How do i handle rejection and being rejected- iam looking for serious answers?!
Question: iam paranoid & personally feel people have been told not to get involved with me and that the few internet friends ive made have been influenced not to talk or get involved with me anymore because they have just stopped talking to me all of a sudden dont email or answer my questions anymore ( this site & myspace & messenger )
ive had the internet since 2005 and i feel its a godsend because i feel its put me intouch with the outside world. ( even though its only a dusty old desktop computer )
i own no other possessions except a few books.
people on here o this site have offered for me to email them, befriend me, theres a girl whos messaged me from my space that ive not responded to......theres another girl from myspace who i added to my msn thats emailed me- but iam afraid they will reject me once they get to know me..
every friendship ive tried to make in my life, every relationship every person has always rejected me.
ive always had a very low self esteem, always been clingy and unsure of myself....struggle to make and maintain conversation....am very insecure and very unconfident...needy. etc.
i think people in the past have detected these vibes and thats why theyve rejected me.
ive never built up any relationships in life ever and im afraid the people on the internet will get to know the same things
Answers: iam paranoid & personally feel people have been told not to get involved with me and that the few internet friends ive made have been influenced not to talk or get involved with me anymore because they have just stopped talking to me all of a sudden dont email or answer my questions anymore ( this site & myspace & messenger )
ive had the internet since 2005 and i feel its a godsend because i feel its put me intouch with the outside world. ( even though its only a dusty old desktop computer )
i own no other possessions except a few books.
people on here o this site have offered for me to email them, befriend me, theres a girl whos messaged me from my space that ive not responded to......theres another girl from myspace who i added to my msn thats emailed me- but iam afraid they will reject me once they get to know me..
every friendship ive tried to make in my life, every relationship every person has always rejected me.
ive always had a very low self esteem, always been clingy and unsure of myself....struggle to make and maintain conversation....am very insecure and very unconfident...needy. etc.
i think people in the past have detected these vibes and thats why theyve rejected me.
ive never built up any relationships in life ever and im afraid the people on the internet will get to know the same things
Hello my dear, I was sad to read your question but you've taken a good first step by asking for help :)
I will start by telling you that although you are an unconfident person, I believe that using the internet to reach out to people does not work, as you are not talking to the real person; just what they type, and what they want you to hear.
Real life friendships are much more fulfilling, and these people get the know the REAL you.
You are bright, honest, sensitive and seem like a caring gentleman.
Join a group, try getting a new job, even if it is just working at a shop, and do your very best to keep making an effort to these people - always always remember that YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE!!
I honestly believe that you have not met the right people yet, 30 is young, nothing is ever too late, and people can be amazing :)
Good luck my dear :)
Well, basically, you sound pathetic. Thirty and no job? What will you do when your old computer takes a nose dive? It does not sound as if you are capable of taking care of your self...your description screams "institutional man". How long have you spent "inside'? Try working instead of stealing. You'd be amazed at the feeling of satisfaction one gets from buying something nice with money they worked hard for!!!
That is a sad story. The best thing to do right now is to try to stay confident. I bet you have good talents. Also, try to make friends! Friends can help you out in EVERY way possible. If the person doesn't like you, so what, theres tons of other people. Just stay confident and happy. It will work out. :D
OMG you remind me of myself.I'm only !8 ,but lets just say i believe i know how you feel.I think you just have to push yourself.Believe that someone is out theire for you and will not reject you.There are very cruel people in this world,but in a world full of hate ther are some that bring peace.I have been in a couple situations recently when girls wanted me to call them and i was scared as i don't know what(of rejection) but i pushed myself ,and you have to do the same.You have had a hard life and you deserve a break and deserve someone special in it.Message those people back on myspace.Not everyone is out to get you and reject you.Also talk to a therapist or call a hot line to get help.
Well first of all the way u veiw urself helps alot on the way the world veiws u.Have u ever heard the phrase act like a king if u expect to be treated like one.Well its true for the most part insecurity is very unattractive in any person and selfconfidence is the exact opposite.One of ur major problems is careing about what others think of u.They dont like u so what,they reject u thats there bad!Thats the way i veiw it.Try geting inshape and find a job.It cud be at a burger joint,its better than nothing and as for ur life problems they can do 1 of 2 things bring u dwn or make u stronger.It seems to me uve let them bring u dwn.But theres only so much advice i cud give in these answere so i advise u c a shrink.And remember this its 1 of my personal favorite sayings{The worst destructive traits one can have in life is blame and self pitty}.Now mature a little and do something with ur self!
You are always asking this same question on here. i think you are afraid to need others right now. I think you are afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Try to get a therapist with experience in this, asap, you really need that to move along with your trust issue you have here.
Good luck, you can do it.
I do know of one therapist, a doctor Sephabodi, not sure if he's still here in Michigan or Calfiornia though.