi, i have a real lack of confidence.... if you are wondering why my dad died in may of last year and i was bullied at school for 3 years then he died the bullying has stopped but i have a very bad lack in confidence and self-esteem, i can't talk to any one i don't know very well because i am afraid that if i say something they will laugh at me and i can't buy anything at the shops if i do i don't talk top anybody because i am very afraid they will laugh at me.
i have those days where i will be ok and happy but no confidence and sad and angry and still with no confidence.
it has been hard for me and my family over the past year to get over the loss of my father but please i am begging any one of you out there please don't laugh at me i am so scared that if i grow up i will not be able to get a good job have children or meet new friends.
please somebody help me find my confidence and self-esteem i don't want to pay for anything, if anyone could help i will be eternally greatful Thanks
Sorry to hear about your loss, thats a hard situation for anyone to handle. Remember there are plenty of people out there who are lacking in confidence, some are extreme cases and others are not.
Something that will definitely help you with your confidence is by doing a lot of exercise and working out. It might sound stupid but once you start focusing your energy on one thing like working out it will help you to hold your head up high and feel proud that you accomplished something. I wish that at 13 I started working out then because it would of helped with my confidence in my later teen years.
So dont worry you still got plenty of time, if you fix up your body and look fit, the women will be coming to you and asking you out not visa versa.....
Plus to all those who make fun of you will think twice before trying to do it again...
Anyway good luck dude
hold ur gaze with people dont back down get into sports and get a gf thatll help ur confidence
if there is a sport u ar good at i would seriously consider playing it for a team and winning some games.
Guy 08:You've gone through some tough times and really had a load of reversals. Are you at all religious?I would suggest that even if you aren't you can go to any church of any denomination of your choice and ask to speak to the minister, priest, whatever
and pour out your heart, tell him exactly what you wrote here.
They have seen it all and have heard it all and would be very sincere with you and give you the best possible solution to your qualms. Don't wait, do it as soon as possible, you have had enough pain in your life and should take care of it.
You might have some social anxiety, that is where you feel nervous around the public- you wonder what they are thinking of you, are they going to laugh at you, etc. Look at yourself in the mirror- what do you see? A good person who is/has been going through one of lifes hardest struggles right? Remember those people "who might laugh at you" have had some hard times in their life too. The most important thing is not to let others make you feel less than what you really are. You are a wonderful person who is loved by the man who is now with God. I do know there are support groups out there, maybe if you talk to others who are going through the same thing it would make you feel better. I wish you the best and God bless you :)
believe in yourself and in GOD.
dont worry about girls you are only 13 and should concentrate on your studies and getting a good job that will boost your confidance and a hardworking man is always wanted by a girl.
Self confidance never came to anyone on a plate self confidance comes by trying.
You have been through alot in the last year and have you really spoken to anyone about it, call a helpline which is free and it will make you feel better to offload.
Try to be kind to yourself and say nice things to yourself you are a worthwhile and important person.
Ignore negative people and dont take what they say as truth, dont take it personally they are probably like it to others. Bullies have something wrong with them and not happy and need to put others down to make themselves feel powerful.
Get rid of any bitterness and work on improving your self esteem get good results at school and your great and look on the web on self confidance and self esttem their is the association for low self esteem you can overcome this. lookathe triggers as well what happens when your cofidance is down and what makes you feel good.
Firstly, sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. I cant imagine anything worse then losing someone so close to you! it must be so hard sweetie.
I never used to have any confidance in my self, infact i am still not the most confidant of people, but over this year i have gained in my confidance by doing a few things such as...
- making new friends, dont be afraid to start a convosation with people.. this way you will come across as nice and friendly and they will NOT laugh at you im sure :)
- although you may not be confidant, fake it! dare your self a little. Ask your self What would you do if you were confidant.. the just go ahead and do it with out thinking about it
- Ask questions and answer them. In class put your hand up if you know the answer.. i know it may seem silly and kinda pointless but by doing this more people notice you and may want to get to know you better
- Be positive. Never be negitive. Always look on the bright side of life, if you think your good at something then admit it :D
i highly doubt your going to have a horrid future! just stay confidant and positive
good luck xxx
my friend dont worry about that study lots of books do keep idle
forget about friends
books will guide u never think in a negative way
positive attitude is the best medicine
even i had the same prblem so dont worry too much
nothing is permanant in this world except change so bee cooolllll