I saw a bunch of cuts on my friens arm and i think she is cutting herself.What s!
Question: She has been really depressed lately and we had a 2 hour conversation on how she would commit suicide if she did it.When i asked her if she was cutting she told me that her cat had done it,but there were alot of cuts all over and im positive it wasnt her cat.She won't talk to me about how she is feeling or if she is sad and im so scared she is gonna kill herself.
Answers: She has been really depressed lately and we had a 2 hour conversation on how she would commit suicide if she did it.When i asked her if she was cutting she told me that her cat had done it,but there were alot of cuts all over and im positive it wasnt her cat.She won't talk to me about how she is feeling or if she is sad and im so scared she is gonna kill herself.
i used to be a cutter and yeah cats get all the blame... most likely she is doing it to keep from killing herself... its a way to stay alive... its unhealty and if she continues she will cross the same path i did... which is an accident of cutting too deep....its a secret ... alot do it because its a way of gaining bak control they feel they have lost... u need to explain to her that u know she is doing it and u just wanna be there for her.. her fear probly includes ppl trying to make her quit... u wont make a cutter quit ull make them hide it better... explain how u dont look down on her for it and u understand its her way of coping and u just wanna be there for her and she may possibly come around... i cut for 11 years... and have been free of it for 1 1/2 years now... if u need anything IM me or email me under this yahoo name
talk to her, tell her you're there for her if she needs help.
chances are stuff is going on at home.
invite her round your place for a girly night in and tell her how much you care.
i think u shud try to spend some time alone wid n do things that she likes take her for a comedy movie or go hav a crazy time by playing pranks on ur frd... do something that wud make her smile n laugh...wenever she gets depressed jus hold her hand n say m always der for u!! it wud lighten her heart n make her feel good... n ya always try to divert her mind frm suicide n tell her what will i do if ur gone... make her think that u care alot about her... or possible stop asking her what happened to her hand u know she did it.. so jus shut up n see to dat she dosnt repeats it... if she has done it again tell her its not a good way to remove ur sadness... always b der wen she needs u. thats all i can say. if needed more advice plz tell me wud love to help
If your friend is an adult, then suggest she seek help from a psychiatrist or a therapist. If she is a minor, then the family should be informed. You're a good friend to be on the lookout for her but she needs professional help.
My friend was more or less like that and enventually she told me. But yeah comfort her and tell her that no matter what happens you'll always be there for her.
The worst thing you could do would be to say I know you're self harming and if you don't stop I'll never be your friend again!! So yeah just talk to her. You dont neccesarily need to concentrate just on the fact she may self harm, be normal around her, make her believe that you won't judge her any differently if she does or doesn't.
Some people won't tell their friends how they're feeling because they may feel stupid or weird when they say it, or afraid of what the friend would say/do. Sometimes telling other people how you're feeling, especially if it's sensitive, or trusting them with your secrets helps them to build trust in you. Keep talking to her about normal stuff and occasionally be sensitive and share things with her.
If she really is cutting herself she probably has some kind of problem whether at home or school, but I'm sure it would be very hard to tell someone. Try and put yourself in her shoes and don't force her to tell you the truth, it's the last thing she needs.
Just be a good friend and be there for her no matter what.
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You don't mention your age, but if you are under 18 you need to tell someone else about this because you cannot carry this responsibility alone. Tell your friend you really care about her, you think she needs help and you're going to speak to someone if she doesn't and then approach a teacher, school counsellor or whoever you feel most at ease with. Best wishes