Is a messy house a sign of unhappiness or depression?!
Question: I am not a lazy person, but for some reason when it comes to housework, i just can't seem to keep up with it, I have 2 boys ages 8 and 3 and my husband, at the time we have no running water, and some of the easiest chores take up a lot of time, we need to drill a new water well, and are trying to save money to do so, in the meantime, i seem to be overwhelmed, and extremely frusterated and short tempered, and this is not like me at all, I feel my attitude it taking it's toll on my family, i try to go on walks and do things to clear my head, but i can't seem to shake this off..... My house is always a mess, I do what i really need to do, and that's about it.... i don't understand why i'm like this and it is making me crazy!! anyone ever felt this way too?? or am i just a slob and refuse to admit it?
Answers: I am not a lazy person, but for some reason when it comes to housework, i just can't seem to keep up with it, I have 2 boys ages 8 and 3 and my husband, at the time we have no running water, and some of the easiest chores take up a lot of time, we need to drill a new water well, and are trying to save money to do so, in the meantime, i seem to be overwhelmed, and extremely frusterated and short tempered, and this is not like me at all, I feel my attitude it taking it's toll on my family, i try to go on walks and do things to clear my head, but i can't seem to shake this off..... My house is always a mess, I do what i really need to do, and that's about it.... i don't understand why i'm like this and it is making me crazy!! anyone ever felt this way too?? or am i just a slob and refuse to admit it?
NO! You are not lazy, you are just overwhelmed by everything, quite understandably!
Can you make a "game" of carrying water so your little guys can help you ---even a little bucket would help, and they would feel good for helping Mommy!
If you have access to a Sam's Club or Costco you can buy paper plates and cups really cheap, so less dishes to wash! I really feel for you.
It could be a little depression too, I went through the same feelings once and my Doctor put me on Effexor and it REALLY helped. It is pretty expensive tho, unless you have good drug coverage with your health plan.
My house is always a mess too, it's called CHAOS --- "Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome" I would rather play on the computer or read than do housework. Maybe that makes you feel better to know that you are not alone.
Two kids that age are a LOT of work so just love them and your husband and trust that things will get better. You need to take care of YOU so that you can take care of them. If it is a nice sunny day where you are go for a walk, take some deep breaths and have an attitude of gratitude, I can always find someone who has it worse than I do. I don't mean that to sound like a cure all, but it helps me! Take care!
ok, first answer from above doesn't apply at all, i dont' think they even read teh question, lol.
I don't think that you're depressed, i think it's just been a rough time lately, most people with children don't have uber clean houses, so don't worry about it, once the well gets fixed that'll take some of the stress off and you'll get back to normal
Yes it's certainly a sign of depression and fatigue. You need a break for sure!!!
What you need to do is get your 8yo to help out as much as he can and also involve Hubby in the chores. You shouldn't take on that responsibility all by yourself.
You need to talk to a counselor about your feelings. Have a good talk with a good friend, relative or hubby about how you feel and how they can help you.
See if you can get a break away just you and your hubby and look for a sitter for at least 2x's in a month to do the things you like to do.
Wouldn't hurt to get yourself motivated by organizing your life more.
Good luck
If the mess bothers you enough, try setting a timer for 15 minutes and cleaning things up until the timer goes off. 15 minutes isn't so bad, right? If you do that 15 minutes every day, your house will get cleaner.
your probably stressed over the new well...and since you cant really clean your house with no water and its driving you nuts..
relax..take a deep breath...do what you can so the house isn't nasty...nasty and messy are 2 different things..if your overwhelmed get the kids to help....and take it one step at a time..
good luck and God bless.
Sounds like you've just got a TON of stress on you right now. It's easy to get the "don't want to's" when you've got a lot piled on you. However, I do suggest trying to clean up. It's been proven that a cluttered home can add to the stress that you already have. Give it a shot one morning. After the 8 year old is at school & the little guy is napping. Just do what you can in the time that you have. You may be surprised that a clutter-free home wil help ease some of your stress.
I am really sorry that you are having such a rough time right now. My wife gets the same way at times and what she does is take my daughter and go to her best friends house for a couple of days and leaves me and my boys to fend for ourselves. This lets her talk to her friend and let it all out and makes us men of the house see that she is really stressed out without taking a toll on the family. When this happens I get on to my boys and we do some cleaning of our own (of course it is nothing like my wife does). When she comes back she is fully rested both in mind and in body. And when she sees that we tried to help out by doing some cleaning it makes her feel even better because we noticed. I don't know if you will be able to do what she does, but maybe even calling a friend and unloading may help. Good Luck...
it could be sign of bad maid
when i was lilttle my mom missed and hired a lazy maid
she got fired