Doctors, psychologists etc, eating disorders?!
Question: everyone thinks i have an eating disorder and i guess when i think about it logically maybe i do. I barely ever eat and avoid people eat dinner times. My consellor is sure i have one and has begged me to see a doctor many times, but the problem is...
I tried talking to mum about it, and she told me if i went to the doctors they would label me a nutter and it would ruin my future, stop me getting jobs etc.
shortly after this i found out she had aneroxia when she was younger, and it's really upset me because if anyone could understand and try to help surely it would be her? but it's like talking to a brick wall.
could any doctors, psychologists etc tell me what WOULD happen if i went to a doctor, would it affect my futures?
Also i know what triggered my eating disorder but i'm not comfortable with discussing it, so nobody else knows about it.
I'm 15 btw.
Any help would be apreciated thank you x
Answers: everyone thinks i have an eating disorder and i guess when i think about it logically maybe i do. I barely ever eat and avoid people eat dinner times. My consellor is sure i have one and has begged me to see a doctor many times, but the problem is...
I tried talking to mum about it, and she told me if i went to the doctors they would label me a nutter and it would ruin my future, stop me getting jobs etc.
shortly after this i found out she had aneroxia when she was younger, and it's really upset me because if anyone could understand and try to help surely it would be her? but it's like talking to a brick wall.
could any doctors, psychologists etc tell me what WOULD happen if i went to a doctor, would it affect my futures?
Also i know what triggered my eating disorder but i'm not comfortable with discussing it, so nobody else knows about it.
I'm 15 btw.
Any help would be apreciated thank you x
Find someone to talk to about it. Someone you can really trust. And if your disorder is seriously bad (like if you are losing weight rapidly and it is threatening your life) then you really should seek therapy!
Your mom means well, psychiatry is very dangerous for some, and it can ruin your life. But if your life is already threatened, then what is the lesser evil? Ask her what she did to get better, and ask her to help you eat to be healthy.
I don't think that you will be labeled as crazy or not get jobs because of this. It is usually more serious things like scizophrenia and bipolar that can do this. But many people still live healthy and fulfilling lives after being diagnosed with these.
And it is also likely that your mom's behaviours or genes could have influenced you this way as well, so it probably isn't just you!
I think your mom was just labeled and was treated negatively because when she had anorexia was a completely different time from now, and these things were very taboo and hard to get through. This is a more enlightened age and lots of people are experiencing it and coming to terms with it and being open about it. So you will probably have a higher likelihood of finding others who have been through it to talk to, and more updated treatments. So just try to make her realize this.
Tell her that what she experienced was real, just people were in denial back then. Make her see that your eating disorder is very real too, and that you are mature enough to realize that you need help and brave enough to ask for it!
Good luck to you! I know you will get to a healthy and happy place! Just don't give up!
You should go to the doctors they can help you overcome the eating disorder maybe you mum is just afraid of talking about any eating disorder you may have!i dont know much about it really but it is important to have a healthy relationship with food!
good luck!
I am sorry you are going through all this.
I hate to say it but your MOM is the "nutter". Seeing a psychiatrist for an eating disorder will not ruin your future, prevent you from getting jobs, etc. If she views HER life like that, then she didn't have the proper care when she had an eating disorder.
Talk to your counselor again. Tell him/her that you have talked to your mom and she refuses to help you seek any type of treatment. Ask your counselor if there are any free counseling services in your area that you could go to until your mom wises up.
Good luck, hun, and I hope you get everything straightened around soon.
you seem pretty smart.
generally people who have eating disorders cant even admit to it. the deny deny deny.
your mom is in denial, and doesnt want to talk about it, probably because she doesnt want to idea of it affecting you to be true.
since you can pin point some of your problems. change them. eat. and eat things that you love, and cant deny your love for them. this will bring your appetite back. learn to become comfortable with eating with people. you know what you have to fix. change it.
find a friend, or a confidant, you can talk to about all of these things. even your secret that triggered it. for one person to know, it will make a world of a difference.
write your thoughts out. write what you eat each day. and try to meet the standards of a food guide for your weight.
see a nutritionist.
doctors and psycologists in my opinion just throw pills at you. what you need is a friend. and a good meal plan for your body type. set positive goals. and meet them each week.
i understand what its like. i have been accused all my life that i have an eating disorder. i know i dont. because i know what i eat. and how much of it. and i eat well. and sometimes too much :).
as long as you are not purging, binge eating any other symptoms of anorexia or bullimia, you can do it yourself with the help of someone you can trust, who will tell you the honest truth.
If you went to a doctor, they would probably refer you to a health specialist who would help you out with a special diet plan to get you back on track. You may also be referred to a counsellor who you can talk to about the causes of your eating disorder and they will help you to overcome the problems and move on from it. I agree that your mum would be of great support to you as she has gone through the same thing as you but maybe she doesn't feel comfortable about it either and perhaps she could talk to someone too; maybe you could try and go together? As for labelling you a nutter and ruining your future - that is utter nonsense!!! of course it won't; for a start, no employer would ever know your medical background unless you tell them and no doctor would ever label anyone as a nutter - they are there to help!! good luck!
No, going to a doctor or mental health worker will not make you a nut. They're there to help. Your mom might be aware of what's wrong with you and doesn't want to face it. If that's the case it's probably because she had anorexia herself. Not talking to you about your eating problem (and hers) is probably having more of a negative effect on your situation. Whatever issues are causing your eating disorder, you need to tackle them. Not dealing with them will only make things worse for you. Never be afraid or ashamed to seek help. Shop around for a counselor whose methods work for you.
jesus christ ur mom needs to grow up... seeing a doc a lableling u with an eating disorder isnt gonna affect ur job situation or anything... those are closed confidential documents ... ur gonna have to start eating whether u like it or not... society has put it in our heads wat we need to look like back in kings and queens days way way back... being a lil hefty was the in thing... be happy with being u ... u can still look good and eat right... btw eating disorders can kill u... cause ur hair to fall out and alll sorts of unatractive things so i suggest eating a lil more than normal everynight to get over this eating disorder... i had eating disorders a few times through out life... now i cant feel my pinky because i have shocked my nervous system so much from all the crap ive done to my body... i suggest u stop
I am not a doctor or psychologist, but not getting help, may affect your future in a negative way. As long as you're not very underweight, they wont force you to do anything. They will set up a diet plan for you, weight you from time to time to make sure you're weight is on the right way, and maybe take some blood tests and other tests. They will also listen to you, and it is important that you're honest with them, and tell them everything that's on your mind. They may suggest different treatment methods for you, but they wont force you to do anything (unless you're very underweight). Their first priority is to help you, and make you have a healthy relationship to food, without taking any freedom away from you. Their goal is to make you healthy, both in body and mind, so you can have a great future, without concerning about weight and appearance in a way that may hurt you.
It may be hard for your mother to talk about this, if she has bad experiences from different treatment methods. However, the knowledge of eating disorder are constantly developing, and getting help is the best option.
Maybe your mom also needs to express her feelings, taking her with you to a counselor or therapist may be a good option, so both of you can speak out together.
Good luck to both of you, and talk to a doctor as soon as possible