If you've known someone who committed suicide?!


Question: How did this person act towards the very end? Was it different than usual? I know someone who's talked about dying for years, but still hasn't done anything. We're trying to get him help, but in the meantime - how can I know if he's really close to actually doing it? Thanks.


Answers: How did this person act towards the very end? Was it different than usual? I know someone who's talked about dying for years, but still hasn't done anything. We're trying to get him help, but in the meantime - how can I know if he's really close to actually doing it? Thanks.

Talking About Dying -- any mention of dying, disappearing, jumping, shooting oneself, or other types of self harm.

Recent Loss -- through death, divorce, separation, broken relationship, loss of job, money, status, self-confidence, self-esteem, loss of religious faith, loss of interest in friends, sex, hobbies, activities previously enjoyed

Change in Personality -- sad, withdrawn, irritable, anxious, tired, indecisive, apathetic

Change in Behavior -- can't concentrate on school, work, routine tasks

Change in Sleep Patterns -- insomnia, often with early waking or oversleeping, nightmares

Change in Eating Habits -- loss of appetite and weight, or overeating

Diminished Sexual Interest -- impotence, menstrual abnormalities (often missed periods)

Fear of losing control -- going crazy, harming self or others

Low self esteem -- feeling worthless, shame, overwhelming guilt, self-hatred, "everyone would be better off without me"

No hope for the future -- believing things will never get better; that nothing will ever change

Other things to watch for- Suicidal impulses, statements, plans; giving away favorite things; previous suicide attempts, substance abuse, making out wills, arranging for the care of pets, extravagant spending, agitation, hyperactivity, restlessness or lethargy.

If he's talking about it, he's at risk. Get him help now.

I knew two of them, and both of them acted normal as normal can be, I guess...
1 of them even went over to his brothers house a few hours before he hanged himself and borrowed a pair of shoes to wear to a friends funeral....how ironic.

They were the shoes he wore to his own.

Both of these two never talked about killing themselves. We were in total shock when we found out.

I have a friend who's friend killed herself.She was a 14-year-old girl who killed herself to prove to all people that they dont care about her(or that's what the people who were her friends say).Anyway she didnt tell any1 the day she killed herself but I think she talked about it before.If I was her I would do the same so the only way to safe your friend maybe to keep an eye on him all the time and make him happy and help him see that the world is a nice place and how death really is something final and there's no turning back

Sometimes when they have made the decision to do it they are very calm and happy as though they feel better.

I knew someone like that but he locked himself in a garage and turned on the car. They found his body next to the door he locked and you could see where he had clawed at the lock trying to get it open but he had the wrong key in his hand.

He obviously changed his mind. By the way the fumes went directly above the garage to his sisters room and killed her as well.

There was a strange peacefulness about him that was never present before. His once glum attitude was replaced by a smile. I was hopeful that he had came out of that funk. He began to set things in order. I asked a grief counselor and he said that that was a sign that he had made up his mind.

OK. I've known 2 people that have killed themselves. They both were normal at the end. They both didn't leave notes, tell anyone, act different, give away personal items etc etc

When people talk about killing themselves, they usually want attention. I've had 2 really good friends who have taken a lot of pills, had to have their stomachs pumped BUT never intended to kill themselves. They just wanted attention. When someone commits suicide, it isn't a preconceived notion. It's impulse. Something snaps in them, and they just do it. There's a lot of signs of depression and the like. But no one ever can predict when someone will take their own life. One things for sure though. People who are going to kill themselves do it privately, they don't broadcast it, to anyone.

My friend took her life December 20, 2006.

We talked about suicidal feelings and self-harm quite a bit, it did help both of us get through the tough times.

Before she...took her life...she was I guess a bit cheerful. Not overly so to raise concern. She was "normal". I thought she was getting a bit better with her depression (it was a "break" as I call it). We were going places, doing things that were fun. We were both having the best time of our lives...or so I thought. I look back now and realize that she wanted to do things before she died, and leave me with happy memories. I totally missed the little things she said like "well we don't live forever" and "you've only got one shot at life". The signs are so much easier to look back upon and see.

Get your friend help NOW. Tell someone if he starts talking about dying or shows signs that he's thinking about suicide. If you see the signs don't be afraid to ask "are you thinking about suicide?" It doesn't put ideas into his head, it offers a hand and someone to listen to. He'll appreciate it if he is considering suicide.

She was on the phone complaining, crying for forgiveness then got a hateful attitude told her teen daughter, " you don't think I'll do it" then while her daughter was using the bathroom she put a .38 to her temple.
Another man made out his grocery list then shot himself.





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