Please help me control this!!!! what do i do!?!?!
Question: i had a bad week. i quit my job and im just so fed up with everyone and everything. i thought ripping my apron off and walking out would feel amazing. but instead i feel angry. my boss mentally abused me. i feel like i was his punching bag. the best part is there was no reason for what he said. i did whatever he asked me to plus more. but he kept talking to me like i was a child. i would need off and he gave me hell for it. even when i was sick! the past couple of days i've felt so angry. i came home and told my mom what happened. she was cool at first then started yelling at me! which made everything 4000 times worse! then the next day i felt sick. i couldn't calm down and i was so upset and tired. she jumped all over me. so i snapped. i threw the remote to the tv on the table and screamed to the point it hurt so bad...i said STOP IT! STOP IT! i couldn't take it. nobody helps at all. anyway i made food..it didn't cook right. i got so pissed i wanted to punch a hole in the wall!
Answers: i had a bad week. i quit my job and im just so fed up with everyone and everything. i thought ripping my apron off and walking out would feel amazing. but instead i feel angry. my boss mentally abused me. i feel like i was his punching bag. the best part is there was no reason for what he said. i did whatever he asked me to plus more. but he kept talking to me like i was a child. i would need off and he gave me hell for it. even when i was sick! the past couple of days i've felt so angry. i came home and told my mom what happened. she was cool at first then started yelling at me! which made everything 4000 times worse! then the next day i felt sick. i couldn't calm down and i was so upset and tired. she jumped all over me. so i snapped. i threw the remote to the tv on the table and screamed to the point it hurt so bad...i said STOP IT! STOP IT! i couldn't take it. nobody helps at all. anyway i made food..it didn't cook right. i got so pissed i wanted to punch a hole in the wall!
This sort of thing tends to happen to a lot of us. Not with the psycho boss, but there are times in everyone's life where they are just fed up. I would say the most important thing is to not let it get to you. People are fickle and stupid really, and what they do or say is really insignificant in the long run. Your former boss's time will come around eventually, and when that happens they'll wish they weren't such an asshole. Probably by then it will be too late and they'll spend the rest of their life in misery and shame.
The real sad thing is that your mom chose to get on your case as well. She should be supportive of your decision, and even stand up for you if you were going through verbal and mental abuse at work.
I'm sorry, but times can be tough, and the best thing you can do is put the whole thing behind you. There are places you can go, and things you can do, but quite honestly I would just tell your boss to go F*CK themselves and then move on with your life. I'm sure you're too great of a person, and you don't want the whole deal to be dragged out longer than it needs to be. You can always find another job, and there are plenty out there where you won't undergo the same sort of bullsh*t.
If you ever need to talk feel free to drop me an email from the address on my profile page, or to add me to messenger if you have it (also on my profile page). I'll help the best I can.
-Jared
Dude we all blow up sometimes. I know I do. I've punched refrigerators and left dents in them, I've broken mirrors... haha stupid things...but when you look back you realize its ok to blow off some steam...better than punching old people whch was my last habit hahaha j/k
easy way to fix this. kill him.
sounds like you need a vacation
It's been 12 years for me and my anger has not faded one bit. You learn o live with it. Even though at times it acts and feels like a seperate entity living within you. I would like to say it gets easier but it doesn't. It gets much much harder to control and cope with. Right now your mind is developing an addiction to the power that anger and rage offers. You may disregard this answer but you need to try now to nip it. Your mind really will become addicted to it and the bad part is it's done on a subconscious level. You wont even notice it happen untill years from now every time junk gets rough youll get angry to make things change. I really wish you the best bro.
first calm down ,next report him to the Labor board in your area,next go and file for unemployment they will have all the hours you worked no matter what you idiot ex boss says, people like that thrive on making victims of people like you who just want to work and work hard, he will be dealt with by the Labor board who is really gung ho on dealing with his kind, these people don't mess around and are not easily fooled,you will be fine ,you are in a stess stream and you will be pulled along until you do something positive(reporting him) when you do that you will have stepped up and out of how you are feeling and vent away,your feelings are very important and employers dream of finding people like you , so collect unemployment for a few months ,take up golf and release that pent up anger with strong wild swings of a golf club, you will be fine ,also buy some balloons and with a black marker write the names and situations that are making you mad then place them on the floor and stomp them until they pop, this will help you, good luck stay blessed
Part of why you are angry is that you have been pushed around by this boss. You put up with it and you reached a saturation point. BREAKING POINT. You get critisized by your mom---more saturation.
You mentioned you were sick. Humans are vulnerable when they are sick. Your boss sounds like a real vampire, someone who loves to kick a guy when he is down.
I have raged for yrs. I've kicked walls (hurt my foot) punched walls (hurt my hand) broken dishes (I have to clean it up)
It sucks--my heart goes out to you.
The cure is talking talking and more talking.
You find someone to talk to. It's a sign of intelligence, not weakness. Also, the human animal is super complex and the more you can understand about yourself the better. Hell, most people know more about their cars than they do about themselves.
So ---a therapist is the person you talk to. You do this because they are safe and they have a commitment to help you. Relatives, girlfriends and bosses don't always.
You are not alone. The reasons people lose their tempers are varied. If you are anything like me, it happens when you are backed into a corner.
It's a great journey. Start it immediately. Talking with someone you can relate to will teach you a lot. It helped me. I don't have to patch my drywall anymore--I quit punching walls. I learned to recognize people who set me off---you can do it too.
Best of luck
Jane
There's nothing wrong with being angry as long as you direct it at the right people. When you sign for welfare complain about him and ask if there's anyone to whom you may report him. In future at any job join a union as soon as possible, if you were in one get in touch with them immediately. You've let him off the hook by walking away (I know from personal experience how hard it is not to do it though.) He was clearly just a bully. If the same happens in future insist on taping every conversation with them or having witnesses they soon leave you alone. As for the rage, get to somewhere with a punchbag, imagine his face on it and pummel it til you feel better.
The guy should not have abused you, if you were not angry you could have done something about it, it sounds like you do have issues but he should not play on that, the guy is obviously an a..sh..le, you can get anger management or go to the doctors who will refer you to a therapist, they just talk with you, and the doctor will sign you off sick so you can get sick pay, your mum is just miffed coz while you were at work that was her free time and you have taken that away from her, not your fault just circumstances, take care.