PLEASE HELP!!i think my carer is coming on to me??!
Question: im 53 female and have a few illnesses. i need to have carers and nurses coming to my house daily. there is one lady that comes in the mornings to me but she is acting really awful. she sits on the edge of my bed and stares at me and the last few mornings after she goes i have been noticing underwear that i have hung up does be crumpled and thrown on the floor. do u think she is coming on to me?? please help. and what should i do about it if she is?? its really worrying me. she also roots out and feels my dirty laundry.
Answers: im 53 female and have a few illnesses. i need to have carers and nurses coming to my house daily. there is one lady that comes in the mornings to me but she is acting really awful. she sits on the edge of my bed and stares at me and the last few mornings after she goes i have been noticing underwear that i have hung up does be crumpled and thrown on the floor. do u think she is coming on to me?? please help. and what should i do about it if she is?? its really worrying me. she also roots out and feels my dirty laundry.
1- when she sits on the bed, tell her "l really don't like anyone sitting on my bed. Please don't do it." in a calm voice,
Keep repeating until there is no more need.
2- when she stares at you say, "l feel uncomfortable when people stare at me. Please don't do it" in a calm voice.
Keep on repeating until there is no more need.
3- About the underwear say "l don't know how my underwear gets on the floor but l don't like it. Would you please check it for me. If it is on the floor please pick it up for me and put it back on the _____ ."in a calm voice. And don't forget to say "thank you"
Keep on repeating until there is no more need.
DO NOT get into an argument, just be a broken record, it works- if you argue you lose and she won't listen to you at all.
Best would be to call the agency that sends her and say
"l don't like this nurse, she makes me feel uncomfortable. Please assign someone else," in a calm voice.
If they ask what's wrong- and they will- best to say "I just don't like her manner, it's a personality thing. Please assign someone else" in a calm voice,
Call every day, then twce every day and repeat the same thing until there is no more need.
DO NOT tell them any more than that because they won't believe you and you'll never be rid of her.
l don't want to say "Good Luck" to you because it isn't about luck. l have given you a TECHNIQUE THAT WORKS!!!
just practice saying these very same words in your calm voice, use the same tone as you would use to have your sheet pulled up.
At the worst you can tell your doctor that she makes you nervous. DO NOT use an angry voice, but not a calm one either. Let him know you're under stress with her because the doctor does not want you to be under stress.
creepy! call the hospital or whoever this lady actually works for and share all your concerns. tell them you feel uncomfortable with her and request some one new. if you are very very uncomfortable, be sure a friend or family member is home with you when she comes over until she is replaced.
I would suggest requesting a different nurse.
Just talk to her supervisor and tell him how you feel.
I would report her behaviour to whoever is in charge, that should NOT be going on, you shouldn't feel uncomfortable like that.
IF this person makes you uncomfortable I would call who ever employs her and ask them to send some one else. Also explain to them what she does that makes you uncomfortable so that they can be come aware of her behavior. You may not be the first person that she's done this with. Some time people assume that people who are at home are lonely and will accept attention from just anyone and if you're single they might assume that it's because you're gay. I would definitely notify the agency that employs her and let them know what's going on.